tazzygirl
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As people love to say when talking about BD/SM, that 'everything in life has risks' and what they are saying in effect is that BD/SM is no different than other things in our lives, that we either are willing to take the risks, depending on our personal levels of risk aversion, or not, and that after that it is always possible to have things go wrong. It ia very much like extreme sports, base jumping, deep scuba diving, you name it, people know the risks and are willing to take them.
I think, though, that it is important people talk about the risks, that even if statistically few people are really hurt by BD/SM play, because it keeps people focused on them, pure and simple. That doesn't mean sitting there and saying "oh, you shouldn't do that, slave joi broke her leg doing that at Living in Leather 99 1/2 in Podunk, Iowa", what it means is drilling into people's heads the risks so that they are aware of them and do whatever is possible to try and minimize them. If you take the attitude that "well, in over 1 million times of slave being whipped during play, only 4 ever died", it is how the number goes up cause then people go stupid, assume there is nothing to worry about, and that is how stupid accidents happen. There is kind of an analog to that, teen drivers, especially boys, can be a menace on the road, they are often doing stupid things, like driving cars beyond their limits, darting in and out of traffic racing each other, and so forth. However, there also are different classes of that type based at least on my own experiences, there were those who understood cars, their limits (and/or had to repair the cars if they caused something to break) and while they could do crazy things, they kind of had healthy respect for what could happen and did what they could to try and make sure something bad didn't happen, and then there were the clueless jackasses who knew nothing about their cars, had no respect for what they were doing, and would end up wrapped around a tree in their shiny Trans Am or whatever daddy bought them (confession, I cried for the tree, not the moron who managed to kill himself doing that, and for the often innocent passenger they would take with them).
In BD/SM, it means having a healthy respect for what we are doing, understanding the risks, and keeping them in mind without being a bunch of whiny ass worried types saying "oh, don't do that, its dangerous"....Reminds of someone with a kid and trying to wrap them in bubble wrap, and for example won't let them climb a tree because they might fall and break an arm or something, it is part of life, to take risks, and learn from them *shrug*.
Thank you! 
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