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thegoddessxenoa -> In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 3:55:21 PM)

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I've seen some threads here and there pertaining to Financial Domination, but I figured I would start a topic that may facilitate a little bit more of an understanding for the fetish itself. Recently, as I've begun to become more active in the community, I've gotten a lot of questions from people on the matter. Here is an over view onto my opinion and my experiences:


I should start by stating that my desires, or target fetishes, are not limited to cash and people's wallets. My dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation.



There is a specific genre of men (and women), usually whom work very hard or are reasonably wealthy and/or unhappy with their otherwise mundane lives, who enjoy having to devote and tribute their money or other worldly goods to a beautiful, intelligent, demanding woman; it acts as sort of a release. In reality, it is the willingness to surrender control that is appealing in regards to fin-domination - not necessarily the cash. At least, this is the case for me.



A lot of people attribute fin-domme to women who need money and are skulking around to get by; or more simply, women who are greedy and lazy. Greed, more than anything, is an affect of our persona's as fin-dommes, and while there are a lot of women who are ruining the art of fem-domme, there are also many who are careful not to abuse or ruin our slaves. Many of us also require that the majority of tribute that the "pay pets" give us is given to various charities (something I personally prefer)...


Given the responses to this thread, I'd like to put this statement on the back burner, and hopefully learn a little more before I put my two cents in...




ResidentSadist -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:09:13 PM)

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dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation......... am not a domme who expects tribute without providing a true and long-term d/s relationship............

Then you aren't a pro . . . so why the thread?




thegoddessxenoa -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:17:16 PM)

If you wouldn't mind, could you elaborate? I don't think the way I handle my slaves and our relationship denotes my level of professionalism.




Rawni -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:24:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: thegoddessxenoa


I myself am a fin-domme, out of desire - NOT out of necessity, and I am not a domme who expects tribute without providing a true and long-term d/s relationship. The slaves I own are under contract and receive the desired attention they deserve, so far as training, punishment, and nurturing.



That isn't what your profile says. If they want a signed contract, they have to send tribute to you through paypal or KIK. You state that they are not worthy, so I have to question that deserved attention.

The other threads have covered the things you say... I see this more as... here I am... come and take this goddess on so she can drain your wallet while you waste your time working.

You sound confused to me. If you wish to teach or inform... you might get taught and be informed.




OsideGirl -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:32:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rawni


The other threads have covered the things you say... I see this more as... here I am... come and take this goddess on so she can drain your wallet while you waste your time working.


I agree. There didn't need to be another thread on this and this one is thinly disguised as an advertisement.




SomethingCatchy -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:40:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation......... am not a domme who expects tribute without providing a true and long-term d/s relationship............

Then you aren't a pro . . . so why the thread?


Financial domination does not equal a professional. A professional is paid for services like a clerk is paid to check people out at Target. When the job is done there is no more interaction. Financial domination involves controlling someone's finances to any degree.

I am into financial domination because I enjoy having control over every aspect of someone's personal life. I have no interest in becoming a professional dominant and getting paid for my services. I'm incapable of being interested in someone when the only thing happening between us is cash flow.




thegoddessxenoa -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:49:05 PM)

I domme professionally, but I am also an online fin-domme; I'm new to the forum/online side of it all so if I come across as confused or even ignorant, it's because I probably am. Definitely did not mean to offend anyone! Certainly didn't mean to come across as someone using the boards as a way to advertise. Firstly, I'd like to apologize. Secondly, I would appreciate PM's from anyone who would be willing to serve as a mentor in the online fin-dom world. I'd like to learn what I can.

I hope everyone can look past my...inexperience, if you will.

X




garyFLR -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:52:16 PM)

I am willing to concede that there is a place for the genuine 'findomme', it's not a area that interests me greatly, but many are into it.

I think however there are a lot of very young girls, especially in the UK, that consider it an easy way to make money, thereby undermining the whole concept, you mention all the stuff that transcends the mere act of paying tribute, that I don't think these girls have, or even wanted to consider.

The title of your post is 'In defence Of Fin-Dom', It's not the concept of it that's under attack, but the fact that it's being hijacked by unscrupulous young girls, who are in it just to make a quick buck. The ethical consequences go flying out of the window.

Of course there is a place for the responsible Financial Dominant, but, the arena is beginning to be flooded out by scamsters.

Welcome to CM by the way [:)].




garyFLR -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 4:57:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation......... am not a domme who expects tribute without providing a true and long-term d/s relationship............

Then you aren't a pro . . . so why the thread?


Financial domination does not equal a professional. A professional is paid for services like a clerk is paid to check people out at Target. When the job is done there is no more interaction. Financial domination involves controlling someone's finances to any degree.

I am into financial domination because I enjoy having control over every aspect of someone's personal life. I have no interest in becoming a professional dominant and getting paid for my services. I'm incapable of being interested in someone when the only thing happening between us is cash flow.

A lot of these newcomers want the cash without the responsibility, possibly that's the crux of the matter.




LafayetteLady -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 7:03:54 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thegoddessxenoa

quote:

I've seen some threads here and there pertaining to Financial Domination, but I figured I would start a topic that may facilitate a little bit more of an understanding for the fetish itself. Recently, as I've begun to become more active in the community, I've gotten a lot of questions from people on the matter. Here is an over view onto my opinion and my experiences:


I should start by stating that my desires, or target fetishes, are not limited to cash and people's wallets. My dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation.



