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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/20/2013 9:15:05 PM

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It depends.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/21/2013 4:53:03 AM

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...how do you react to it?

Do you accept it as the other person's kink and just work around it?

Do you berate the other person for being into something that annoys you or that you don't understand?

Do you ignore the person completely, even if you might have been able to make a really great friend in the lifestyle, just because you don't understand their kink?

Or do you react in a completely different way?

This can be in reference to ANY form of kink, from physical acts, to levels of Dominance or submission, to methods of discipline, to anything, literally anything that goes on in the lifestyle.

On a forum, if it's a sexualy kink (example anything from butt sex to scat play) I normally don't even open the discussion, unless it's a slow day and there's nothing else good to read. If it's personal, I'd probably try to steer the discussion elsewhere.

I guess I would have to say if it was another person's kink, I'd probably work around it since I would not be getting physically close to that person, and whatever their kink was it probably would not effect me one way or the other.

I try really hard not to berate a kink annoys me or I don't understand. I don't like being berated...so I try hard not to do it to others but I do have moments.

I do ignore people at times, sometimes it's just easier and there is no way of knowing if by speaking to them I would have made a really great friend or not.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/21/2013 9:52:00 AM

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Knowing myself, and depending on what it was, I may watch. Or pretend I wasn't, stay within viewing distance, and peak from the corner of my eyes. If there's something I don't understand or not interested in, I like to try to understand. Doesn't mean it'll ever be for me. I may not like all people, but I like that we're all different. So, no, I would not berate or judge them because we were different.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/21/2013 5:18:12 PM

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If its someone i'm with ill give it a try depending on what it is. But if its a random person it really doesn't affect me much.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/21/2013 5:39:24 PM

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When I was a child, my father was heavily involved in theater and introduced me to the "whatever floats your boat" concept, which means whatever somebody else does is okay as long as it works for them. So, I've been perfectly willing to let people be whoever they may be far longer thank I've been in this lifestyle. The only time it's appropriate to say or do something is if somebody's getting hurt as was mentioned in a few examples earlier, like starvation, feeders, or underage subs. Otherwise, I've seen kinks at the play party where I volunteer that I have no interest in so I watch something else. I can't stand race play, for example. But I saw saw a scene begin and the top dropped the n-word, so I walked away. Basically, it's that I don't want someone else telling me how to live my life so I'm not going to preach at them.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/22/2013 12:32:55 AM

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Almost 100% of the time I'm in the 'whatever floats your boat' camp as long as you're not trying to forcefully push your kink on me, or non-concentually involve someone else. I mean, I'm into some things that would make some people recoil! As are most people here, I bet.

If something is truly, genuinely illegal, potentially lethal, or outside the bounds of sanity... like involving children, or a cannibalism fetish, that's different. Much, much different than say, someone being squicked out by golden showers, or offended by roleplay, or easily nauseated by violence.

I am of a mentality where if I don't understand someone's perspective I'd rather learn to than simply ignore it, so I sometimes end up embroiled in intense arguments, not because I want to change a person but I guess people get heated when questioned sometimes! I can be fairly intense about my opinion, but for the most part I am genuinely interested in understanding things I'm not into, like say, choking and breathplay... that's hedging into hard limit territory for me even though I'm pretty well okay with any and all other sorts of pain. But I am interested in why people enjoy it, why it specifically induces the right reactions for them.

So maybe I'm not 'whatever floats your boat', I'd like to know what it is your boat is floating on.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/22/2013 6:56:42 AM

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I've been following this thread for a bit before responding. My past includes working at a private club that catered to a wide variety of tastes in the scene, from Old Guard leatherman to adult infants. In this capacity, I was paid to be a disinterested observer, so if there was something I didn't like, it was my problem.

That said, I'm pretty lassez-faire about what people do, as long as they don't try to involve me in it. More than once I had to (respectfully) remind clients that I and the other staff were not to be involved or invited into their personal antics. When involved outside of that venue, if I saw something I didn't like, I merely ignored it and any offers to join in.

And I have absolutely no problem in stepping in, forcefully if need be, if there is something illegal, insane, or stupid about to happen/going on. Things like animals, kids, and power tools require immediate intervention for a number of reasons.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/22/2013 8:35:10 AM

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with Bill, Dreamless and Caneman....to each there own.

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RE: If it's not your kink... - 4/22/2013 11:19:13 AM

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I don't care unless your kink is something like murder, castration, cannibalism, pedophilia or bestiality.

Then, yes, I do judge you and hope you find help or jail, whichever comes first.

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