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tazzygirl -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 8:47:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Cuteness2472 The other ladies pretty much have said it in so many words and made a lot messed up comments about things that were inappropriate . To each it's own. I don't mind hearing good and bad but some things were not right. Unfortunately, the good goes with the bad. And, yes, it can be hard to filter through everything. Bottom line is.... can you tolerate being on hold when he decides to put you on hold? It sorta is what submissives do ... well..some of them. I think you and he need to have an honest discussion about how much attention you both need.. or dont need...from each other and then make your decisions. It could be that he simply doesnt want to give you the attention you need. Or this could be just a temporary situation. But you really cant do anything until you know for sure. And, yeah, I want to commend you for not running from this thread. We can be a rough crew to deal with at times, myself included. But, I get the feeling this is a relationship you want, else you would have just flounced out of here. So, you have to decide if this is a man who is worth some tears. But, if he isnt willing to discuss this situation, you may want to consider moving on.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 8:48:53 PM)
Walking away because you seem to only be looking for attention and not answers like you asked for.....good luck to you. misty

Focus50 -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 9:19:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rawni As you noted, I wasn't on the other thread and I know nothing about it. However, I do hope you aren't implying that I would stick it to someone because of their gender. I know some of the women on this current thread and those I know wouldn't base a stick it to someone on gender. Women factually may be harder on other women in some areas, but some women go beyond gender flaws in how they act and live. I didn't imply anything about what you personally might or might not do. I specifically used the generalisation of "women". Cattiness isn't a new age phenomena.... quote: You are avoiding the real topics here and making people posting on the thread the topic. Nup; almost always address the topic, first. A rare exception might be if someone's made me spray screen and keyboard with my cuppa. But I still make it my business to actually address ANY topic I post in. quote: You also have managed to evade the fact that I asked you a question or two. If you can continue to take this stand... rather than address some very real life issues and concerns... then you are not the Focus I remember. I dunno, there are those less paranoid than me who might think you're attempting to waltz a bloke 'round the dance floor before backing him into a corner. And not for any of the good boy/girl stuff.... Without going back to check, I'm willing to bet dollars to dirt I addressed these "very real life issues and concerns" in my first post here. That I gave my answer. quote: What about the innocent people in the lives of these cheaters? It seems you care more about commenting on the mob mentality and pointing a finger than you do the real reasons that we have commented on this thread. Care to address that? Becauseeeee the "mob mentality" is what's spamming up my screen now. Again, already addressed the topic. Don't know anything about "innocent people in the lives of these cheaters" because they haven't posted here - as far as I know. Besides, who exactly is sposta be the alleged "White Knight" around here? Focus.

tazzygirl -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 9:28:34 PM)
quote: I didn't imply anything about what you personally might or might not do. I specifically used the generalisation of "women". Cattiness isn't a new age phenomena.... Nor is it gender specific. For evidence, take a stroll around P&R.

Focus50 -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 9:37:45 PM)
Lol, "take a stroll around P&R"? Or downtown Kabul? Focus.

sexyred1 -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 9:52:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Cuteness2472 The other ladies pretty much have said it in so many words and made a lot messed up comments about things that were inappropriate . To each it's own. I don't mind hearing good and bad but some things were not right. Jeez, get over yourself lady. You came here and ASKED FOR OPINIONS. You did not like them, so you freak out like whiny child. You don't like what the women here said, so you accuse all the sub women of being mean and angry. Please. No one here is angry or mean. We don't know you enough to even care about you, and caring would imply someone could get angry. We are actually apathetic to you, but since YOU ASKED FOR OPINIONS (REMEMBER?), we gave our opinions based on your words. If you are going to participate in message boards, you take the good with the bad. And I have news for you about the nice Doms who posted. Many men like to ride in on a white horse and save so called newbies from the big bad "mob". That makes them feel good. They also don't care about you. They just love to call everyone here a clique; of which there is none. Also, no women here trash other women or men for that matter; we only judge based on an individual post; at least I do. There is no mob mentality here, it is a collection of strangers on a free kink site and nothing more, nothing less and you will receive courtesy or derision, based on your own posts. There is no kumbaya here just because we like kink. Like I said, get over it or grow up and maybe some of things people have said might be considered helpful advice.

tazzygirl -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 9:59:05 PM)
lol... Gird your loins!

littlewonder -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 10:25:16 PM)
Op, I have a little challenge for you. Go out in the real world and tell them what you told us making sure to tell them about you both being married. Then come back here and tell us about the responses you received. I wanna know if everyone was cute and fluffy towards you.

Cuteness2472 -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 10:47:59 PM)
Oh the big bad subs are giving there big bad replies Grow the hell up. I have talked to the real world sweetheart. You grow the hell up. Your the whiny ones. He'll for all I know your old maids. The cat claws are out. So what if a Dom wants to defend who gives a crap or if a sub wants to defend or whatever to each it's own. Man do none of you negative people have a life a d where are your doms may I ask? Or do you have one or are you something else? Why do I care?

