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Does this get asked all the time? - 5/27/2013 1:36:40 AM

TelexC

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Hello,

I hope I'm not just recycling a question that is asked very often, I had a quick check and didn't see many people asking this so I don't know...

Anyway, I'm a submissive 22-year-old man from London and I am looking to meet a Mistress to serve on a regular basis.

So... how can I find that person?!?!?!

I've found myself on this site but I still don't know how to actually take the next step.

I have some good experience already in that I have visited Club Pedestal, had a 2 year relationship with full and active playing, and I have visited a paid Mistress on one occasion too.

Any help would be wonderful, this is on my mind constantly. Thank you! :-)

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 5/27/2013 2:22:41 AM

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http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm

That may help... .

edit to add: this is helpful as well: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=4446282

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 11:28:43 AM

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The odds are against us as most women are sub and very few are into Dominating man. However, keep at it, go to local events where you can meet people in person and put yourself out there, you will eventually find what you are looking for. The trend is definitely growing with FemDom lately. But it is very difficult to find the right kinky partner, no doubt.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 2:46:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TelexC

Hello,

I hope I'm not just recycling a question that is asked very often, I had a quick check and didn't see many people asking this so I don't know...

Anyway, I'm a submissive 22-year-old man from London and I am looking to meet a Mistress to serve on a regular basis.

So... how can I find that person?!?!?!

I've found myself on this site but I still don't know how to actually take the next step.

I have some good experience already in that I have visited Club Pedestal, had a 2 year relationship with full and active playing, and I have visited a paid Mistress on one occasion too.

Any help would be wonderful, this is on my mind constantly. Thank you! :-)

Find a new picture w/o anyone else's face in it.Yes, even a little bit.
That's a good start.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 3:30:23 PM

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I agree with Kana on the picture. Photoshop her out.

Your profile is blank, that isn't going to help you. What you wrote here would do well in your profile. Don't forget to add "vanilla" stuff about you as well. Us women who are looking for relationships want the whole package, not just the kinky stuff.

I hear the TNG groups are a good place for people your age. I seem to recall someone saying that London has a really big kink scene.

The downside: I assume you are looking for someone relatively close in age to you. Sadly, on this site there are a lot of girls who think that they can come here, slap "financial dominant" on and get guys to send them money and gifts. Not all of them mind you, but in your age range, quite a bit. This means you will have to hide a lot of profiles to get to those worth looking at.

Patience is your friend. It takes a lot of time to find the right person and you have to sort through a lot of wrong people to get there. Also, don't expect them to write to you, most won't. You will need to contact them, which is why having a well written profile and being able to write a good introductory letter are important. Many "hover" over an email to see the first lines that are written, so make them count! Mention things in her profile (try to go with the non-kinky stuff) or in her journal in those first lines to get her attention.

I'm sorry, but you will have a lot who delete your email unread. Again, patience is your friend. Go to events, meet people and just keep searching. You will find her. Good luck.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 5:59:48 PM

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The absolute best thing you can do IMO is to get good at conversation. ENJOY talking with people, including wimmins, and including Dommes. If a woman knows that you enjoy talking with her, you're partway there.

That said, the fact that your profile's blank makes me think you may not value communication much.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 10:33:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dolorsub

The odds are against us as most women are sub and very few are into Dominating man. However, keep at it, go to local events where you can meet people in person and put yourself out there, you will eventually find what you are looking for. The trend is definitely growing with FemDom lately. But it is very difficult to find the right kinky partner, no doubt.

You might have better luck if you get rid of the porn shots and the photos of art work that are obviously not yours. Many dominants have this thing about both honesty and integrity.

TalexC, ss far as your profile, be honest about what you are looking for. Talk about more than your kinks there. Get into your hobbies and interests away from the "scene". Give a Domme something to talk about besides your hunger to paint her toe nails, or whatever.

You also list no dislikes. I find that hard to believe. And so will most women. May want to go through your list again.

Just a few suggestions.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 10:56:14 PM

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I'll give this a go.

Be an incredible guy.

Go volunteer somewhere (kids hospital, etc.).
Participate in your local BDSM community TO HELP, NOT TO GET SEX
Care about the people you meet... and DO something about that.
Go out and do things and laugh with people
Be fun
Get yourself some good, strong moral compass and then steer by it.
Act with honor and in ways which would engender respect.
When you are talking to some woman, just talk to them with no ulterior motive other than to learn.
Do that because you like people and women
Dress nicely... try for one step (not 30 steps) above the norm for wherever you are.
Learn to cook and do it at least moderately well.
Learn to clean.. practice on your own apartment/house/whatever.
Work out... for real.
15% body fat for the win.

That seems like at least a decent start.

LOL, in all seriousness, I have to tell you that "go volunteer" one I think that may be the ultimate secret of scoring chicks LOL.

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/11/2013 11:06:32 PM

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quote:

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LOL, in all seriousness, I have to tell you that "go volunteer" one I think that may be the ultimate secret of scoring chicks LOL.

Sorry, Jeff, but you're wrong about that. Although volunteering is great, puppies and kitties beat it paws...uh, hands...down.

Ooooooh, unless you volunteer at an animal shelter! Double win!!

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/15/2013 2:32:50 PM

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Lol oh man.I asked this too!

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RE: Does this get asked all the time? - 6/15/2013 4:20:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: dolorsub

The odds are against us as most women are sub and very few are into Dominating man. However, keep at it, go to local events where you can meet people in person and put yourself out there, you will eventually find what you are looking for. The trend is definitely growing with FemDom lately. But it is very difficult to find the right kinky partner, no doubt.

You might have better luck if you get rid of the porn shots and the photos of art work that are obviously not yours. Many dominants have this thing about both honesty and integrity.

Girrrrrrrl! You should have seen the first pic! It kinda had me wanting Peon and whoever it was in the pic to.....wrestle! In hot oil.....for hours.
Lol

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