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LEOwanted -> Question for police, etc. (5/9/2013 10:10:17 PM)

Hi! For any police officers or EMTs or related field...do you have any advice for a submissive, like me, to find a person like you to have fun with besides listing on this site? I know not all LEO's are the same, of course, but I am wondering if you would be offended or annoyed if a girl came up to you while on duty.

Also, I get a lot of feedback from friends to "stay away from police." I don't agree, but is there anything you know of that I should keep in mind or be sensitive about if I were to become involved with a cop in this kind of play? By the way, I'm mostly into ageplay.

And, I feel compelled to add...if you are in or know of any LEO in the DFW area who might be interested in bdsm, please don't hesitate to let me know!



LafayetteLady -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/9/2013 11:31:27 PM)

Well, I know the cute, hunky police officers get hit on all the time, so you would just be hitting on them with a kinky twist. I don't know that I would recommend approaching them on duty, since they are supposed to be doing their job, not picking up women, but it has been known to happen.

I think you are more looking to figure out if you can tell somehow if the cop is kinky, and I have to say, you couldn't tell any more than you would any other guy. Actually, on second thought, it might be harder to tell. Cops are, by the very nature of their work authoritative, but that doesn't mean they are that way in their relationships.

As for things to be sensitive about, if they are kinky, then they're kinky, if they ain't, they ain't. They will have the same likes and dislikes as any other kinky guy. In other words, they will all be different.



LEOwanted -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/9/2013 11:43:18 PM)

Thank you LafayetteLady :) Yes, I don't go for the traditionally cute and hunky as a rule. I go for whomever I have a connection with. I'm going half way nuts right now because just below where I live in sight of me are cops 24/7 guarding a bridge under construction. When I go on walks, I wave and usually get a wave back. Ugh, I want to go say hi and see if they are available...I get annoyed I want someone so specific: a cop who is into bdsm who also likes ageplay..and who is in my area. I'm alright with waiting but I also don't want to find someone and then screw it up:/



DarkSteven -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 5:49:51 AM)

1. Call up the cops and say that you've always been grateful for the protection they provide. Are there part time volunteer jobs within the department you could apply for, like candy stripers at hospitals?

2. Check out the Help Wanted ads for the police and apply for a job there. Meet people while there.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 8:37:09 AM)

I see nothing wrong with going over and saying hello. Strike up a conversation. You are a pretty girl, I'm sure they would love the attention. Until you get to know them, you won't know if they are into what you are, will you?



sexyred1 -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 8:42:00 AM)

As someone who was with a police officer for many years, I would recommend staying away from them.

Just the other day, my friend was driving to NYC and made a wrong turn. The NYPD officer who stopped her told her she was a stupid cunt from NJ and should learn to drive better.

I rest my case.



LEOwanted -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 10:05:11 AM)

DarkSteven, thank you for your ideas! I love thinking about volunteering. I will need to check out the requirements in my area.

Sexyred1, I am sorry for your experience. I guess I am curious about why to stay away. The experience your friend had was sad...I've had my share of sad run ins with police too but more on the detective side rather than patrol officers. I guess I think that there are some nice, some mean, like any other career. But, I guess one negative could be that they do have power if they ended up hating me.



stef -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 10:35:22 AM)

You might want to search the terms badge bunny, holster sniffer or fender lizard. You'll find a lot of cop forums where they describe exactly how they feel about such people.



LEOwanted -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 10:54:58 AM)

Yes, there's a varying degree of appreciation ;)



littlewonder -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/10/2013 8:29:44 PM)

I'm thinking, approach a cop while on duty and he'll see you as either a prostitute and arrest you or a slut for a little fun in the backseat when it's a slow night.




Kana -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/11/2013 7:19:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm thinking, approach a cop while on duty and he'll see you as either a prostitute and arrest you or a slut for a little fun in the backseat when it's a slow night.



Nah. Cops get macked on all the time. As long as the gal is cute and young, they tend to appreciate the attention. Most cops I know (Those who ain't married that is) are dogs-they'll fuck damn near anything.
These boys ain't dumb-they know how some chicas act to the uniform and the authority. If they didn't before they became lawmen, a few weeks on the beat teaches em otherwise.



Eloi -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/11/2013 3:27:19 PM)

Have you tried somewhere like uniformdating.com?



LafayetteLady -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/11/2013 4:19:52 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm thinking, approach a cop while on duty and he'll see you as either a prostitute and arrest you or a slut for a little fun in the backseat when it's a slow night.



Nah. Cops get macked on all the time. As long as the gal is cute and young, they tend to appreciate the attention. Most cops I know (Those who ain't married that is) are dogs-they'll fuck damn near anything.
These boys ain't dumb-they know how some chicas act to the uniform and the authority. If they didn't before they became lawmen, a few weeks on the beat teaches em otherwise.


