Why the outrage against fakes?

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DarkSteven -> Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 7:40:11 PM)
Every so often (like three or four times a week), someone posts a diatribe against the fake profiles. Why? I'm a straight Dom male. That means that I'm suited only for straight or bi sub or switch women. They either live here or are willing to move here. That rules out maybe 95%-99% of the women on collarme. Why is it that people have no objection to the people with wrong gender, orientation, side of the kneel, geographic location, etc., but get bent out of shape about the criterion of them being real? That's nothing but another selection category.

JeffBC -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 7:43:47 PM)
Because the other attributes you mention are not a lie.

tazzygirl -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 7:46:44 PM)
Because its the easiest thing to say and who can really dispute it unless you are well known to others?

DesFIP -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 8:23:50 PM)
Nobody likes being scammed. And there are a lot of people who just want to make money and don't care about ethics. However, mostly the ones screaming that we're all fake are idiots without social skills who expect to be able to dip their dicks into the girl of their dreams despite being 30 years older than what she's looking for. After all, they signed up. Aren't they owed an available female delivered immediately to their inbox without being someone that anyone else would want to be with?

SimplyMichael -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 8:32:59 PM)
I just get tired of seeing ten "new" profiles every day and knowing that actual moderation would result in NO new profiles most days. In addition, the "random" profile thing is just as bad. I mean are there even that many 18 yo girls IN the US?

Greta75 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 8:35:27 PM)
Is this in relations to findomme again? What qualifies as a "fake" ?

tsatske -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 8:40:44 PM)
A fake profile is a profile that lies. Most of the profiles that get complained about as fakes, what the poster generally means is, 'not a match for me'. a fake sub is one that doesn't match a particular posters fantasies, for example - ditto for fake Dom. To me a fake is someone who says things that aren't true - like claiming to be in the U.S. when they are really on another continent, or claiming to be a different gender than they are. Other than that, if they are real to themselves, true to themselves, then they are real. They just may not be a match for me. For instance, because I live where I live and am unwilling to relocate, there are several Doms I respect highly on this side that I would not be a good match for - but they are still quite real.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 9:33:08 PM)
No offense intended, but I've met 3 men from Collarme, who are definitely real, but whose profiles turned out to be peppered with lies. All 3 lied about their ages (one by 10 years), one about his race, and 2 about their height! So their profiles had lots of lies but the men weren't fakes. One of them, though, created a female profile to get to me when I cut off contact. I would define that female profile as a fake (funny enough, I liked her a lot...).

littlewonder -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 9:41:31 PM)
because they're angry that they sent an email and got turned down. So of course, he got turned down so she must be a fake! Why else would she turn him down??? [8\|]

stef -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 10:59:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Every so often (like three or four times a week), someone posts a diatribe against the fake profiles. Why? I don't think it's purely outrage against "fakes", whatever the hell that means. I think it's more outrage over the fact that people aren't instantly finding their dream partner and since it's clearly not their fault, they blame these so-called "fakes".

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 11:23:33 PM)
~FRing it~ Lashing out in frustration? Thinking everyone else gives a shit about what they personally consider fake and real? Not really sure, but some worry way too damned much about stupid crap (like fakes) that doesn't really mean much in the grand scheme of things. The ones I personally find highly entertaining are the ones who think that the biggest insult they can levy against someone is the dreaded...dun dun DUN..."you're just a fake and not a weal <fill in the role>" when that someone literally owns them discussion-wise in a forum exchange [:)]

TNDommeK -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/6/2013 11:38:46 PM)
Agree with Stef.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 1:24:20 AM)
I'm shocked nobody complains about Dildos being Fake Cocks!!!

kiwisub12 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 3:57:18 AM)
I've never been outraged about fake profiles - but if i was, it would probably because if i wanted to read fiction, i'd be at Amazon.com buying a book. In other words, a complete waste of time with no redeeming literary value..................... [8\|]

angelikaJ -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 5:07:20 AM)
DS, I don't get it either; this is what I wrote in a post back in 2009 about Fakes: I realised today after seeing yet another forum thread (elsewhere) that I have been seriously deprived. The reason being: I did not have scores of cmails from fakes and scammers. I have met quite a few people in r/l and they were all real. Thinking back on it I wonder if the reason why I never found scores of fakes and wannabes is simply because I wasn't looking for them. I sought information and found plenty of that. I was interested in the possibility of friendships and discovered people I could have that with in varying depths. I was interested in connection and I found that too! When one relationship ended, I did not wring my hands, nor gnash my teeth over how fake he turned out to be. I was gratetful for the experience. I learned. In the beginning, I learned to trust. In the middle, I learned that "direction was more important than speed". In the end, I learned I was stronger than I knew. We are still friends. Now I am in a different relationship that is better suited to my needs. I want to serve Him well...as well as He leads. The chances of it lasting forever are pretty close to nil. I am being realistic, not pessimistic: the odds that any relationship will last forever, is also pretty close to nil. Rumor has it that people eventually die. Today is all we ever really have. So...I am loving being His and loving my "happy middle". IF it were to end tomorrow however, he will not suddenly go from being Master Wonderful to a scum sucking fake. I know the search is frustrating to so many people. There probably are tons of fakes, scammers, liars and wankers. I just didn't notice them. I was too busy getting to know good people and reading interesting posts to have much time for anything else, I think. Perhaps some of this was because I was not in any sort of rush. I don't know.... but I still feel horribly deprived. [8D]

LittleMsMary -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 5:59:36 AM)
I guess I've never really understood people who can get that wrapped up in profiles of people that they've had little to no interaction with. My guess is the reaction comes from people who thought they had stumbled on a fantasy world of real life BDSM porn, and get angry when this "world" ends up being a lot like the vanilla one in many ways. You still have to sort through a lot of people that don't match up with your interests, to find those that do. I don't like the obvious scams any more than anyone else, but I also don't spend any time/energy/effort worrying or thinking about it.

Charles6682 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 6:04:15 AM)
It use to bother me but not as much anymore. There's all kind's of "fake's" out there. Ignore and block. Move on,nothing to see here!

deliriuminabox -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 6:06:44 AM)
The whole "outrage against fakes" thing is one way I decide who I will or will not direct my energy towards though. If I glance over someone's profile and journal and see rantings and ravings about all the fakes and time wasters on this site, or if they try to discuss it in their emails to me, I typically invest less energy in that person than in those who have better things to talk about. I don't necessarily just write them off, though a lot of them end up quietly dropping communication once they realize I have zero desire to bash on other people for not being as "weal and twue" as myself.

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 6:51:00 AM)
I thought we all were fakes.

HisPet21 -> RE: Why the outrage against fakes? (6/7/2013 7:01:54 AM)
IDK why there seems to be so much outrage. Fakes, scammers, and liars on this site have never bothered me. I mean, I run into fake people and scammers and liars in real life all the time and I deal with them the same way, block and delete (i.e. don't associate yourself with people who don't meet your standards of ethics and conduct). Those kinds aren't a threat to me, because I can choose not to hang around them. No biggie. Also, am feeling about as left out as Angelika! How come I only get, like, one or two "kneel bitch" cmails every few months, hmmm? No fair!

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