njlauren -> RE: cuckold (7/20/2013 8:35:03 AM)
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I agree it is rare and that it is more fun in fantasy than reality. I know some couples who have a hot time fantasizing about it as bedroom talk, or who do things like play exhibitionist games where the wife (with the husband watching) go into a bar or something, have her get hit on, but then he 'rescues her' and they go have sex, and for them that is hot. The couples who I have known who have done it ranged. For some, it was as others have said in this and other threads, about the domme taking her sexual freedom, and at least one of the dommes has said that the sex is okay, but the freedom of doing it is the real turn on from what I have been told. Others seem to be into the humiliation of it,where the jealousy and humiliation does it for the sub and I guess the wife, where the husband when the wife brings someone home is expected to 'serve them', and either is made to sit outside the door and listen when they have sex, or is in the room, trussed up, and 'made' to watch.....one variation on this is in the variations in the T world, where the husband is the 'sissy', when the other man is over they are dressed all sluttily, etc....to be honest, in these kind of relationships, a lot of them strike me as cruel, as an outsider, even observing them as a couple, it really seems to me like there is no love there, it looks to me like the wife totally lost respect for the husband and only stays in the relationship because of the freedom she has (I could be wrong, could be that is just surface, have no way of knowing). When it gets that cruel, I wonder about it, it seems over the line...but who knows? One story I heard (I have no way to confirm it) part of the game was when the wife would come home after seeing some guy, or even if the guy came home, she would not be wearing her wedding ring and would be wearing some 'other guys' ring, it was part of the humiliation..until one night she came home and gave him his ring, and had a real ring, and told him it was over (again, can't validate that, but wouldn't surprise me). I do tend to agree it is probably better in fantasy than reality, at least judging my own emotions.
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