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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/4/2013 12:20:35 AM

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I was just pondering about my relationship with my x-dom. I thought he was kind and funny when I first met him, our conversations were like..., I don't know, I get his humour and he gets mine, we just click. It's an amazing feeling, really like heart soaring out of your chests. And then on to the bdsm play, like wowowowow, seriously..., he told me I got my safe words that I can use when I feel uncomfortable to navigate the play, but his not gonna tell me what his gonna do. And he didn't ask me at all what I wanted. And it felt like he pried open my mind, and dissect it and did EVERYTHING I ever wanted in a perfect game play.
It felt so perfect in the beginning, I was inlove quick.
It fell apart later though, mainly due to him wanting to push me to go further with him in the bdsm umbrella and I was refusing because I was not comfortable. And of course, that's when friction starts.
I begin to love more when his vanilla mode than dom mode, and often told him to snap out of dom mode now, I need my vanilla man.
Still wish things didn't go south, but he had needs I could not fulfill, and he wasn't able to convince me to go into it anyway.

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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/4/2013 4:20:11 PM

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You can love a who, and you can love a what. When what you think you see about your partner is in fact who they are, you're pretty much set.

That goes both ways. When I fell in love with my girl, I knew. So did she, I wasn't subtle, but I was playful; and the moment when she said it back is something I will always remember.

How did I know I was in love with her and not her "role"? Easy. I fell for her laugh. I admired her intelligence. I was pleased with her ability to keep pace with me; I was drawn to that shyness in her core that made her alluring and vulnerable. I liked life better in those little moments we shared, and in those moments it was because of her, nothing else, that I smiled. A year later, and all of those things, and more, apply.

The best parts of my girl are not the places I touch, they are the intangibles that she touches me with.

And that's fucking awesome.

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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/4/2013 5:19:09 PM

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Remote, I just loved that post!

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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/5/2013 11:35:18 AM

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My Master naturally. Dom is not a charatcter he plays it is who he is. and i love him with all my heart and soul.

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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/5/2013 11:37:29 AM

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Newbie here and curious. When falling for your master how do you know you are falling in love with the dom character or the actual individual?

I feel in love with my primary partner because of who he is not the role he has in our relationship. Truth is I loved him long before we had the roles we do.

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RE: who are you in love with? - 6/5/2013 12:21:54 PM

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I'm in love with Master.

I fell in love with him when he was plain old 'D'.

I gave him my heart long before he gave me his dominance.

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