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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

This is why it is so fascinating for a studet to study it, becuase it is like going to a different world.

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

Wow thank you for the post and taking the time to write all of that, I have a couple of professors from my university and Oxford university who might be interested in looking at this post would you allow them to?

I have no problem with you sharing it with them.

The thing to keep in mind is that BDSM/Ds relationships are just that: relationships. If you suck at vanilla relationships, adding kink isn't going to make it easier. It takes honesty, communication and trust. I might be submissive, but I'm only submissive to one person. If Joe Schmoe comes at me with "on your knees, bitch and suck my cock" it just makes me laugh at him (not with him) and reply with "you first".

Submission is a choice that I make and find fulfilling. It annoys the snot out of some people in my family that I allow him the last word. My mother said "you are so subservient to him" shortly after meeting him. It annoyed her that I liked making and bringing his tea or that I would button his shirt for him (his hand was in a cast and he couldn't maneuver the buttons) or tie his shoes. Do I do that all the time for him? No. But it wasn't an imposition because I love and respect him, and out of that love and respect, I want to be of service. In return, I'm loved, cherished and led. Our relationship is far more like a 1950s relationship where he is the head of the household and has the final say. He listens to my input (heck, he is always asking my opinion on things), but HE makes the decisions.


You mentioned in the "other thread" what happens if the next day someone cries rape after consenting. This happens in the vanilla world as well. You can prevent a lot of that by actually KNOWING the people you play with and limit the casual play (or keep it in public where you have witnesses). Note: Not all BDSM is sexual. Just because a domme I know of likes to stick needles into people's skin and make designs out of it, doesn't mean she wants to (or will) have sex with them. She is straight, but plays casually (in public) with both sexes. It isn't necessarily about sex for her.

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

I do apologize in advance for my behavior again I really have no idea how to talk in this forum.

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ORIGINAL: Rawni

OP, you have made some claims here that I find interesting after reading all you have said and your profile, which says.... Honestly I can serve or be served. I am here to learn and evolve passed my comfort zones to be better affiliated with myself and my limits.

So lets get this straight. You ask if you can share this information with your mentors and professors and claim you are here doing research and then you say other things that indicate you are here to learn so you can evolve passed your comfort zones and limits and that you can dom or be dominated. Which is it?

You can't come in asking how to be a perfect little bitch, bash everyone and then start over making claims of something of more merit, when you have already shown it is merit-less due to your own misrepresentation.

When you wish to do research and use what people say in any presentation, you need to announce before anything else what your motive is and not take it to a personal level in the way you have. Personally, I wouldn't want you representing anything I have said for anything seeing how you have acted while seeking only research information.

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ORIGINAL: Rawni

OP, you have made some claims here that I find interesting after reading all you have said and your profile, which says.... Honestly I can serve or be served. I am here to learn and evolve passed my comfort zones to be better affiliated with myself and my limits.

So lets get this straight. You ask if you can share this information with your mentors and professors and claim you are here doing research and then you say other things that indicate you are here to learn so you can evolve passed your comfort zones and limits and that you can dom or be dominated. Which is it?

You can't come in asking how to be a perfect little bitch, bash everyone and then start over making claims of something of more merit, when you have already shown it is merit-less due to your own misrepresentation.

When you wish to do research and use what people say in any presentation, you need to announce before anything else what your motive is and not take it to a personal level in the way you have. Personally, I wouldn't want you representing anything I have said for anything seeing how you have acted while seeking only research information.

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

I wouldn't post your information its not valid and yes it does say that I figured I might as well try every aspect in this lifestyle in order to be better off on the paper.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

I wouldn't post your information its not valid and yes it does say that I figured I might as well try every aspect in this lifestyle in order to be better off on the paper.

Here's the point that you're missing. What you're doing isn't a "lifestyle". It's putting on roles like a set of clothes. If you're only acting, you're not really going to have a grasp of being a Dominant or submissive. You're only going to know what it is to bottom or top.

You're looking for a concrete set of definitions. When the reality is, that just like vanilla relationships, all of our relationships within our community are different. Every relationship that I've been in since getting into D/s has been different.

LP was correct, the answer to your question(s) is "It depends".

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ORIGINAL: lizi

Honestly dude, everything about your writing sucks so badly that I doubt you're in college. If you are, then I weep for the teachers that are teaching you grammar, punctuation, and spelling, as it's obvious that you haven't been listening to them much.

It's been fun watching you bust a nut running around doing damage control though. You obviously thought you could come here and get laid, and are now facing up to the fact that grown up women want grown up men in return. The best advice you got was to go to real life events, or get some books, and try to learn more that way.

Edited to add: Holy crap. Thanks for the laughs. That was epic. I seriously spewed drink all over my computer screen at the tantrum you just threw. Everyone knows that big caps are regulation to use when you're running amok out of control. Omg....too hilarious. Thanks. Seriously. Thanks so much.

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

Why couldn't you just post that in the first place.

Thank you finally, thank you

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

I wouldn't post your information its not valid and yes it does say that I figured I might as well try every aspect in this lifestyle in order to be better off on the paper.

Here's the point that you're missing. What you're doing isn't a "lifestyle". It's putting on roles like a set of clothes. If you're only acting, you're not really going to have a grasp of being a Dominant or submissive. You're only going to know what it is to bottom or top.

You're looking for a concrete set of definitions. When the reality is, that just like vanilla relationships, all of our relationships within our community are different. Every relationship that I've been in since getting into D/s has been different.

LP was correct, the answer to your question(s) is "It depends".

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THIS FORUM IS CLOSED ANY ALL POSTERS WHO POST HERE ARE JUST WASTING THEIR TIME, THANK YOU AND HAVE A NICE DAY!

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THIS FORUM IS CLOSED ANY ALL POSTERS WHO POST HERE ARE JUST WASTING THEIR TIME, THANK YOU AND HAVE A NICE DAY!

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

LOL wait a minute what institution, I dont know what your talking about >.>