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RE: He wants my password - 5/21/2013 12:39:39 AM

BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
I just felt it was important for you to have them. To me when you are in a strong relationship you share everything. It's just easier that way.

I did the same with the Mister. He never mentioned them; but I knew it would add to his comfort level in my trust for him if I did. However, he specifically rejected my personal mail password. He said he wanted me to have a place to talk openly with friends, where both my friends and I would know he would not be looking in. He felt it was important.

There have been some occasions when he's been on my laptop and I was grumbling about an issue with some bill. He has pulled up my account, I call out my password to him, and he goes in and fixes it. So it's kind of a benefit.

I think this is beautiful, when it develops naturally over the course of a relationship.
Not natural, or compelling when he says "it's a dom thing, and you must...."
Good luck to both of you, M

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RE: He wants my password - 5/21/2013 12:50:11 AM

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I met a dom in jan, so far so good. We are both on another kinky website, (FL) so he can see all my pics, comments, etc.
He now wants my password. Why and should I give it to him? He says it's a dom thing.

Up to you. He has the right to say he won't be with you unless you hand over your password. You have the right to refuse. Why ask us?

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RE: He wants my password - 5/21/2013 7:43:52 AM

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Sometimes people have a hard time making their minds up, and need an objective point of view to help them decide. It happens all the time. There's nothing in wrong is asking for outside opinions on a subject, it's part of the reason for places like this. OP, as I said before, my answer to you is no. Best of luck, OP.

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RE: He wants my password - 5/23/2013 10:01:54 AM

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Not a Dom thing, but, a scam thing, alarm bells are probably ringing or you would not have posted this question, if you feel unsure, then it's probably a bad idea. Perhaps if you tell him that your refusal to give over your password is a hard limit, he'll understand, if he still pesters you for it, you might question his true intentions.

Good luck, Gary.

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RE: He wants my password - 5/28/2013 2:04:24 PM

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I agree with Gary. This sounds more like a "Controlling, Rapey Bastard" thing than a Dom thing. A Dom you trust might ask you for your password. That's true. But some asshole who wants to use and abuse you would too. Being a Dom only appears to be about control. But Really the Sub is running the show. Cuz a good Dom is always putting the welfare of the Sub FIRST. Ahead of his needs and wants. A scene might appear to be all about the Dom and their pleasure, but in actuality the whole damn thing is a stage built for the Sub.

Please remember that lots of predators hide behind claims of being a Dom. Just be cautious. And safe.

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RE: He wants my password - 5/29/2013 3:42:54 AM

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I've never asked for the password for anyone, not my slave, nor anyone I have dated or had one relationship with in reality.

So it's not a 'dom' thing IMO, and like most I recommend a firm 'No' to the request.

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RE: He wants my password - 5/31/2013 12:16:23 AM

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It's a trap.

And if it isn't then he can wait.

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RE: He wants my password - 6/14/2013 1:02:07 AM

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I know this is a little bit of an old thread but I have been away for a while and I am still catching up. About the "Dom thing" I call bull shit. It is a "Him thing". Could be trust issues, could be a form of later blackmail, could be a predator, or a very large number of other things. I am a Master and have been for a very long time, I have never asked for the passwords of my slaves, I have never asked for there key's, bank cards, or anything else of that nature. While some of my slaves in the past have offered them to me and even then I only accepted them from one person because we were in a long term relationship. My personal advise for you is the same that many people here have already stated, say no. You can do it politely, rudely, or however you wish but say no. If you have been with the person for a very long time and can truly trust that person with your life (I am meaning your actual life) then you might want to consider it but until then I would say no.

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