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i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:14:09 PM   
eagerwillingsubm


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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:21:26 PM   
MistressJude


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Status: offline 		A quick peek at your profile says a lot. First all your pictures or comics or art with nothing at all showing you even with cropped or blurred faces. Second your entire profile is just one long piece of erotica and it's YOUR erotica. You seem to have no genuine interest in serving another but your own interests and desires and are seeking out someone who will fulfill your interests with no reciprocation. To this I recommend finding a reputable pro-domme in your area since all you want is to get your own jolly's off. Otherwise it's time to stop whining about everyone else and take a look at yourself and see where YOU can improve.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:24:25 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies?

I don't know how to say this without sounding condescending, but please here me out: why do YOU think it is? You're old enough to have known a good few women in your time so you should be able to make some educated guesses?

For example: all the unrealistic cartoons in your profile - do you think they appeal more to a male or a female audience? Do you think they indicate someone with a realistic image of a kinky relationship?

How many women do you think are into no-strings pissing sessions? How many guys? Do you think the numbers are in your favour?

Do you think you are appealing to your target audience?

Not many women want to get a guy off according to his specific kink without getting something back. So your choices:

1) find someone as into this as you: chances are against you finding someone who is as excited as acting out your script as you are. You might get lucky, but probably not so...

2) find someone who is also looking for a set of kinks to be acted out and find a compromise in which you can both do it for each other. Still probably won't have tons of takers because dominant women are fairly rare, but if you are flexible and make sure she gets her kink too, you might have better odds.

3) form a relationship with a woman, based on her whole person, not just what she does that gets you off. Someone who loves you, or maybe even an extremely open minded friend, might be much more willing to do this for you.

4) Enter a transactional relationship - ie PAY for what you want, or find an arrangement with a dom who wants landscape gardening and is willing to exchange services for it.

Whatever you decide - THINK about what that person would want, and try to reflect that in your profile and the way that you speak to them. At the moment your profile is like you're sitting there cock out and saying to the passing women 'sex me!'. Most women, even those who ARE open to nsa sex, will be more attracted to someone who appears to be more than a penis.


Edit for poor typing

< Message edited by AthenaSurrenders -- 5/16/2013 2:25:25 PM >

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:27:34 PM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		Clearly you didn't offer sufficient compensation. You do know you have to pay for something like that, don't you?

Edited to add:

Nevada is full of establishments that will probably roll out the red carpet for you.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:29:18 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Also OP, you are calling someone out as a fake in your profile. This is against the rules - do you think dommes are impressed by subs who can't follow the rules? It's also pretty offputting, since you're making it clear you have no problem stamping your feet and broadcasting your poor opinion. Why would I risk contacting you in case you do the same to me?

I'd suggest you take that journal entry down, since some profiles have been hidden by support for doing that, and now that you've posted here people are going to see it and you'll likely get some reports. A hidden profile won't help either.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:31:29 PM   
Rawni


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ORIGINAL: eagerwillingsubm

why am i finding it so hard to find a genuine group of women to humiliate me by spitting and pissing on me.


It was a mass hallucination... they thought you were a prince... but you had warts.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 2:51:22 PM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: eagerwillingsubm

why am i finding it so hard to find a genuine group of women to humiliate me by spitting and pissing on me.


This site is a sausage fest, you are offering nothing that the hundreds of men next to you in line aren't offering - a dick. Plus you aren't even just giving the thing up, you're attaching a long list of instructions to it that the interested party has to fulfill in order to interact with your dick. Why would a stranger with no investment in you give a crap about such a high maintenance dick? Do people run around doing free cooking or giving free oil changes? Would they do that for someone they cared about? Hmmm....

The ratio of men to women on this site isn't in your favor and you're not actually offering anything anyone wants. Honestly, aren't you just a tad unrealistic in looking for a GROUP of women to satisfy your dick needs? Maybe when hell freezes over...or when you have gotten a woman interested enough in YOU.

The answer to your question is that to find the genuine women who are interested in you and your dick, you have to give them what they want. Obviously they haven't wanted what you've offered so far.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 3:41:53 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		Because you offer nothing of substance in return. Dominant women are women first. Treat her like a person and not as a femdom robot instead.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 3:46:05 PM   
littlewonder


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ORIGINAL: eagerwillingsubm

why am i finding it so hard to find a genuine group of women to humiliate me by spitting and pissing on me.



Because they are not your fetish delivery system.


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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 8:11:35 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: eagerwillingsubm

why am i finding it so hard to find a genuine group of women to humiliate me by spitting and pissing on me.


Why should they?

You just specified what you are looking for. Have you ever considered what the women themselves may be looking for?

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 8:32:02 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies? . . .

Bloody hell . . . you ruined it. Now I have lost all hopes of finding a roving pack of bisexual catholic Japanese schoolgirl ninja cheerleader nymphomaniac masochists.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 8:35:17 PM   
OttersSwim


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies? . . .

