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MasterCaneman -> RE: Experience here! (5/18/2013 9:18:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: wiermen
As an older guy without a photo, I find it very hard connecting here.
I appreciate that my attractions are very modest.
What I find distressing on here are the deleted messages I get.
I have been suspended twice in a year, presumably for bulk deletions.
I don't blame the system at all.
I'm just rather sad that a brief ,polite no thanks seems to be beyond a lot of people.
Perhaps my generation are just too formal!!
Dude, women do not like copypasta. There's a couple groups over at FL dedicated to ripping apart guys who do this. I'm going to venture that some of your missives have already been chuckled at over there (as many are ID'd as coming from CM).
I read your profile, and when you start out by slamming a sub-set of women, you turn all of them off to you. Everything in your profile is "I,I,I," Women don't want to hear that. You allude to being able to "sniff out scammers", and I'm not surprised you get reverse-bombed by them. You want my honest opinion? You come off as a desperate, spoiled, entitled, elitist, self-centered jerk.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a certain type of partner, but man, you are doing it all wrong by cutting down other types. And stating openly you shotgun copypasta right in your profile all but guarantees a pass on their end. And triggering bulk mail alert means most don't even read it, just delete it on the spot. But you can correct it. Here's how:
Close out and delete your profile. Take a break from the search for awhile, at least a week or two, preferably a month. Sit yourself down with some real scene-related reading material (see Resident Sadist's book list), and mold your new profile to reflect what you want, in a non-confrontational manner. Relax, be patient and thoughtful in what you say and write.
Read the profiles of the women who interest you fully before sending a request. Respect their wishes. Don't get angry when they turn you down, instead, learn something with each exchange. Be polite and take the high road, rather than gnashing your teeth. You have to remember that these are social networks, an electronic white-picket fence as it were, and women talk to each other. Chances are very high that you're already known to many before you send your first message, and that assures that your attempt fails instantly.
If you don't like what I have to say, tough. It's the way of the world here. If you think throwing shit against the wall and seeing what sticks will get you what you want, you're sadly mistaken. All you get is a steaming mess that you have to clean up. I sincerely wish you the best of luck in your quest, no matter what road you decide to travel to get there.
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