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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 12:37:44 PM   
Darkfeather


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Status: offline 		All these picture threads seem rather silly to me. The purpose of posting pictures, other than your main profile one, is purely self gratifying (and even our profile picture can open a whole nother discussion of ID, ego, and superego). That means, you are posting things YOU like, you find attractive, hot, kinky, etc. If others like em, great. If they don't, who really cares?

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 12:49:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I perved your profile and very much liked your choice of photos. They were well done and told a story about you and your desires. I see no reason not to include pictures of others with their permission. I agree with you that pictures can enhance the written description of who you are and what you expect and need.

I just wish I lived close to you...

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 1:16:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I edited my photos and I appreciate the criticism.

I have had a profile here for ages and so some changes over time that leaft things hanging.


I'm glad you weren't offended. That simple statement at the end does make all the difference. It takes it from, "this is what I will you on you, you wench," to "I fancy myself a bit of a craftsman and here is some of my work."

BTW, knowing now that you made them, they are very nice.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 1:22:42 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Okay, NOW I AM OFFENDED!

"a bit" of a craftsman? REALLY?

I am half kidding...LOL

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 1:25:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Dorkfeather

Uh, actually, most pictures on CM are designed to lure men to various scams,and porn sites.

A distant second would be those posting pics in the desperate hope someone will like them enough to contact them.

I am sure some post pics to gratify their egos but they are a very tiny slice...


I agree with you except for one thing. The guys who only post pictures of females in various states of submission. No guy in the picture, none in the whole array, even. They are posting what makes them hot, figuring that is how to lure a woman. Then some of them come in here and don't understand why women don't respond well to them, lol.

As for the nude shots, I don't really want to see them at all, but I realize that is just my personal opinion. I'm also relationship gal, so it always tells me that the person (usually guys who write to me) are leading with the sex aspect, which is a turn off for me.

Then we have the women who post mostly nude, crotch and tits shots who come here complaining how the doms who write them don't want to get to know them and are only interested in sex. Well, duh! What you put out there is what you will get.

ETA: Most men don't seem to understand that as a general rule, us women really don't want to look at pictures of your previous (or current) playmates and partners.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 2:25:27 PM   
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As a top, I do enjoy posting pictures that show My work. This is especially true of My wax shots. I can post pictures of the candles that I've made. Those are nothing compared to what the melted wax looks like on the bottom. I can't duplicate the same look without another human being involved. I can take pics that show the prepared stencils with lit candles around them but it looks so different....... No, it looks better when the candlelight is dancing on the skin.


I'd find those pictures interesting, LP, because I know enough about you to know that you take such 'play' (want of a better word) to quite a level of skill and artistry.

But they'd never be the sorts of pictures that would draw my eye. Instead, I'd zero in on the ones that reveal a hint about your temperament and personality. And, natch, the glam ones. In relation to that last: your face looks very good in profile. Those with you looking to the side are eye-catching. Especially the flame-red-hair ones.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 2:39:49 PM   
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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 5:27:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

All these picture threads seem rather silly to me. The purpose of posting pictures, other than your main profile one, is purely self gratifying (and even our profile picture can open a whole nother discussion of ID, ego, and superego). That means, you are posting things YOU like, you find attractive, hot, kinky, etc. If others like em, great. If they don't, who really cares?


This reminds me of a real life experience. I look rather vanilla. I'm rarely dressed below business casual. No tattoos or piercings (took out my tongue ring years ago), no scarification, a neatly cropped haircut and (lately) a well kempt goatee. I recently dated a girl with all the punk-scene credibility you could imagine. Gauged ears, 10+ piercings on the head alone, septum ring, tongue ring, big random tattoos.

We often talked about how I look like her parole officer. I told her I want people to assume I'm competent, reliable, smart, successful etc. She told me "I look however I want to look, just because." It was not affirmative non-conformity, just what she wanted. She truly didn't care what people thought and tailored her appearance to that she "found attractive, hot, kinky, etc."