LadyPact -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:08:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Eh? What's "unfair"? I'm not talking about what others choose to respond to in the OP but the manner in which it's collectively going down. Mob rule; feeding frenzy; pack attack; cliquishness; bandwagon - pick one. Or all.... <shrugs> Focus. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree but I think there's a difference. In My opinion, there's a difference between mob mentality and a number of people who would independently say the same thing regarding a subject they find distasteful and/or unethical in their view. Personally, I wouldn't have cared if I'd have been the first person who responded or the hundredth with the same opinion that a poster is doing something screwed up. Particularly when they are harming other folks. The people on the thread gave their independent opinions. The fact that most of them happened to agree that cheating is a messed up way to get your (generic you) kink on isn't a mob mentality. Just because the first ten people on the thread say that they think cheating is a bad thing, doesn't mean that the rest of the folks answering the thread are going to say to themselves that they think cheating sucks, but we have the allotment of responders that hold that opinion, so anybody else joining the thread isn't allowed to give their own. I do have to say, I've never really taken you for somebody who would suggest that folks shouldn't speak their mind. For some reason, I've never gotten the impression from you that, if you thought something was wrong, that you wouldn't call it for what it is just because somebody else had already said their piece. It's entirely possible that I'm incorrect in My estimation on that.

Rawni -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:18:16 PM)
Actually, if someone is going to defend newbies under some sort of attack... any kind of attack... they might find one that has a fine hair of a chance of being worth protecting from the mobsters. Every post she makes proves funnier than the last, especially when she is here and fingering herself talking to her dom. This is actually good thread of the tap, tap kind, but then, I am a mobster kind of gal apparently and I sent one of my guys to bed and this is better than a book. [:D] That guy trying to understand how to explain his inner lesbian almost topped it though.

tazzygirl -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:28:48 PM)
quote: This is actually good thread of the tap, tap kind, but then, I am a mobster kind of gal apparently and I sent one of my guys to bed and this is better than a book. That guy trying to understand how to explain his inner lesbian almost topped it though. I have been thinking of starting my own "tap tap" thread. Something along the lines of... "How do I get as many spankings as I can possibly handle... and then still sit down?" Think that would work?

Rawni -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:33:09 PM)
Oh tazzy, tazzy, tazzy.... I must refrain and you know that hurts. Even I, must show a bit of class once in a while. [;)] All I can say is, that with what I was thinking, that would be a short thread. [:D]

tazzygirl -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:34:00 PM)
Omg! My tummy hurts!

LadyPact -> RE: Dom is different (6/11/2013 11:36:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rawni Actually, if someone is going to defend newbies under some sort of attack... any kind of attack... they might find one that has a fine hair of a chance of being worth protecting from the mobsters. Every post she makes proves funnier than the last, especially when she is here and fingering herself talking to her dom. This is actually good thread of the tap, tap kind, but then, I am a mobster kind of gal apparently and I sent one of my guys to bed and this is better than a book. [:D] That guy trying to understand how to explain his inner lesbian almost topped it though. Yeah. I saw that other thing. Still shaking My head. I think you are right though. There are some things that a very high majority of people aren't going to skip telling somebody they think it's screwed up. Cheating isn't the highest on the list but it's pretty far up there. If I had to take a guess, only underage folks, animals, outting, and direct intentional harm are going to get a higher negative response for an OP.

Cuteness2472 -> RE: Dom is different (6/12/2013 12:29:01 AM)
Oh your comments are funnier and funnier why don't you just go train one of your slaves. Quit looking at my profile if its so funny.

LadyPact -> RE: Dom is different (6/12/2013 1:51:25 AM)
Just so you know, OP, nobody has to go to your profile to read what you recently posted in a journal. It's out there for anybody to see. When you wrote a journal entry to say what fun you were getting up to with your fingers, it's the online equivalent to standing on a crate at your local grocery store to announce to the world what you are doing.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Dom is different (6/12/2013 5:14:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Cuteness2472 Oh your comments are funnier and funnier why don't you just go train one of your slaves. Quit looking at my profile if its so funny. When this is all over with, and he shares your movies with his friends, please do not come back here fussing about how you feel betrayed. Everything you post on the internet is there for anyone to see. Even if you can not decide how long you are willing to play second fiddle to a wife, please consider not being so free with movies and pics of your "tits, ass and cunt" to someone you barely know. Good luck.

Focus50 -> RE: Dom is different (6/12/2013 5:49:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I think we're going to have to agree to disagree but I think there's a difference. In My opinion, there's a difference between mob mentality and a number of people who would independently say the same thing regarding a subject they find distasteful and/or unethical in their view. Personally, I wouldn't have cared if I'd have been the first person who responded or the hundredth with the same opinion that a poster is doing something screwed up. Particularly when they are harming other folks. The people on the thread gave their independent opinions. The fact that most of them happened to agree that cheating is a messed up way to get your (generic you) kink on isn't a mob mentality. Just because the first ten people on the thread say that they think cheating is a bad thing, doesn't mean that the rest of the folks answering the thread are going to say to themselves that they think cheating sucks, but we have the allotment of responders that hold that opinion, so anybody else joining the thread isn't allowed to give their own. I do have to say, I've never really taken you for somebody who would suggest that folks shouldn't speak their mind. For some reason, I've never gotten the impression from you that, if you thought something was wrong, that you wouldn't call it for what it is just because somebody else had already said their piece. It's entirely possible that I'm incorrect in My estimation on that. That's what's been happening? Numerous peoples independently expressing a similar opinion? Kinda like sexyred's first "contribution" to this thread a coupla posts before yours? Independently addressing the topic as opposed to adding to a toxic pile-on at the OP? Think I'll hafta agree with your opening sentence.... lol Focus.

Dyfrynt -> RE: Dom is different (6/12/2013 8:11:46 AM)
Wow. The amount of venom spewing back and forth in this thread. We have long since passed any pretense of a discussion and are just throwing catty remarks and insults between the OP and everyone else. What useful purpose are we achieving at this point? Unless one just enjoys bread and circuses for the entertainment value......

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