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LadyHugs -> RE: New and apparently destined to staythat way (6/24/2006 8:35:30 PM)
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Dear dichut, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Being a genuine dominant, I do find that married men are very difficult to deal with, especially when the wife has no clue as to what is taking place. If the wife sat on the side lines while a dominant female was to put you though the paces, I think it would sit much better with both women. I also will add, that male dominants that work with female submissives that are married, often have the same stand-off attitude, unless the husband is there participating also, even if it is watching. It really puts everybody at ease as everybody is involved in communications, negotiations and no secrets.
I would also place before you for consideration, that women really want something for their investment. Emotionally bonding of a dominant with a submissive, by its nature of D/s and or M/s; BDSM and or S&M, by going home to the Mrs. Dichut, does not feed the dominant but you are fed. So, as you may see--being a "service Top" and or Dominant in a one sided relationship (yours) is not a worthy investment especially when there are single men who don't have a Mrs.
I highly recommend seeking a local BDSM support and education group and get educated before you jump into D/s, M/s and or BDSM as well as S&M. The better you are educated and have knowledge, you invest in your own safety. Because there is a terrible ratio of male submissives to female dominants, you get plenty of Shelias that haven't a clue but, look great in fetish gear.
Some things to consider are, what type of training are you interested in. What experiences do you have from past experiences that might be attractive. Things like that to start you in the right direction per se.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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