I imagine CM to be a giant public park. I'm just walking around feeding the ducks. I want people to think I understand BDSM half well and am not a wanker looking to flash open my trench coat and show of 12 pictures of my cock.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 5:39:17 PM   
Miyani


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Status: offline 		I haven't looked at the pictures, and I'm fast responding, so take them as fresh thoughts, unbiased by anything that has gone before. :P

If someone else is in the picture, I want the picture to be about the act, not about the other person. A picture of some particularly beautiful waxwork looks very different from a picture of the bottom enjoying that waxwork. Seeing a picture that is more focused on the other person than the act makes the poster seem already taken, to me, and I tend not to want to touch that.

So, short answer: A shot *with* another is fine, as long as the focus is not that other.

Edited to add: If he (because I'm usually looking at shots of submissive males) can manage to post a shot of him absolutely blissed out enjoying the act, and at the same time make it not at ALL about the person doing it to him, I'm pretty sold.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 6:19:04 PM   
Darkfeather


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Dorkfeather

Uh, actually, most pictures on CM are designed to lure men to various scams,and porn sites.

A distant second would be those posting pics in the desperate hope someone will like them enough to contact them.

I am sure some post pics to gratify their egos but they are a very tiny slice...


I agree with you except for one thing. The guys who only post pictures of females in various states of submission. No guy in the picture, none in the whole array, even. They are posting what makes them hot, figuring that is how to lure a woman. Then some of them come in here and don't understand why women don't respond well to them, lol.

As for the nude shots, I don't really want to see them at all, but I realize that is just my personal opinion. I'm also relationship gal, so it always tells me that the person (usually guys who write to me) are leading with the sex aspect, which is a turn off for me.

Then we have the women who post mostly nude, crotch and tits shots who come here complaining how the doms who write them don't want to get to know them and are only interested in sex. Well, duh! What you put out there is what you will get.

ETA: Most men don't seem to understand that as a general rule, us women really don't want to look at pictures of your previous (or current) playmates and partners.


Eh, I can understand the "theory" behind posting women shots, same with the genitals closeups. Its similar to the posting of mounted buck heads, or a stuffed bear. Most men are wired to think visually, "this is what I like, this is what I want". Whereas most women can do that abstract "this is what I am about, this is who I am". I expect women who also post genitals, etc. are trying to tap into that man-mentality. Because it does get the guys to look at least.

Also, did I miss something or did I get switched to Dorkfeather recently?

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 6:38:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Thanks for the replies so far. It's kind of cool that the thread is helping Michael out, too. I haven't looked, but I'm guessing folks are talking about that cane that is similar to the one that I saw as it was headed to Detroit?

I'm not big on sexually explicit pics, either. Not something that I'd be likely to post.

With the input so far, I'm thinking adding the part to the profile about having permission from the bottoms to post the shots is a good idea. I realize they are just words on the screen, and some folks probably put up the same thing when they don't have permission, but hopefully it does take that concern away in some cases.

A good point was made about that play or toy pics don't always go over the same way depending on the gender of the person who posted them. I've mentioned the same thing on threads that we've had on this subject in the past. It's one of the imbalances that seems to happen in the difference between male and female tops.

I do want to thank those who complimented the pictures. Yes, a lot of work did go into them and while 'art' may not be favorable to some, in the last month, there have been a lot of shots done. It can be hard to pick out just a few to post.




Just my opinion, but I liked all of your pictures. I agree with you about adding the part about having the bottoms' permission. I realize that some people may put that up even when they don't, but knowing what I know of you around here, that just reinforces who you are ... honest, credible, and respected.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 6:39:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I usually think very badly of people who have pictures of others. Because usually they're of an ex and the bottom hasn't approved the pic. So stating that the people involved are aware that you've posted this and have given approval is a really nice change.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 6:43:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I was single and looking, I found play pictures to be tasteless. I have zero interest in seeing someone playing with another or showing off their toys. It said to me that they were all about sex and kink which is fine, but not what I was looking for.

