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MasterCaneman -> RE: Low Standards & No Respect For Standards. (4/2/2013 3:43:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lizi
I think the anger and violence that happens with certain people is similar to that of a child who is told they can't have ice cream. These child-like people want something, feel entitled to have it, and then are told they can't have it, which pisses them off.
I also think some men get rejected, a lot, and because they aren't getting anywhere with their goal, they react out of frustration when they are rejected yet again.
I think some men have this idea in their head that because they're on this site with ideas of easy, kinky, sex floating through their minds, that there are equally easy, kinky, women just standing by to hook up with. They're the ones who might not understand that women are here in a lower concentration, and so can be selective in choosing what appeals to them- which is usually a relationship instead of a hookup or online wank.
I think sometimes men take the easy way out. Instead of taking a hard look at themselves, and working at their appearance and/or social skills, they interpret terms like submissive and slave in such a way that they feel this world is the answer for them. When it's not, when women here want the same things as women everywhere want, an attractive, socially adept man, they whine like babies; after all, they already have problems with social things.
I blame porn and the sexual ads here or pics that women post of nudity - men are more visual, they see, they tend to want. I also think that because men have a more simplistic manner of thinking - they're problem solvers - they see a site with naked ladies and it's an instant solution to their problem of wanting naked ladies. Now. When the purty ladies say no, it's a bit of a shock to them. I think it's a bit like a grocery store, you go to the store to buy bread, you have adult content on this site and its like an ad to come get your easy fuck.
I think the subject of BDSM is like a electric wire to the private parts of lots of men, it bypasses their higher thinking powers like sexual things do. When they're given a cock block it's like they feel assaulted themselves, so they hit back with words. It's a more primitive need/reaction on their part to get the hardon in the first place, I think it invokes a primitive reaction in return when they're turned down.
I wonder if sometimes men feel vulnerable when they sally forth with a first move, like a guy asking if a girl wants to dance. When she says no, they feel exposed- like she pushed them, and want to guard themselves by pushing back. They somehow view a rejection as an attempt to be mean on the part of the woman instead of her having a simple right to say no thanks. On that note, some men interpret the words submissive and slave to be literal interpretations. They think they're going to get someone who just accepts them as is with no wants/needs of her own and be ready for instant commanding.
All in all, lots of guys don't think past their initial ticked off reaction of not getting their candy so they want to spew their dissatisfaction all over. If they did, they might see how their reaction isn't acceptable. It's great actually that you get to find out about these guys right from the start and see that they're not what you want, but it can be really hard to wade through that crap in the inbox continually. This is one reason why I have my profile hidden right now.
This. Since I got on CM, every once in a while I turn off my preferences and just go through the profiles, and the number of deluded souls here both saddens and amuses me. Not on the boards, per se, but it was the reason I quit Alt years ago. And lizi, I don't blame you one bit.
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