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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 8:16:18 PM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
She is approaching a community of her peers in the hopes that those who have gone through a similar experience, or is going through it, can help her sound through her own confusion.


If that is what she is doing and not trying to get validation or permission for her infidelity....than she needs to be honest about the entire situation. Who can possibly give any sort of rational advice if they only have a part of the big picture?

I think she has a good friend in Julia who has stated that she supports her. She should listen to her friend, who is obviously more informed in regards to the matter than we will ever be. But spitting this out in bits and pieces in the manner that she has been doing....and thereby painting a false or at least incomplete picture....is making her appear to be dishonest and manipulative.

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 8:43:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
You're a pretty girl and I like your politics.  But your husband is a dumass, and what you've said about him on here doesn't reflect well on you.


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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
Being a submissive does not give him the right to make her a doormat nor does it give him the right to betray her trust. I am not schooled in this relationship; I only draw from the posts of the situation. Which leads me to the conclusion that in time she wishes to explore submission and is dipping her toe in the water to see if Dominants bite in such ways and if so, how a submissive should deal with it.


I'm amazed!

We are discussing her husband being a dumbass, and her husband betraying her trust.....when she's the one that's been cheating for 4 years?

Or am I missing something important here?

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 8:44:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Did I miss the part that said she was cheating?

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 8:51:08 PM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

Did I miss the part that said she was cheating?


um...yes

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 8:52:25 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Erin,

Believe me if you knew why she stayed you would have a different opinion of the whole situation. She can't post that reason, and I surely won't. She is not trying to manipulate... There are other pieces that would probably change your opinion.. and she can'r post it in a public forum because it doesnt relate to just the two of them. If I thought for one minute she was being manipulative she wouldnt be my friend.

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/27/2006 9:01:47 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		julia,
It's impossible for me to actually form an opinion about any of this because it's such a convoluted mess. Everytime I think I have the situation figured out enough to actually have an opinion...it changes. I think that as I said, she has a good friend in you. I don't know what circumstances are stopping her from moving on with her life...but you know...and I know....that serenity for her is little more than a pipe dream until she can overcome those circumstances.

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/28/2006 6:28:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Erin,

Believe me if you knew why she stayed you would have a different opinion of the whole situation. She can't post that reason, and I surely won't. She is not trying to manipulate... There are other pieces that would probably change your opinion.. and she can'r post it in a public forum because it doesnt relate to just the two of them. If I thought for one minute she was being manipulative she wouldnt be my friend.

I've always believed that if you can't give a full account of something, it shouldn't be brought up at all. 

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/28/2006 10:30:32 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Remind everyone of that when they post a thread asking for help.. that should make every query about 20 pages long.. just to make sure they included everything you feel you might need to know.

This incident reminded me of something valuable at least. I remembered that there is no way I could possibly have enough information to hand out advice like fast food on a forum, because NONE of us have enough information to do so. I forget that sometimes in my zest to take part in sharing and gathering info. I wonder how many people point out all "relevant" facts when asking others for input... I will give Irish this.. her other thread asked for similar experiences, not for advice...totally different sorta animal if you ask me.

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/28/2006 10:48:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
I wonder how many people point out all "relevant" facts when asking others for input... I will give Irish this.. her other thread asked for similar experiences, not for advice...totally different sorta animal if you ask me.

I didn't say that one should put it all out there right away.  But if you aren't able to call up relevant pieces of information as they are needed, then it really renders the whole process moot.

Otherwise it just turns into a post of supportive convenience that whenever someone asks for a piece of information that might be less than stellar to disclose, suddenly it becomes "not able to share" and thus rendering whatever opinion they might have useless.

And people who simply accept what they are told about are given thanks and appreciation for their support.

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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 6/28/2006 11:00:46 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		The information that cannot be disclosed would be flattering to her, and it is only relevant to why she is staying in this situation.... not to what led up to it, and not what is going on inside of it. You are right, people appeciate the advice they get... Irish told me this morning that she got a lot of good information that was very helpful off the other thread.



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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 7/8/2006 10:22:00 AM   
ehlovindom


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ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Why are you two together if you are both seeking different things and from what i have read, not very happy together...?


What kitten said......

WHY?


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RE: He used my pic to find bi-women secretly - 7/9/2006 1:48:53 AM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		For whatever reason it turns out this happened to you, Irishbynature, I am truly sorry.
Nobody deserves that, and I always considered you an extra-nice person so it's a double-whammy. I'd confront him in a gentel way - but don't "let it go" until you find out why, or he tells you a reason(s).

- Susan

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