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mistake - 6/5/2013 8:44:20 AM   
avatrystsboy


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Status: offline 		made a mistake yesterday, you see i am a sub in training, we have had a stressful few days, and as we were talking i let slip a 'whatever', i knew i had made the mistake, as i am new i am scared, she sent me here for advise on an appropriate punishment, thank you...................
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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 8:47:10 AM   
MASTERLIX


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Status: offline 		Why don't she give you options for the punishment first? How do you go back to tell her that these are the suggestions that you should be punished? What if one of the suggestions is that you wear a weight on your balls for one week, where ever you go, even at work? Would she really think that is a realistic punishment?

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 8:47:41 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		If she needs advice from others on how to discipline you, aren't you being punished enough by having an incompetent Domme?


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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 8:55:17 AM   
TheLilSquaw


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Status: offline 		OP,
For ME this isn't your domme punishing you but some random stranger(s) off the net. I am not part of your d/s dynamic nor do I want to be.

For ME I would want to know why you said whatever, that would be way more important than punishing you.

For ME key points in my d/s relationship regardless of if I am the side of the kneel I am on is knowing who is control and knowing expectations and consequences. It honestly doesn't sound like you know any of those things.

ETA: LP you made me snort water out of my nose!

< Message edited by TheLilSquaw -- 6/5/2013 9:24:19 AM >

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:16:53 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: avatrystsboy

made a mistake yesterday, you see i am a sub in training, we have had a stressful few days, and as we were talking i let slip a 'whatever', i knew i had made the mistake, as i am new i am scared, she sent me here for advise on an appropriate punishment, thank you...................


I'm going to tell you a bunch of things that you're probably going to ignore because you're too excited about finding a "Domme".

1) A good Dominant sets their submissive up to succeed. Read what you've written and ask yourself if that is what she has done.

2) She's decided to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet to get involved in your dynamic. You should be asking yourself why.

3) "Training" implies that she is teaching you something. Rather figuring out why it happened and correcting that situation, she is busy trying to find a way to beat it out of you, and worse yet asking a bunch strangers HOW to beat it out of you. (Would you train your dog or child that way?)

I have to say that I agree with LP....being with your Dominant seems like more than enough punishment.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:22:54 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I'm a little confused here. You say you are a 'sub in training', but at what point will you know it all?

But minor eye-rolling aside, your behaviour may have been a little disrespectful, but there's absolutely no need for your Domme to ask a bunch of strangers to decide your punishment.

There have been times I've spoken out of turn with Master, but punishment was quick, appropriate and tailored to make me think more about what I say before I actually open my mouth. That approach made me respect him even more.

I couldn't respect someone who is supposed to be training me who doesn't have the first clue how to do it.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:24:14 AM   
katts3


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Status: offline 		I agree with what LP had to say,While I never well hardly ever stick my nose into other people relationships,My advice to you is this....You need to get out more among like minded folks,speaking personally ,if I was you I would move on brother..Bountyhunter

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:26:20 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Before the OP's dominant comes rushing in to defend herself, as we have seen before... Please don't use others in your dynamics and to play a role in how you conduct yourselves, especially when you have messed up, and you have. So either way, you screwed up in sending your submissive to get punishment suggestions or in his punishment being this humiliation.

You should be punished.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:32:12 AM   
Arturas


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Status: offline 		Nobody seriously believes this OP is not just having fun with this, right? It's someone wanting attention or a wannabee dom and a wannabee sub both having fun with this. Not that there's anything wrong with that, you understand.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:35:22 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Of course that is always a consideration. Quite common around here.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 9:46:32 AM   
MasterSadric


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Status: offline 		Your tongue should be cut out and fed to you for being disrespectful

WHAT? That's extreme? Insane? Dangerous?

Yes, and that is the risk she is putting YOU under by sending you out to the net for punishments.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 10:02:46 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rawni
Before the OP's dominant comes rushing in to defend herself, as we have seen before... Please don't use others in your dynamics and to play a role in how you conduct yourselves, especially when you have messed up, and you have. So either way, you screwed up in sending your submissive to get punishment suggestions or in his punishment being this humiliation.

You should be punished.

Jog My memory a bit. Who was that F/m pair a couple of years ago where the two of them would come to the boards about Her blatant abuse of him. They would tag team the story about how horribly he was mistreated because she played with him during alcohol/drug abuse that she went to the hospital for alcohol poisoning before the night ended, or some such. I seem to recall that his screen name had "johnny" in it, somewhere.

Do you happen to remember those two?



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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 10:10:33 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		LOL I do remember, but I don't. The names blend together and sometimes the stories as well, but that was one of the more memorable. I will drink some more coffee and see if anything comes to mind and either send you a nick or a link if my brain works.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 10:34:23 AM   
Rawni


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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 12:28:40 PM   
TheLilSquaw


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact


Jog My memory a bit. Who was that F/m pair a couple of years ago where the two of them would come to the boards about Her blatant abuse of him. They would tag team the story about how horribly he was mistreated because she played with him during alcohol/drug abuse that she went to the hospital for alcohol poisoning before the night ended, or some such. I seem to recall that his screen name had "johnny" in it, somewhere.

Do you happen to remember those two?




Yikes!
The things I missed when I was away.


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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 12:50:57 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I suggest as punishment that you actually make your profile viewable.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 1:12:50 PM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: avatrystsboy
made a mistake yesterday, you see i am a sub in training, we have had a stressful few days, and as we were talking i let slip a 'whatever', i knew i had made the mistake, as i am new i am scared, she sent me here for advise on an appropriate punishment, thank you...................

You're not going to like how I'd handle it. I would release you summarily. I wouldn't do so because you were a bad submissive. I'd do so because you clearly don't respect me and I can't figure out why I'd be fooling around with someone who does not. I think everyone deserves a partner that ACTUALLY respects them.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 2:21:23 PM   
tazzygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: avatrystsboy

made a mistake yesterday, you see i am a sub in training, we have had a stressful few days, and as we were talking i let slip a 'whatever', i knew i had made the mistake, as i am new i am scared, she sent me here for advise on an appropriate punishment, thank you...................


I dont know about the punishment. I do know that using "whatever" is rather immature. Something I may use with my friends on rare occasions, something I would not use with my dominant.

I could make 100 suggestions.... but that is the job of your dominant, not a bunch of kinksters on a message board who dont know anything about you.... like your medical history.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 5:21:05 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If he didn't like the word, he'd give me a word or phrase to use that he preferred. No fun stuff, just how to fix a situation.

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RE: mistake - 6/5/2013 5:37:48 PM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: avatrystsboy

made a mistake yesterday, you see i am a sub in training, we have had a stressful few days,
and as we were talking i let slip a 'whatever', i knew i had made the mistake, as i am new i
am scared, she sent me here for advise on an appropriate punishment, thank you...................

I have never been in a relationship with your mistress, so I wouldn't have a clue as to what
punishment she may or may not find appropriate for your supposed transgression.

I do find it hard to imagine the scenario you've put forth though. Think about it for a minute.

Mistress: I understand you're under alot of stress lately, but that is no excuse to neglect your chores.
you: whatever
Mistress: How dare you! Go immediately to Collarchat and find a way for me to punish you!
you: Yes Mistress.

Besides, you once advised another member that he will never get a straight answer from the holy than thou crowd.
What's changed your opinion on that?


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