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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/15/2013 6:04:00 PM

slaveluci

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I am definitely submissive in my everyday life with everyone. I am the type that will sit in the back of the room and try to hide so she's not called on. I'm the one who will never take the lead unless she's forced to and even then I will usually try to push the responsibilities off onto others just so I don't have to deal with it. There's a reason my friends and Master all call me the "mouse in my pocket". I will go along pretty much anywhere and I'm ok with it. I rarely care what we do or where we go. I'm ok either way. So yeah....it's definitely my everyday personality.

Yet it's definitely not how you come across here. You regularly tell it like you see it and put people in what you see as their place. How is it that you are so "go with the flow" and submissive to everyone in person but not here? Just curious.........luci

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/15/2013 6:09:42 PM

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I'm definitely not submissive outside of my relationship and, honestly, it's sometimes difficult to be so IN it. I am a take-charge, no-nonsense kind of person. I am a manager at work and have been in some kind of supervisory role work-wise for well over a decade. I am not shy about speaking my mind and questioning things. As others have said, it doesn't mean I bark orders or boss people around, neither do I "submit" to them. I DEFER to those with wisdom I can learn from, to my bosses within my organization, my mother, etc. I treat them respectfully and listen so as to learn. Big difference from "submitting."

Submission isn't a role I play with Master. It's a way of life I do my best to live to please Him....luci

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/15/2013 6:18:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I am definitely submissive in my everyday life with everyone. I am the type that will sit in the back of the room and try to hide so she's not called on. I'm the one who will never take the lead unless she's forced to and even then I will usually try to push the responsibilities off onto others just so I don't have to deal with it. There's a reason my friends and Master all call me the "mouse in my pocket". I will go along pretty much anywhere and I'm ok with it. I rarely care what we do or where we go. I'm ok either way. So yeah....it's definitely my everyday personality.

Yet it's definitely not how you come across here. You regularly tell it like you see it and put people in what you see as their place. How is it that you are so "go with the flow" and submissive to everyone in person but not here? Just curious.........luci

It's a computer, a bunch of pixels on a screen. Not real life as far as I'm concerned. Plus giving my opinion is just that...an opinion. I don't tell people what to do. I don't go out of my way to make sure their lives are going the way I think it should. I just give a view. I do that all the time. But if they give another view, then I step off to the side and leave it be. I do that here most of the time here as well if anyone has ever noticed. I will maybe respond back a couple of times but after that, I just stop because I realize I have no desire to step into the forefront of the conversation. At work, I give my opinion but I don't tell them how it should be done. I don't tell them they should or should not do something and I only give my opinion when I'm asked. Otherwise I stay at my desk and hope that no one ever comes to my desk. I don't want to be front and center. Master allows me to give my opinion. I give it and then let it go. I don't argue with him, I don't try to get him to change his mind (it's futile anyway

) , I don't take charge of anything at all unless he forces me to. Just because I gave my view doesn't make me not submissive.

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/16/2013 3:39:55 AM

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I am submissive naturally, it is apart of my personality and is not some mode I go into when I enter the bedroom for some play. When I was a little girl I used to play that my doll was a princess from another planet and I was pointed out to be her servant and caretaker so I would bring her tea and wait on her. Like many only child I dreamed of getting a brother or a sister, and I often would fantasize that some unknown uncle would come into the household with a spoiled brat of a daughter that I then had to serve. I fantasied that I would have to sleep in the basement and wait on this brat hand and foot. I used to dream of being captured by the Inquisition, bound and thrown in a cell and I was pretty small when I had these ideas.

I have always been a people pleaseer, I like to do things for others. In my Aspergers support group I am always fetching coffee for others and tending to their needs, because I like to serve others, it makes me feel good.

Sexually I am submissive as well and I always have been.I want to please and be the one that things are done to. This is a part of my psychological make up. Now do this means I am a doormat, no, I can stand up for myself, but I do prefer to do what others tell me to and please them if I can and that is just a part of who I am in everyday life.

I wish you well

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/18/2013 8:14:21 PM

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I have kids. You don't get to raise kids and be single and a submissive. My kids would take over and there would be chaos!

I teach. Again if I were submissive while I teach there would never be any work done.

I have worked in bars some people wouldn't frequent because the patrons are a little vulgar. Can't be submissive there or I could get a lot of bar tabs and no money.

My bedroom is my oasis where I don't HAVE to be hard and assertive. I can let my hair down and relax. I can let someone else worry and take the lead and melt into my submission.

I'm dominant in everything so it gets done but in the bedroom and with a lover I am very submissive and very happy to be that girl that gets your beer and rubs your shoulders. I will listen to your hard day and tell you how you are the queen and if things go right I will thank you for a great flogging

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/18/2013 10:12:19 PM

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I was a single mother and still submissive. I just chose my battles where I felt I had to be more dominant. Did I enjoy it? Not one tiny bit. Every single time I begged for it all to go away and I no longer had to be the dominant mom. I hated every moment of it. My last job I had to be the dominant party and by the end of the day I was so exhausted from the emotional turmoil on me that I came home and crashed into tears every single night. Now I have a new job where I am not the leader, I don't have to deal with people and I get to sit in the background for the most part. It's extremely relaxing to me to be able to do that.

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RE: Submissive, personality or diversion. - 6/19/2013 2:47:10 AM

nephandi

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Greetings

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I have kids. You don't get to raise kids and be single and a submissive. My kids would take over and there would be chaos!

I teach. Again if I were submissive while I teach there would never be any work done.

I have worked in bars some people wouldn't frequent because the patrons are a little vulgar. Can't be submissive there or I could get a lot of bar tabs and no money.

This is how I see it, being submissive do not mean you have to bend back over for everyone. Kids need to have boundaries or they will have trouble when they become adult so in giving them those boundaries you serve them, the same with the ones you teach, without some rules and boundaries you would do them a disservice. Being submissive is not about saying yes, yes, yes all the time, it is a desire to serve others and better others lives and to let that desire rule you. Yes it is a desire to be ruled as well, but sometimes to serve others you have to say no, and there is nothing unsubmissive about that.

I wish you well

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