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Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 5:23:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

FFS Whiplash!!!!

Give it a rest will ya??

You are dilusional.
We have all told you it was a setup and a lie right from the get go.
And you still can't work out that you've been suckered into it.

We are all tired of you trying your damndest to convince us you are being a hero and doing the right thing.
You aren't.
You are being a fool to yourself.
WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!

I'm done with this bullshit faerie story.
I think you've milked it enough already.



Dude, I'm no fuckn hero... I was setup!! I was sucker in!! Hook line and sinker.. bottom line.
I was and am the fool and idiot.... there! Good Morning to you too!!

I'm having my Coffee and I'm done with this Fairy fucking tale!!!
(THE END)...




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 5:23:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

GUYS I'm in tears at the moment.

This girl would have been a wonderful play partner. So many qualities I've been looking for for somebody for a even a long term deal too. However, this all got tanked up. She messed it up, by pretending to be this other Dude, making up lies about taking on a Girls drug debt. She had hoped that all this would have blown over. That I would have left things the Hell alone and not pushed for proof these guys existed along with the truth of the Debt. Me pushing to see her message exchanges between her and them sent her into hiding. She knows I got pissed off thinking that she could be behind it all.

Clearly, she is ashamed and fearful of even talking to me. Game Over.

It's really really sad, how lies and deception just to get your freak on can ruin things.

She really had wanted to see me again, but now she just can't stand to face me.

So this is sad, truly sad. What a stupid needless mess.

Perhaps, I should have left well enough alone... IDK.




I really do think you should go and speak to a doctor. I don't know anything about you and don't remember you from before, but your posts here are not the thoughts of a well man.



lizi -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 5:47:08 AM)

I'm sorry you're feeling a loss. I really am. Please Whippy, (Greedy used to call you that so I'm using it now in hopes you'll see i mean no harm) please, please go talk to someone who can help you. Give yourself some time to feel sad, but move forward knowing that you did NOT make any good decisions here or think this through logically at any point. This isn't an ingrained character flaw that I remember, it seems to be recent. Get some help, what would it hurt?

This woman would NOT make a good play partner, she's a liar and treated you like a toy to give her a thrill. Stay away from her, don't pull her back in now because you're feeling emotional over the loss of your hopes for her. She put her entire family at risk, what if you were sadistic? What if you came back someday to get at her children or steal something from her home? This is not someone you need in your life on a regular basis. She engages in high risk activities. Go get STD tested as well even if you used condoms because she gets sex off of CL. You can't be her first. How many other men know where she lives and have been in her bedroom? It's good you have confirmation, now you can stay far away and drop it all like a hot potato. Having her in your life would lead to constant drama, she seems to crave it. Cry now but stay away and be thankful you escaped that black hole. I feel badly for her kids.



DesFIP -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 7:06:03 AM)

First see your doctor. I'm thinking maybe a benign tumor in the brain. If there's nothing wrong, then see a psychologist. Get tested for mood disorders and get help with the overwhelming loneliness that is causing you to imagine a one time NSA partner is your destined true love.

Either physically or emotionally, something is drastically wrong that you are making poor decisions like this.



sexyred1 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 7:22:16 AM)

This is very concerning. I don't know the OP, but do remember posting styles; he never sounded like this.

It sounds as if you got caught up in a delusion that you wanted to be true.

As for the great advice you have received, please take it and regroup.

Definitely stop using the forum to work this out, you need introspection now, not an audience.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 7:38:22 AM)

I can say for certain that if I was a drug dealer and someone owed me money, if sexual favors were how I was going to be re-paid, I would be the one being serviced. The fact that you believed that there were drug dealers setting up the exact same CL ad that a woman had already posted in an effort to secure a debt owed is alarming. Seek professional help.



theshytype -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 8:23:24 AM)

I'm sorry you were lied to. 
I'm sorry you went through this emotional roller coaster. 
I'm sorry most people did not believe your story to be true (myself included) and spent the majority of this thread validating it. 

But

You should be thinking about what clouded your judgement to first agree to the situation, why you couldn't separate fact from fiction, why you insist on stating she would have been a good play partner 'if only'.  Talking to a professional will help.  If you can't see something wrong, they might.  Whether stress, depression, loneliness, mood disorder, mental illness, or something else.  I think the most important thing here is that you should be taking care of your mental well-being to help avoid getting yourself in a worse situation.  This situation could have ended much worse and I'm glad it didn't.  Keep yourself safe, please. 