I know a lot of married ones that are even bigger dogs.



sexyred1 -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/11/2013 6:37:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LEOwanted

DarkSteven, thank you for your ideas! I love thinking about volunteering. I will need to check out the requirements in my area.

Sexyred1, I am sorry for your experience. I guess I am curious about why to stay away. The experience your friend had was sad...I've had my share of sad run ins with police too but more on the detective side rather than patrol officers. I guess I think that there are some nice, some mean, like any other career. But, I guess one negative could be that they do have power if they ended up hating me.


Why stay away? Well, I don't want to generalize ALL cops, but I found out way too much about the NYPD from being with a cop for many years and I have a female cousin who made detective.

The cops tend to be pathological liars, cheaters (they all know some chicks are impressed by the uniform), they are nasty, racist and just bad guys.

They treated my female cousin like crap as she rose through the department and she worked ten times harder than the men. They resented her and harassed her really badly.

She had warned me away from cops and I did not listen, so I am trying to pass on the good advice.




crazyml -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 1:40:39 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Eloi

Have you tried somewhere like uniformdating.com?

I as going to mention this site too.

There are dozens of others too... Google "police dating" and you'll see...



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 4:09:33 AM)

FR

I've known and worked with a lot of cops. Most of them are good people. A few are assholes, so much like the general population.

A very large number of them have relationship problems and get divorced. Unfortunately it's a lifestyle that isn't very family friendly. Long shifts, weird hours, frequent unplanned overtime (because when you've got a prisoner or are caught at a crime scene you can't just clock out), and canceled vacation time make it hard to make plans or to find time to socialize. They can sometimes be moved to a different station or department which is much further from home or has worse hours, and they have little or no choice in the matter. Then, add to that the high-stress nature of the work - the risk of injury, the aggression they face, the things they see (suicides, sudden deaths, murders, domestic abuse, rape cases - this stuff takes a tremendous toll even on those people who can build up a tough shell), the pressure they are under to meet certain targets, the negative view some people have of the police, the frustration at the court system... all in all, cops can carry a lot of issues and some people handle that better than others. I wouldn't say 'stay away from cops' but rather like getting involved with someone in the military, or a celebrity, or someone who is a carer, there are certain problems and challenges you can expect to face and for some people they can destroy the relationship.

Something to think about if you've got your heart set on a police officer.

Also, a lot of police officers don't like being treated as a cardboard cutout, which is what you do when you decide you want to date someone BECAUSE they are a police officer. Nobody likes to be defined by only one of their traits.



LEOwanted -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 7:34:15 PM)

Thank you for the suggestion Eloi- I'll check it out!

Sexyred1, thank you for taking the time to respond to my question. Those are things I need to be very careful of, for sure. Sounds like the things athenasurrenders talked about can really get to officers.

Athenasurrenders, yes, the part about wanting to date them only because they are cops could hurt their feelings. In my particular situation, I've been hurt by a few cops (not in a fun way) and am looking to find a good one to make me feel better. Not the epitome of healthiness, but that's where I am right now.



theRose4U -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 8:34:23 PM)

I dated a SWAT guy for almost a year. He was cute, great in bed & was willing to not onluy drive to the mountains where I lived but embrace my hobbies. Downsides were being left to find a ride home because his beeper went off, having to purchase a gun safe for my house & ultimately dumping him for showing up at breakfast as officer bad ass to meet my family.
His arrogance & drama ultimately got him killed in a friendly fire incident. Agree with red the role play & sex was hot but the truckload of drama they pull around isn't worth it.



MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 8:46:22 PM)

FR

They may see you as 'broken' or ridiculous.

I have a friend who works fixing the radios for a police dept. One day I was at his house when he was on call (meaning the radio was on.) A call came in for the EMTs about a scene that had gone wrong. Oh, they had a wonderful time laughing about it on the official channels.

As for broken: they are just as likely to see you as a potential abuse victim as a life-style partner.

Disclaimer: I am not a LEO nor is my anecdotal evidence the same thing as data.



littlewonder -> RE: Question for police, etc. (5/12/2013 10:54:45 PM)

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Athenasurrenders, yes, the part about wanting to date them only because they are cops could hurt their feelings. In my particular situation, I've been hurt by a few cops (not in a fun way) and am looking to find a good one to make me feel better. Not the epitome of healthiness, but that's where I am right now.


If this is the only reason you are seeking a cop, don't! Not only will it NOT heal you, it will hurt him as well.

Get thee to a doctor who can help and recommend someone else to help you.



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