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I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/27/2013 5:52:47 AM

thezeppo

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Over the last few months I have considered myself a passive participant as regards the lifestyle, partially because I was fairly new to it as well as work and study commitments. Now I find myself without these excuses and, I suppose, ready to become more active. I know that the local munch is a good place to start, but I have never been to one before and I find myself slightly nervous about the whole thing. The idea of turning up to a new place alone and unannounced is very unappealing, and I can totally see why people stay behind their computer screens rather than being active in their local community. Would anyone have any advice for someone going to a munch for the first time?

I appreciate I'm probably not the first person to ask my first question, but I wanted to post a new thread because I would also appreciate any advice on improving my profile. I lean towards the self-critical perhaps slightly too much, so if it were up to me I would delete the whole thing and start again. I'm hoping that isn't necessary!

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RE: I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/27/2013 6:52:14 AM

plesto

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Don't be too critical of your profile as it looks rather good and I suspect it will get a fair bit of praise.

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RE: I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/27/2013 7:22:21 AM

AthenaSurrenders

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Are you on fet? I'd bet your local group munch is probably listed there as an event. You should be able to see who is planning to go and who the organizer is - if you mention that it's your first time, I'd bet someone would be happy to meet you fifteen minutes before and introduce you to people.

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RE: I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/27/2013 3:58:12 PM

MistressDarkArt

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Your profile is just fine, Zep. It tells us who you are and what you're about, and I enjoyed the pictures. I wouldn't change a thing.

As for munches...if I were you I would bite the bullet and attend. In that arena a wonderful young man who is single is a much more valued addition than trying your hand online.

Very best of luck to you! Let us know how you get on.

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RE: I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/27/2013 10:08:50 PM

LadyPact

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The profile wasn't bad. You do have a comma where I would have thought the first sentence would end but that was the only thing that I found.

(Poi, huh? I think I've still got pics on My other profile where I was learning. A bit of trivia. Anybody who can florentine flog will pick up twirling poi easily.)

I'm not really sure how munches are set up for those of you across the pond but to build on Althena's advice, if you join whatever group on Fet is the one that advertises your local munch, you don't have to worry about the unannounced part. Over here, some (not all) munches actually have folks who are called "greeters" and their job with the group is to help folks become acquainted. If not, the munch organizer will most likely be willing to guide you through that first experience.

Our munches here are usually in vanilla restaurants or settings. You may want to ask how you will know the group if you are going to a location where there isn't a separate room or there might be other groups present. Some groups will have a member bring something to put on the table if they know a new person is coming. It can be a thing that isn't obviously kinky. A week ago Saturday, we had a munch where I brought a stuffed moose so a person would be able to find our table. It worked perfectly.

Of course, there is the common sense stuff. Be clean, neat, and presentable. Be early if you are able. Read the group rules of whatever group on Fet is associated with holding the munch. The same stuff you would do if you were joining a new book club.

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RE: I would appreciate a critique, and perhaps some advice - 5/28/2013 2:02:01 AM

thezeppo

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Fet is a good idea, I do have a profile there but I've never used it for anything. Thank you for the suggestion - I will try to find the relevant group and introduce myself there first, that sounds more palatable than just turning up somewhere and not knowing anyone. I had completely forgotten about fetlife, so thanks again.

Lady Pact was right about the comma (updated now) but thank you all for the positive comments on the profile, I will resist the urge to tinker with it for as long as I can, so at least two days. I recently had my first attempt at fire poi, I really wanted that to be my profile picture but I couldn't find any that weren't blurry. I must get someone with a better phone to take photos next time, in the meantime skiing it is.

Thanks again everybody!

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