SimplyMichael -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 10:12:49 AM)

As I have grown and matured, the details matter less than the outcomes. If the outcome is stupid drama, step baxk and dont do it again is smarter than pages of "he said/she said".

In other words ask yourself "how is that working for you?"



Greta75 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 10:48:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

GUYS I'm in tears at the moment.



Frankly, now you know the truth and there is nobody blackmailing her, and if you really enjoyed playing with her, I don't get why it got to be over. Why can't you guys now bury the hatchet and start new games together?
I mean, it's up to you, but it doesn't have to be so ugly like that. She just wanted a realistic rape scene, so she manipulated you to get one. But as you said, nobody got hurt.
Of course she's scared to talk to you, thinking you're super mad at her and won't forgive her and stuffs. But if she's a fun partner, then, I really don't see this as an issue if ya wanna continue.



Greta75 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 10:51:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

I'm sorry you're feeling a loss. I really am. Please Whippy, (Greedy used to call you that so I'm using it now in hopes you'll see i mean no harm) please, please go talk to someone who can help you. Give yourself some time to feel sad, but move forward knowing that you did NOT make any good decisions here or think this through logically at any point. This isn't an ingrained character flaw that I remember, it seems to be recent. Get some help, what would it hurt?

This woman would NOT make a good play partner, she's a liar and treated you like a toy to give her a thrill. Stay away from her, don't pull her back in now because you're feeling emotional over the loss of your hopes for her. She put her entire family at risk, what if you were sadistic? What if you came back someday to get at her children or steal something from her home? This is not someone you need in your life on a regular basis. She engages in high risk activities. Go get STD tested as well even if you used condoms because she gets sex off of CL. You can't be her first. How many other men know where she lives and have been in her bedroom? It's good you have confirmation, now you can stay far away and drop it all like a hot potato. Having her in your life would lead to constant drama, she seems to crave it. Cry now but stay away and be thankful you escaped that black hole. I feel badly for her kids.


This is probably better advice than mine ha.
I'm just like..., looking at this so unemotionally. If I found someone fun to play with, this deception wouldn't piss me off so bad, once I find out she's safe and in no danger all along, I would feel relief and happy, because wasn't your only concern for her safety? And think of possibilities of future plays. But this is a very non-emotional approach though, just fun focus. Lizi brought up so many things I never thought of.



KittyDeVille -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 1:50:21 PM)

Greta75, because she is a - little bit - deceptive, not honest, batshit crazy, puts her kids, her home and herself in danger ? That makes a good playpartner, all the charasteristics I would look for. He should start thinking, and not let the part down below his belt rule him.
Furthermore are the people on her saying that he doesnt sound in his normal element and you advise him to get her as a playpartner....really ?
Try to look at it emotionally, it might help getting you out of trouble in the future, if you think such a partner is nice to play with.



KittyDeVille -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 2:02:37 PM)

A nice storytwist would be that she sensed it was your friend interrogating her and he spoke to the two guys instead of her. So it can all start over again. But this time TO has learned AND did the good thing: staying out of this mess and seeing a physician.

It was all a dream, Toto.



inchargeinca -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 3:29:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

I been honest with everybody in this thread.. this not some shit I made up..

Painfully very painfully clear... I had been had here...



So what's the big deal?

You wanted to use her for some kinky NSA fun.

She wanted to use you for some kinky NSA fun.

She was just better using the other person than you were.




KittyDeVille -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 4:42:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: KittyDeVille

Which woman in her right mind would allow a complete stranger to fuck her without a chat with a cup of tea ?



Oh, you would be surprised! I have met a few women who, in at least two cases, hadn't even seen me before I came inside them. Now, I haven't done that in ages but there are the rare sane chick you run Into like that. Hell, I,had a husband bring me his blindfolded wife who was naked under the coat.

However, its a high risk endeavor and ANY red flags and I am hitting delete and blocking the person.

Hell, if Ishtar hadn't found her man, she might have been next!





I dont know if they were lucky or you were [:D]
Sanity isnt provable before seeing someone or even after, hehehehe

And isnt high risk and sane, a contradictio in terminis in some kind ?



