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what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:24:54 PM   
Im50ShadesOfFun


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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:31:56 PM   
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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:34:12 PM   
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Things that actually matter to you.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:53:52 PM   
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I would make rules that fit with my desired goals and provide them the tools to maximize the potential for successfully reaching those goals.

If I want someone who can cook at the gourmet level, then it would behoove me to send them to culinary school. The rule might be "don't miss your cooking classes'.. the classes are the tool, the goal is good eats.



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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:56:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		What kind of relationship is it? Do you live together? Have you been together for awhile or is this a recently developed situation? What matters to you? What is the submissive interested in?
Without more information about your situation, we have no way of answering your question effectively, or at all in fact.
There are plenty of ideas running around in our varioused experienced deviant minds, but none of them would be relevant to you, or your individual situation unless we know more specifically what you're looking for. If it's wank fodder you're after, this is NOT the place to find it. There is plenty of free porn all over the internet you can look up yourself. But if it's genuine advice, you need to do a little more sharing and not count on us to read your profile (because I'm too lazy to bother) to figure out how to answer you.
Hope that helps, don't be shy ;)

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 1:58:38 PM   
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What kind of relationship is it? Do you live together? Have you been together for awhile or is this a recently developed situation?


They're both 18 years old.


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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 2:14:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the first rule is he should have to wear a pink tutu, a clown nose, and a whoopie cushion (taped to his ass) to church.
*eye roll*

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 2:26:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im50ShadesOfFun I would assume that Fifty Shades of Grey would have advice on that... maybe you should read it.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 4:30:31 PM   
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What things (habits, behaviors, talents and skills) do you want to encourage?
...make rules supporting that.

What things (habits and behaviors) do you want to discourage?
...make rules that outline what you want her to do instead.

Notice: I did not say "make rules that outlaw those things". Positive reinforcements tent to work better.

What type of relationship do you have?
On-line, long distance, local?

What do you want the focus to be: sex, education, bettering herself, service, pleasing your every whim and desire?
What is in it for her?

Rules should not be random, nor should they originate solely from horny-young-guy stuff.
Horny-young-guy stuff can be fun for awhile but to sustain a relationship, you need substance behind it.
Relationships take work.
Relationships involve relating to one another.



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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 5:47:17 PM   
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Why are you looking to others to determine the rules that you (if you are the dominant) should be establishing on your own? It's your relationship, not anyone else's. So the rules should be yours as well

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 6:28:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Being as they're both 18, rules for each:
Clean your room
Call and tell your mother if you will or will not be home for dinner and if you're bringing a guest. She's not a mindreader.
Fill the car with gas after borrowing it, don't leave it on E.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 6:58:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is kind of like asking strangers what rules to give your kids. You have to identify what your objective is, what you wish to create. If you can care less about whether a bed is made or not..it makes no sense to make a rule that your child can't leave his room unless his bed is properly made. So, rather than asking others. I suggest you sit down with pen & paper and think...then list the things that are most important to you...THEN create the rules that will support that goal.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 6:59:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Im50ShadesOfFun

any ideas


Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law.

How's that for a rule?

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/8/2013 10:20:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Im50ShadesOfFun

any ideas


This being the age we live in, the most common rule I've had to issue the assorted subs I've known is that I do NOT like the pre-pubescent look ("down there") on adult women. Maybe that's the attraction for paedophiles, I don't know, but it achieves the opposite for me.

I then get a bit more detailed about growing and shaping/sizing a suitable "landing strip" that's both practical (eg, dragging her up on her toes when I wanna emphasise a point) or otherwise just looks so damned hot and sexy to me.

Next most common is body piercings - they're gone, period! And if she's got tatts, there won't be anymore.

In a nutshell, OP, there's no universal "Idiot's Guide to D/s Rules". They're more about what a particular Dom/me wants/expects of their sub. Can be as simple as "2 sugars and no milk" when making him a cuppa. Me, I'm big on appearance and will have a lot of input on her wardrobe and general grooming and presentation.

I'll add that I also have a particular dislike for being addressed as "Master" in a M/s relationship. I'm always "Sir" (when it's just us) and some have needed a bit of time to acclimatise. Which is ok as long as she's trying...

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/9/2013 1:51:24 AM   
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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/9/2013 12:19:52 PM   
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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/14/2013 1:51:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I may start off by saying, highly dislike your username. Moving on... It's fun to roleplay sure, nothing wrong with that. I encourage you both do it. But if you want to make this more "outside the bedroom" type thing, we are not the ones you should be asking for rules. That is the Dom/Master's responsibility. If you are looking for ideas though, Focus50 made some good points on his rules, I personally like the no further/future tattoos one myself. I like there to be set rules and set punishments if those rules broken or bent. This encourages structure. I also like a reward system as well though. If the sub/slave does good and follows all the rules rewards will be issued.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/14/2013 4:26:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		First lesson, this is a type of relationship you can ask for advice of course but really you need to find out what you want from a relationship and do that. Do not try to copy someone else and what they want to be happy, the best person to advise you on that would be yourself.

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/14/2013 7:11:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like Jeff's rule.

"Obey your Dom."

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RE: what rules to give a slave/sub - 4/14/2013 10:10:42 AM   
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I have an idea. First, the two of you should go to some munches and meet real people and do some reading. Here's an interesting thread to get you started: BDSM Book List.

Actually, it's not our job to give your Dom ideas for rules. That's his job. Not to be snarky, but why are you guys asking us to do his job for him? Maybe if he doesn't know what he wants, he shouldn't be doing it?

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