Now that I'm not single, Master has some play pics on his profile and I'm ok with them but that's because I'm not single and still looking and I know I'm more to him than just sex and kink.

Now as for FemDommes, it's probably a lot different in that men are probably going to be attracted to such things in a profile but then it can backfire on her if she's looking for someone for more than just sex and kink. The FemDomme then just becomes a kink delivery system.


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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 10:26:34 PM   
lthrpup


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Status: offline 		I always enjoy a good quality picture of two people that depicts some aspect of their D/s relationship. It can be as subtle as their looks or more explicit. Unfortunately, such images are much rarer than those I have come to refer to as "too anatomical," which are a turn off for me.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/11/2013 11:27:12 PM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Okay, NOW I AM OFFENDED!

"a bit" of a craftsman? REALLY?

I am half kidding...LOL


Well, if you put you consider yourself "quite the craftsman" you would be accused of being conceited. You just can't win.

Perhaps you should put a caption under the one that looks like a rose stem that says if you don't compliment the beauty of these implements I created with my own two hands, I will show you how this one works!

Geez, even if I'm nice to someone I catch shit.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/12/2013 6:15:02 AM   
Rochsub2009


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Status: offline 		As with most topics around here, you're going to get a wide variety of answers. Some will love what others hate, and vice versa.

Personally, I don't really care what pics people post. For each of them, the pics that they select are a reflection of their personality, so it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Frankly, if someone doesn't like the pics that another person posts, that may be an indication that the two of them aren't compatible. So the pictures can be a fast and efficient method of elimination.

I do have one pet peeve though. It's much more common over on Fet than it is here. But I hate it when people post 500 pictures on their profile, and not a single one is of them. If I'm looking at profile pics, it's because I want to see what the person looks like. I don't want to see 200 pictures of their cat, nor do I want to see their personal porn collection.

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/12/2013 7:23:33 AM   
nephandi


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I do enjoy seeing play shots in profiles, they often have allot of depth and emotion and are easteically pleasing to look at, I also do not have a problem with full nudity and full on action but I am not sure that is allowed by the site, but I can be wrong about that.

For me since it was mentioned other places I do like to see objects places up people's various openings, I love seeing bondage and spanking pictures. However what I do not like to see is just that. I mean just scrolling by a profile fine, but when I read the profile I also like to see these people walking in the woods with their dog, or getting ready for a convention or just relaxing in the couch, for no matter how great kink is, there is more to all of us than just the kinky sides.

One thing I just adore seeing is kink in everyday life kind of pictures, not naked, not porn, but the sub kneeling at her Master's feet while they eat breakfast, or a sub with her hands bound and a computer game controller in them anyway, I think those pictures are fun.

For me if I where to add more spicy pictures to my profile I would not do holes and such things, but I might do a few bondage pictures or a red bottom one, but nothing to explicit, this is not the place for amateur porn.

I wish you all well.


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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/12/2013 7:42:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
When I was single and looking, I found play pictures to be tasteless. I have zero interest in seeing someone playing with another or showing off their toys. It said to me that they were all about sex and kink which is fine, but not what I was looking for.

Now that I'm not single, Master has some play pics on his profile and I'm ok with them but that's because I'm not single and still looking and I know I'm more to him than just sex and kink.


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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/12/2013 4:07:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		LadyPact, I think all of your pics are tastefully done and I like them. That wax looks really cool.

Michael, I like yours too. And that's cool that you made those toys. Nice.

I really have no problem with play or BDSM pictures as long as there aren't genitals in the pictures. I mean, WTH? We all have genitals, what's so special about somebody's? lol

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RE: Opinions on top/bottom pictures - 6/12/2013 4:15:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with this. I like people to put up any photos they think are a good idea to display. It works as a split second culling tool for me. Though I'm cool with seeing 200 pictures of their dog; that gives me important information too

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