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fisting training - 4/18/2013 2:44:43 PM

enigmaticsdstDom

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My play partner want's to be fisted by me. I've done it before but with other submissives but this time we have some logistics getting in the way i.e. we have long periods of time apart. So to best help her achieve this goal I need some advice on what worked best for you. Was it a inflatable dildo or speculum and what brands are best in quality and durability/stiffness. BTW she is very close but you know that knuckle at the widest point just wont go without regular sessions. My hand measures 3.9 in at the widest point.

I/we decided to not use some of the other ways of doing this like bottles etc for safety reasons and simply put I would like to give her a gift that she could use to train while we are apart. So ready set go...
Thanks in advance

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RE: fisting training - 4/18/2013 5:44:29 PM

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I've never trained for fisting. He just always took his good old time...like sometimes hours, and lots and lots and lots of lube.

Start out with one finger at a time, get her going, slip in another finger and keep doing that until you get all the fingers inside and then slowly, curl your fingers and keep opening her wider until you get to the knuckles and usually, in my case, by the time he got that far that I was more than loosened up enough for him to push through.

Yeah, it may hurt a little bit at first but if you are hitting the g-spot then it should turn her on enough that she won't be thinking about the pain or your hand.

And use latex gloves and keep your nails trimmed.

And LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of lube. I can't stress that enough.

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RE: fisting training - 4/19/2013 3:28:46 AM

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Thanks we have gone through all the steps. It certainly posses a question of the techniques I'm using. Heres what I've tried so far: A full body massage to relax her entirely every time except for the first 2x, I always use copious amounts of lube and gloves, went very slowly taking up to 3 hours per session, waited till she has a couple of orgasms to further relax her. Stopped and held my hand in place at the thumb/knuckle point for extended periods, added more lube before, during and after those periods, Several times she was like a wet noodle and to spent to continue. Next step may be to ask a kink aware/friendly gynecologist if it's not possible but I doubt that because a babies shoulders comes out of there. Yes she has given birth. I am aware tearing can happen but no never happened to any of the women I done this with and as far as I know shouldn't ever happen with a fist. "Babies yes fists no."

That being said there are other techniques I may not be aware of. I am always open to hearing constructive input simply because of the rule.. Thou shalt not damage thy submissive. Not to mention she has never needed to RED out but has used yellow several times. i should also mention she is a newbie to this lifestyle but has shown herself to be a natural submissive from the start. We certainly have had lots of fun regardless of the out come. It's just that she reaaaallly wants to achieve this for me and herself. So my question remains with some added info.

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RE: fisting training - 4/19/2013 9:17:30 AM

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try NOT giving her an orgasm before you get all the way in. The more she wants that release the more she should open up for you. Don't bring her to the point of pain, but just a tiny bit before it while keeping her very sexually aroused. She will get to a point where she will want to shove herself onto your hand.
As far as what to do in the interim, all she can do is practice, lots of lube, larger toys etc. I'm assuming you're talking about vaginal fisting. Take it slowly...I mean SLOWLY dammit! Have her masturbate with larger insertables. I don't particularly find inflatables to work for "training" because all they do is open you her) up on the inside and she is only going to inflate until it's no longer comfortable anyway. Plus with inflatables, the more lube you use, the more frustrating they become because they slip out (read shoot across the room like a fucking rocket) Oh, and use the SMOOTHEST gloves you can find! If you can't find any that are not textured, turn them inside out. The less drag there is the easier it is to relax. Drag feels like the ring of fire is on full blast and is turning your bits to hamburger...just for a visual there ;)

ANyway, good luck ;)

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RE: fisting training - 4/27/2013 2:28:05 PM

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Thanks Lucifyre all very good points. My extended absences from her were becoming troublesome but we have fingered whoops figured out a way to solve that issue. So the "training" has resumed by my hand. Yes it's vaginal fisting and yes we are going very slowly. Joy is in the journey not the destination LOL! As for the gloves latex w/o any wrinkles is what I always use. Thanks for the heads up about the inflatable. I had some serious concerns with that idea. As for larger insertables I gave her a new butt plug that goes from 1/2 in to 3.5 at the widest point. That should help the task along nicely. The orgasm denial is difficult for her she is quite easily brought to orgasm. But orgasm denial just adds to the fun. The visual is..... well nope not going there. Thanks and have a kinkliciuos day!

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RE: fisting training - 5/2/2013 8:54:45 AM

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Guess being double jointed in the thumb comes in handy... Pop it one way and the thumb knuckle virtually disappears. One in, popping it back and forth in the right spot... Fireworks!!

I've noticed all the focus is on her vaginal, are there stretches YOU can do to make your hand a slightly smaller diameter to achieve entry, then expand as needed?

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RE: fisting training - 5/2/2013 4:38:41 PM

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Lots of lube, lots of foreplay, I find having an orgasm PRIOR to fisting helps as I open up more. Take your time and don't expect to be able to get inside fully the first time - if you can, thats great but don't be disappointed if you don't. Time wise, I would think minimum ONE HOUR with trying to relax her with one finger at a time

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RE: fisting training - 5/5/2013 1:23:28 AM

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Start with two.... Follow through!

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