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 5:00:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder

I can say for certain that if I was a drug dealer and someone owed me money, if sexual favors were how I was going to be re-paid, I would be the one being serviced. The fact that you believed that there were drug dealers setting up the exact same CL ad that a woman had already posted in an effort to secure a debt owed is alarming. Seek professional help.



No No, this "K" dude paid off the drug dealers. No drug dealers were directly involved. And None of this was really real to begin with. LOL See other post on this matter.



Greta75 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 6:13:27 PM)

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Try to look at it emotionally, it might help getting you out of trouble in the future, if you think such a partner is nice to play with.

A play partner isn't a life partner, so I'm not caring about the character, as long as the sexuality mesh. In my personal experience, it's often difficult to find someone where sexuality mesh.
The nicest and most good people I meet usually don't mesh with me sexually. So I am often very clear about what who's for.



littlewonder -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 6:59:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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Try to look at it emotionally, it might help getting you out of trouble in the future, if you think such a partner is nice to play with.

A play partner isn't a life partner, so I'm not caring about the character, as long as the sexuality mesh. In my personal experience, it's often difficult to find someone where sexuality mesh.
The nicest and most good people I meet usually don't mesh with me sexually. So I am often very clear about what who's for.



So you would sexually play with someone who endangers their children, probably had sex with other CL people and probably now has an STD, had to make up stories that could possibly have landed you in jail, just to get your rocks off??? Seriously???

Maybe you should get some help just as Whiplash should.

ETA: Besides, he's not looking for an NSA player no matter what he says. He's looking for anyone who he thinks he will eventually mesh with for a long term relationship, even if that means an NSA partner. His problem is he becomes emotionally involved with any woman...be it NSA or whatever. He's lonely and desperate.



KittyDeVille -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 7:10:21 PM)

Ok, I try to understand what you are saying. Hard time with it tho.

From the day I went clubbing, going to a bar and went home round 4-am-ish, I biked alone. Nothing ever happened. I told this a gf once, and she thought I was insane, putting myself at risk.
I just stated that the street is also mine, and I should be able to use it, whenever and how late I wanted, without being harassed.
We argued somewhat more, till I said I would ask a wise friend of mine, what he thought of the whole subject.

He stated: Yes, you should be able to bike in the city at any given time, without getting harassed. And yes, nobody is allowed to harm you. This is what the world should be, safe.
But it isnt.
I said :..I just kick everybody who wants to harass me in the groin or launch my x-inch heel into the skull.
He told me, how do you know you will react that way ? Ever happend to you before or could you just freeze of fear, and what if it would be more people than 1 ? When putting yourself at risk, you must consider the negative consequences. If the consequence could give you too much pain, distress or other not so nice stuff, then you are willing to live with , you shouldnt be doing it.

Since that statement being made by that wise friend. I always consider the possible negative outcome. I dont want to traumatize myself, so I make choices, not always the choices I want to make, but the one that is safest.

This above has not much to do with this topic, or has all to do with it. It is just how you look at it.



Greta75 -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 7:34:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
So you would sexually play with someone who endangers their children, probably had sex with other CL people and probably now has an STD, had to make up stories that could possibly have landed you in jail, just to get your rocks off??? Seriously???

Um...., you mean I would have sex with someone who has casual sex? Of course, if our sexual compatibility match. Just because I can't find my significant other doesn't mean I have to stop enjoying sex. I only do NSA with condoms. No BJs or even mouth to mouth contact.
Well, I guess the possibility of me playing with someone who endanger their children is pretty low. Infact, it has never happened, because I've never met anybody who would endanger his child. But he already had sex with her knowing it would endanger her child, so it's a non-issue in his case. And the possibility of him ending up in jail is only if she cried rape. Rape fantasy always carry this sort of risks even for the woman, if it turn out to be real rape. Even if she signed a document of her approval, rape starts when the woman says no during the sexual act, would null and void the documents. Anybody who wants to indulge in rape fantasy has to be willing to take the risks.
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Besides, he's not looking for an NSA player no matter what he says. He's looking for anyone who he thinks he will eventually mesh with for a long term relationship, even if that means an NSA partner. His problem is he becomes emotionally involved with any woman...be it NSA or whatever. He's lonely and desperate.

Well, if his not looking for NSA then clearly this woman isn't for him, I have agreed she's not life partner quality. Temporary partner, maybe for a few plays, yes.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/5/2013 9:41:19 PM)

Honestly, I really wonder whether it is the language barrier or your own high risk behavior causing your statements.



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