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How to be a Daddy? - 5/12/2013 11:42:12 AM   
MyTurnNow


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Status: offline 		I started in the lifestyle as a sub, and that is still my forte. However, I have done some Dom'ing as well. As I've learned more about the lifestyle and terminology, it has occurred to me that much (though not all) of my Dom'ing was more so me being a service top than an actual Dom.

I've seen references to the "Daddy" aspect of the lifestyle, and while the references have all been scant in measure, there have been some things in them that resonate with the same parts of me that like the service top role. So, two questions:

(1) In your opinion, is there a connection (or at least a reasonable transition) between the Daddy and service top roles?
(2) Regardless of your answer to #1, can you please point me to some resources that will better explain what the Daddy thing is all about?

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/12/2013 1:09:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you're curious about Daddy Doms, www.fetlife.com has a gazillion Daddy/girl groups. They even have one called Daddy Dominants. Some of them are very good groups.

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/12/2013 1:16:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

If you're curious about Daddy Doms, www.fetlife.com has a gazillion Daddy/girl groups. They even have one called Daddy Dominants. Some of them are very good groups.


Thanks for the tip.

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/12/2013 1:36:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are two types of Daddies. One is a term of endearment. The other is actually having the mentality and mindset of a Daddy.

There are qualities that a DaddyDom should have.

Actually, there are two qualities that a DaddyDom should have. You cannot have one without the other. You have to be nurturing. You also have to have the mindset of being firm. If you have one and not the other, it will bore a little to death and they will not be with you too long.

Also, many littles look for a DaddyDom that has had the experience of being a DaddyDom. That is probably because of the complexity of being a DaddyDom. It is easier to be a Dom in my opinion than to be a DaddyDom. That is also because many littles are not submissive nor do they want to be submissives. They see what they do for their Daddies as pleasing him, as opposed to submitting to him. That is even if in practice and result, the both mean the same thing. It is just about the mental part of it for most littles.

So, first, you have to determine whether you want to be a Daddy because of endearment or you want to be a Daddy because you are Dominant and also has the mindset of a Daddy.

Being a Daddy is not something you can learn. It is like saying you are a sub and a great Top, but you want to learn to be a Dom. All Daddies are Doms as well. And all Mommies are Doms as well. It is just a branch of a Dom.

I can write more. But that is just the gist of it.

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/13/2013 1:04:59 PM   
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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/13/2013 3:44:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MyTurnNow

Thanks, MASTERLIX

^^^ should read "Thanks for YOUR opinion, MASTERLIX."

My experience has been that the terms "service top," "Daddy," "Dom," and "Master" are on a contiumum in that order. HOWEVER, it's all over the place in terms of mixtures.  That is, those that of us (!) with Daddy and Master components are just fine, dank you, dank you berry much!

As is true for EVERYthing in WIITWD, nothing is cut-in-stone. And that's the TRUTH!

ETA: IMHO Father and son is somehow "easier" than Father and daughter.

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 5/13/2013 3:52:51 PM >

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/13/2013 4:14:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

quote:

ORIGINAL: MyTurnNow

Thanks, MASTERLIX

^^^ should read "Thanks for YOUR opinion, MASTERLIX."


Thanks for telling me how to write my posts.

Your opinion/experience would carry a hell of a lot more weight if you didn't pick apart a two-word comment.

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/13/2013 5:28:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MyTurnNow


Thanks for telling me how to write my posts.

Your opinion/experience would carry a hell of a lot more weight if you didn't pick apart a two-word comment.

I think the point was that MasterLIX's opinion was just that - an opinion, although he wrote it as some sort of across the board fact, when the truth is, there are all sorts of facets to daddy doms.

A search on "Daddy" will pull up a lot of threads on Daddy doms...you might find some interesting reading in there. This thread from just last week has an essay on Daddy Doms posted, which you might particularly find interesting.

I'm not a "little." I have a Daddy, who is also my Master. I am submissive to him by nature, not simply out of a need to be pleasing. He is my Daddy out of both endearment and his dominant nature. As in any relationship, there's no black & white; rather, a desire to find what works for you and then go out and create it.

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RE: How to be a Daddy? - 5/13/2013 6:36:02 PM   
MyTurnNow


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

quote:

ORIGINAL: MyTurnNow

Thanks for telling me how to write my posts.

Your opinion/experience would carry a hell of a lot more weight if you didn't pick apart a two-word comment.

I think the point was that MasterLIX's opinion was just that - an opinion, although he wrote it as some sort of across the board fact, when the truth is, there are all sorts of facets to daddy doms.


1. If that was, indeed, the point, it would have been much more clearly conveyed by addressing the alleged error in MasterLix's statements rather than starting off with the alleged error in my two-word comment. My mom taught me to say "thank you" and that's all I did.

2. I did not just fall off the turnip truck. I take nothing on this board (or anywhere else in this lifestylr) as definitive truth.

Also, thank you for your feedback/input of your experience. Most helpful.

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