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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/18/2013 1:16:13 PM

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I was going to say something to that effect. Humans are social animals, and whenever you put two or more of us drooling house apes together there's going to be drama. I firmly believe it's how we're wired and why we like abstract behaviors like theatre, writing, movies, and TV. Secretly, we all like to have a little drama in our lives, otherwise we're blank slates.

As for stinkers? You're gonna get them whether it's The Scene or a social club. You want drama? Come and listen to the curmudgeons down at my gun club sometime. Those guys natter like washer-women at times. All you can do is just file it away and make sure the mud doesn't splatter you.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/20/2013 8:56:33 PM

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DS, I mean no disrespect, but you have made several posts (and at least a couple threads) that could very reasonably have come from a 14 year-old girl.

Who made you the Kink Police?

Unless you plan to play with one of these people, or you know them to have committed a crime, step the fuck off. And, if the latter, call the Real Police-- that's your responsibility, as a good citizen.

Posting about them on an anonymous Internet message board?

Yeah, that falls under the category of Really Lousy Citizen.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/20/2013 9:20:35 PM

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Considering how many kinksters I estimate that we have locally, I'd say that the stinker/kinkster ratio is around 0.5% - 1% here.

I think that is a great ratio, compared to everyday life stats of people who generally suck.

What I will say Steven, and you may not like it, is my observation that maybe you are feeling a little bit white knightish, and somehow compelled to point out to the general public, that some people suck, and may suck the life out of one. I believe it is incumbent upon every adult, to be responsible for his/her own safety, as well as using his/her best judgement to assure that safety.
This isn't to say, I wouldn't help someone in need, but if we all know the facts, if someone chooses to jump into the fire, is their business.
I also really dislike rumors, or people being judged without facts in evidence. M

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/21/2013 4:31:15 PM

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(and at least a couple threads)

What's the other thread?

What actions, if any, should I take?

I'm going to disagree with the 14 yo girl comment due to my experience having held many traditionally male jobs and believing DS is coming more from a White Knight place anyway.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/22/2013 7:55:53 AM

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DS, it seems there is a shitload of drama in your community. Why not walk away from it? I personally would find it all repugnant and would make me feel ill to even be near.

I mean, really, you need to really think about why you stick around. Are you there thinking you feel sorry for these people and you are somehow going to help them get free of their bully? You can't. You play no part in their lives whatsoever no matter how much you might think you are one big family or whatever.

After having seen this kind of drama in more than one community I'd say get out now because it's going to implode on itself very, very soon and it won't be pretty.

I would agree there is a drama shit storm brewing in many communities across CO I interact with. I dropped out of public play years ago mostly because of time & privacy concerns. Honestly the only good thing I got out of the local scene is meeting some cool people like Steve & Lady Pact. The rest of my "public kink interactions" have just been funny stories that make one shake their head.thinking we'va all got to be nuts.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/22/2013 8:03:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: descrite

DS, I mean no disrespect, but you have made several posts (and at least a couple threads) that could very reasonably have come from a 14 year-old girl.

Who made you the Kink Police?

Unless you plan to play with one of these people, or you know them to have committed a crime, step the fuck off. And, if the latter, call the Real Police-- that's your responsibility, as a good citizen.

Posting about them on an anonymous Internet message board?

Yeah, that falls under the category of Really Lousy Citizen.

You do realize adult men being self appointed experts on 14 year old girls in a kink community is the EXACT source of Stevens delimma?? If you are not part of the solution, you are the problem.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/22/2013 10:44:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: descrite

DS, I mean no disrespect, but you have made several posts (and at least a couple threads) that could very reasonably have come from a 14 year-old girl.

Who made you the Kink Police?

Unless you plan to play with one of these people, or you know them to have committed a crime, step the fuck off. And, if the latter, call the Real Police-- that's your responsibility, as a good citizen.

Posting about them on an anonymous Internet message board?

Yeah, that falls under the category of Really Lousy Citizen.

Well, damn, fella, so that's what no intended disrespect is like from you?

I'm not mentioning names. Nor am I saying they've been convicted. I'm saying they're accused, and we've got about a 1% accused-to-general population ratio.

You don't like my style? I'm not changing it to suit you. I actually wanted to know what the ratio was like elsewhere, so I asked.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/23/2013 1:49:22 AM

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You do realize adult men being self appointed experts on 14 year old girls in a kink community is the EXACT source of Stevens delimma?? If you are not part of the solution, you are the problem.

Point.

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Well, damn, fella, so that's what no intended disrespect is like from you?

Yup.

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You don't like my style? I'm not changing it to suit you. I actually wanted to know what the ratio was like elsewhere, so I asked.

Fair 'nuff. To answer: I make it my business to not make it my business.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/23/2013 1:40:12 PM

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Only idiots say "call the police" or "has there been a conviction"!

Police barely bother to investigate rape, especially if there wasn't a hospital visit with a dna sample scraped out of the poor woman's vagina.

Rape is almost never prosecuted unless is a clear cut case of "dragged into the bushes by a stranger". So, add in a whiff of kinky sex or multiple partners, etc, and they cant run away fast enough.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/23/2013 1:47:12 PM

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A past major leather title holder who runs a major bdsm group and play space in LA used his position to divy up newbies among his leather family. If they sopke up, he used his position to harrass them into silence. Lots of people knew it. When I spoke out about it major leather title holders I had given their first leadership role to ran and still run a,smear campaign against me.

I know,a couple that runs,a major playspace, she plays shitfaced drunk and his nose is,always burried in a bag of coke. They use people like pawns in a game of human chess.

But congress and your average church arent much better.

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RE: What's the percent of stinkers in your local commun... - 5/23/2013 6:08:55 PM

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One group eastern Ne was full of them. It just happened to be the *ones* who started the group. When the so called *doms* would not make eye contact with me it was obvious they were hiding something...and the first demo I went to it was soooo obvious those guys thought they were all that and a bag of chips. The demo was on fireplay and these goofs were walking around with signal tails in their hand -L- ooooo so impresive! Predators...Many were hurt in that group.

I never went back.

The other to groups were great, they played no games and everyone was laid back...

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