Bloody hell . . . you ruined it. Now I have lost all hopes of finding a roving pack of bisexual catholic Japanese schoolgirl ninja cheerleader nymphomaniac masochists.



Get out of my head!!!! :P

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 9:11:41 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: eagerwillingsubm

why am i finding it so hard to find a genuine group of women to humiliate me by spitting and pissing on me.


Why should they?

You just specified what you are looking for. Have you ever considered what the women themselves may be looking for?




NBMG

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 9:49:28 PM   
MasterCaneman


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies? . . .

Bloody hell . . . you ruined it. Now I have lost all hopes of finding a roving pack of bisexual catholic Japanese schoolgirl ninja cheerleader nymphomaniac masochists.


I haven't been here that long, but something tells me that if there were, you'd have their phone numbers...

And OP? You've been given a lot of good advice. If I were you, take it and run with it. Tweak that profile, make yourself out to be more than a "gimme" sub. Or, just pony up the cash and have a local pro fulfill your desires. There can be some benefits to be gained by securing the services of a paid professional at times. Just something to think about. Good luck.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/16/2013 10:48:47 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		Well, you could start by understanding that (generally) women are different from men in many ways and adapting your approach...i.e...thinking like a WOMAN, may actually get you somewhere.

1. The majority of us hate the dumbass cartoons. Every time I see one of those damn things I think: this dude's lost in space. He thinks it's gonna be just like his line drawings. Y'know, just ONCE I would like to see one of those stupid things with the guy's dick shrunk up to a little turtle head so we know the pleasure's all about HER!

2. News flash: we are not your fetish delivery system. Contrary to popular belief (and porn contamination) there aren't roving packs of Wild Dommes just waiting to pounce on you. Most women want fully formed relationships with men they love. Of course we can trot out our bag of tricks (and then some!) but we won't bother with an unrealistic HNG who views of us as a full bladder and a mouthful of saliva instead of a woman. And you want an entire GROUP of bladders and saliva-bearers? Stranger things have happened, but dang, that's gonna be one expensive little session, and methinks with your expectations...paying's your only way.

3. Step away from the porn and start reading every last word of the Ask A Mistress FAQ. Then dump the lame cartoons and rewrite your profile according to what you learned from the FAQs (you DID learn something from reading them, didn't you?)

4. Pitch your journal entries. Blacklisting violates TOS, and potential partners are not going to want to hear about who cammed you good the other night. If you haven't met this person in the flesh it's very, very likely your great good time was brought to you by two balls and a dick. Meh, it's online, who cares?

If I were in your shoes, I would find my local community and get involved with them. With your profile as it is, you have about as much chance getting what you want as a snowball in hell. Dominant women who are not in this for income will either rip you to shreds for your dickcentric do-me audacity or more likely, just pass you by.

Don't misunderstand me. This is not a bash on your pee/spit kink...hell, I've eagerly done that with my boys over the years, but they are my loving partners and friends not some anonymous rabid-dicked internet wanker. Kinky women are still women. Approach them as you would vanilla women. Be personable and generous with your time and friendship. Get a woman to like you as a person first, then maybe she will piss and spit on you.

I gave it to you straight here, because I want you to succeed. Best of luck to you.


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RE: i have a question. - 5/17/2013 2:32:37 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies? . . .

Bloody hell . . . you ruined it. Now I have lost all hopes of finding a roving pack of bisexual catholic Japanese schoolgirl ninja cheerleader nymphomaniac masochists.


You mean the women over at my place last month? Do you mean the twins?

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: i have a question. - 5/17/2013 2:37:09 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Because there aren't many roving bands of women looking to fulfill guys' fantasies? . . .

Bloody hell . . . you ruined it. Now I have lost all hopes of finding a roving pack of bisexual catholic Japanese schoolgirl ninja cheerleader nymphomaniac masochists.


You mean the women over at my place last month? Do you mean the twins?


No I think he means the 18 year old identical triplets that did that ping-pong ball trick. You know, the ones with the double-Ds

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RE: i have a question. - 5/17/2013 2:41:05 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		But those were the Caucasian subs. He specified Japanese ones.

Thanks for specifying the double Ds. The black twins from April were only C cups.

Nobody realizes how hard we Doms have it, keeping our subs and play partners straight.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: i have a question. - 5/17/2013 7:14:51 AM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
You mean the women over at my place last month? Do you mean the twins?

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
No I think he means the 18 year old identical triplets that did that ping-pong ball trick. You know, the ones with the double-Ds


I'm green with envy. But at least I have a new item on my bucket list.

"18 year old identical triplets with double-Ds that can blow smoke rings, shoot ping-pong balls and blow bubbles"

I wanna see her shoot a ping pong ball through a smoke ring and burst a bubble.

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RE: i have a question. - 5/20/2013 7:10:44 PM   
FrostedFlake


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A couple times.

Y'know.... if everyone did, that might be worth the price of admission.

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