There is a specific genre of men (and women), usually whom work very hard or are reasonably wealthy and/or unhappy with their otherwise mundane lives, who enjoy having to devote and tribute their money or other worldly goods to a beautiful, intelligent, demanding woman; it acts as sort of a release. In reality, it is the willingness to surrender control that is appealing in regards to fin-domination - not necessarily the cash. At least, this is the case for me.



A lot of people attribute fin-domme to women who need money and are skulking around to get by; or more simply, women who are greedy and lazy. Greed, more than anything, is an affect of our persona's as fin-dommes, and while there are a lot of women who are ruining the art of fem-domme, there are also many who are careful not to abuse or ruin our slaves. Many of us also require that the majority of tribute that the "pay pets" give us is given to various charities (something I personally prefer)...


Given the responses to this thread, I'd like to put this statement on the back burner, and hopefully learn a little more before I put my two cents in...


I checked out your profile and forum posts. This doesn't seem to be YOUR quote from the forums, so I assume you are quoting someone else. That's really inappropriate when not giving the author credit.

So you basically talk to guys online to take their cash. Yet you want to be respected for that? Sorry, I've used up my respect allotment for the month. Check back with me next month, maybe I will have some respect for you. But I doubt it.

And YES, this is being used as a way to drive people to your profile and your Amazon wishlist.




FrostedFlake -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/26/2013 7:44:13 PM)

You didn't kick open the door and announce that everyone is worthless, a loser or some kind of animal and should therefor urgently empty their wallets over you while you somehow manage to both sneer at and ignore everything.

So.... thanks.




ResidentSadist -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 12:45:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: thegoddessxenoa
If you wouldn't mind, could you elaborate? I don't think the way I handle my slaves and our relationship denotes my level of professionalism.

Others already clarified it but in my own words I would say, I control my slave's fiances too but you can't hire to do a session with someone. BDSM is my relationship style, not my business. You also choose partners for the personal preferences you listed instead of just as a business.








ResidentSadist -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 12:56:12 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

dominations and preferences include mind control, denial, hyno, and humiliation......... am not a domme who expects tribute without providing a true and long-term d/s relationship............

Then you aren't a pro . . . so why the thread?


Financial domination does not equal a professional. A professional is paid for services like a clerk is paid to check people out at Target. When the job is done there is no more interaction. Financial domination involves controlling someone's finances to any degree.

I am into financial domination because I enjoy having control over every aspect of someone's personal life. I have no interest in becoming a professional dominant and getting paid for my services. I'm incapable of being interested in someone when the only thing happening between us is cash flow.

Look, I control my slave's finances as an extension of all my other control but I am no "FinDom". Just a regular ol' guy ruling his domain. A Domme doesn't need to sling horse pucky or focus on controlling money along with all other aspects by claiming FinDom anymore than I do.

You can't hire me to have intimate contact with you, I am not a . . . "pro". Would you really have me believe that FinDoms do not benefit financially from their "clients" . . . er . . . I mean, "tribute bearing paypigs"?






Charles6682 -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 2:31:11 AM)

This I agree with when it comes to Fin-Dommes.I have nothing against true genuine Fin-Dommes,even if its not my thing.


"I am willing to concede that there is a place for the genuine 'findomme', it's not a area that interests me greatly, but many are into it.

I think however there are a lot of very young girls, especially in the UK, that consider it an easy way to make money, thereby undermining the whole concept, you mention all the stuff that transcends the mere act of paying tribute, that I don't think these girls have, or even wanted to consider.

The title of your post is 'In defence Of Fin-Dom', It's not the concept of it that's under attack, but the fact that it's being hijacked by unscrupulous young girls, who are in it just to make a quick buck. The ethical consequences go flying out of the window.

Of course there is a place for the responsible Financial Dominant, but, the arena is beginning to be flooded out by scamsters."




LadyPact -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 2:36:15 AM)

In My opinion, any phrasing of terms like "ignorant" and "professional" constitute an oxymoron.




garyFLR -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 3:33:06 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

This I agree with when it comes to Fin-Dommes.I have nothing against true genuine Fin-Dommes,even if its not my thing.


"I am willing to concede that there is a place for the genuine 'findomme', it's not a area that interests me greatly, but many are into it.

I think however there are a lot of very young girls, especially in the UK, that consider it an easy way to make money, thereby undermining the whole concept, you mention all the stuff that transcends the mere act of paying tribute, that I don't think these girls have, or even wanted to consider.

The title of your post is 'In defence Of Fin-Dom', It's not the concept of it that's under attack, but the fact that it's being hijacked by unscrupulous young girls, who are in it just to make a quick buck. The ethical consequences go flying out of the window.

Of course there is a place for the responsible Financial Dominant, but, the arena is beginning to be flooded out by scamsters."

Charles, why have you repeated my earlier posting verbatim? I'd really like to know? My post #8.




garyFLR -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 3:40:13 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

In My opinion, any phrasing of terms like "ignorant" and "professional" constitute an oxymoron.



I love that word [:)].




Charles6682 -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 4:15:38 AM)

I was just saying what you wrote because I agree with it word for word.I don't know how to put other peoples quotes into that nice little box,yet.




TNDommeK -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 4:17:48 AM)

Just click on quote in the upper right hand side of their posts.




Charles6682 -> RE: In Defense of Fin-Dom, (5/27/2013 4:38:32 AM)

That's all that took?Shows how much I use that little button




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