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RE: Was I out of order - 5/22/2013 6:21:21 AM

soldiersslutgirl

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I see nothing wrong with asking for someone's name after a couple exchanges. And, it's not like you asked for a picture a second time. I would have taken "a name would be nice" as an attempt to keep the conversation going. And, personally, being compared to an object is something that I would like. My Master tells everyone that I am his most precious possession. But, we are into objectification.I am his property. And he treats me better than his car :) No one asked if the chick's profile said she liked/loved/or lived for objectification. If it did, I see nothing wrong at all in comparing her to an object. Even though I am owned and am not looking for anyone else to own me, I would take "I'd treat you better than my ___" as a compliment. But, everyone is different, and judging from the other ladies' responses on here, I guess you should keep the objectification thing under wraps for a couple more messages next time, lol. And maybe follow up not getting a name with "That's cool, I'm ___" and leave it that?

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RE: Was I out of order - 5/22/2013 6:23:45 AM

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Out of curiosity, did you provide her with your name?

I've never had a girl refuse to give me her name when I asked, but I always sign my messages with my first name (I write my messages like letters...I know, how quaint). The same thing goes for pictures, although I have to actively provide her with one, since I don't have a picture of myself on my profile.

Your first message sounded pretty canned, I'll be honest. Almost the sort of thing you could have sent to anybody. She responded, and you seemed to ignore what she said. You glossed over it, like it wasn't important. In fact, she said she wanted to be seen and treated as human and equal, and you respond by saying that you'll treat her better than your car. While I'm glad you recognize that a person has more value than a car, it doesn't exactly make her feel human or equal.

So after ignoring her reply, you ask for personal information. Many, many women, even if they replied to your first message, wouldn't have bothered to reply to the second. You got that reply, telling you it was a no-go, and then you kept on going. When somebody says that they're not comfortable with providing information like that, you should acknowledge that and move on. Establish a baseline for trust, and then ask again.

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RE: Was I out of order - 5/22/2013 8:23:38 AM

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And, personally, being compared to an object is something that I would like. My Master tells everyone that I am his most precious possession. But, we are into objectification.I am his property. And he treats me better than his car :) No one asked if the chick's profile said she liked/loved/or lived for objectification. If it did, I see nothing wrong at all in comparing her to an object.

I don't need to ask, because even if it did, it would be assuming a power dynamic with a stranger.

If I loved being called a slut by my Master and said so in my profile, it doesn't mean that it's appropriate for a complete stranger to call me that.

It's about boundaries and respecting them.

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RE: Was I out of order - 5/22/2013 5:11:13 PM

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Yes you were out of order.

I don't give out my real name to complete strangers on the internet or send a photo. I want to get to know them first and see if we even have anything in common to even chat at all and then and only then over many more chats of getting to know one another I MIGHT send you both but I usually wait until I've actually met them in person to tell them my real name.

You were pushy which makes you seem desperate or just socially lame.

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