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cutiewithabootie -> Mentor (6/21/2013 6:37:36 AM)

Hello ladies and gentle men.

I had a mentor in the past that was awesome about bouncing ideas off of. She was a submissive like myself and she was amazing. Seriously, if ever I aspired to be like someone else it was her. I miss the closeness and the feelings of relating. I was wondering if any of you have had such an experience? Do you thing submissive mentors are necessary?
Have any of you mentored another person?

Maybe we can discuss this further.

Me



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Mentor (6/21/2013 7:09:50 AM)

I've never had one, but probably would have benefited from something like then when I was new, not least because I was also very young and new to adult relationships in general. Now I'm pretty secure and established in my position and don't intend to start a new relationship any time soon I don't feel like I'd need one - at least not more than anyone needs friends to talk to.

I've never been the mentor either - I wouldn't be against the idea but a) still pretty young and I don't think many older people want advice on relationships from a 26yr old, b) I don't go to public events and c) I don't have technical proficiency to share in any field of kink so I'd be no help for someone wanting to learn to wield a flogger. I've certainly made some mistakes that I try to talk about here honestly, because I see others acting in a similar way.

Sounds like you had a good thing going on with this woman.



cutiewithabootie -> RE: Mentor (6/21/2013 7:30:27 AM)

We were actually very close. She wasn't a mentor because I was new, she was a mentor because there was a lot I wanted to learn that her particular skills could help me. She was very graceful and had a quiet dignity about her. Watching her was amazing. You would think it was the most dignified priviledge to have to press your forhead against her Masters boots.

she seemed so perfect and almost incapable of making a mistake. She would tell me how many times she screwed up or something went wrong, but I never saw it. If there was a perfect submissive she was it to me.

I miss her. Unfortunately her health isn't very good anymore.



BitaTruble -> RE: Mentor (6/21/2013 11:14:08 AM)


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ORIGINAL: cutiewithabootie

Hello ladies and gentle men.

I had a mentor in the past that was awesome about bouncing ideas off of. She was a submissive like myself and she was amazing. Seriously, if ever I aspired to be like someone else it was her. I miss the closeness and the feelings of relating. I was wondering if any of you have had such an experience? Do you thing submissive mentors are necessary?
Have any of you mentored another person?

Maybe we can discuss this further.

Me


::another partial repost - I must be feeling lazy today!::

Mentor

Generally, that's someone who has already walked the path you are about to step on. As a female of the submissive persuasion, I tend to mentor other females of the submissive persuasion.


Please read this next part very careful. It might be the most important sentence in this entire article.


My advice to you is not to listen to me.


Wait! Wait! Let me rephrase that a bit.


My advice to you is not to listen to 'just' me.


Asking a diverse group of folks the same question will garner you, of course, diverse answers and even though one person may say the exact same thing as another, the overall tone, style or way they say it may speak to you in the way another voice does not. When you hear (or read) the one which resonates with you, that's your gut telling you that it's probably the idea that you should consider first. That doesn't mean you can't consider other viewpoints but your gut instinct is your ultimate mentor and best friend. When used in conjunction with your mind it packs a powerful one-touch punch and when you add in that little thing that thumps behind the ribcage in your chest you are well on your way to finding the best answer to whatever it is that you question about life, the Universe and everything except for algebra. For that, you'll still need to study.



kalikshama -> RE: Mentor (6/21/2013 12:29:29 PM)

Another female submissive was quite helpful to me after I joined collarme.

<tangent>Unfortunately, I had been fuck buddies with her Dom before I met her and learned she thought he was BDSM monogamous with her (they are swingers; hence my confusion.) He was pissed at me because I wouldn't play with him anymore and she eventually found out about our prior history and was pissed at me too. </tangent>



Kana -> RE: Mentor (6/21/2013 3:30:05 PM)

My slaves have always been my best mentors.
Nobody else even comes close.


Well, except maybe life. Life just kicked my ass, taught me some solids about what's involved in being an adult.



cutiewithabootie -> RE: Mentor (6/22/2013 7:49:01 PM)

@Kana- they must be very lucky slaves to be so highly thought of in your esteem



SimplyMichael -> RE: Mentor (6/22/2013 8:00:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

My slaves have always been my best mentors.
Nobody else even comes close.



Kana, well said!



msj2u -> RE: Mentor (6/22/2013 10:44:57 PM)

I have mentored both Dominants and subs. Enjoyed each time.


MSJ



I'm the One your mother didn't warn you about



nephandi -> RE: Mentor (6/23/2013 4:08:36 AM)

Greetings

I have never had a another submissive woman as a mentor. I had a teacher in the art of spiritual BDSM for a while and he is very knowledgeable and kind, we did end up disagreeing on my life extension work though as he felt one should just embrace growing old and dying and I do not so we stopped our teacher/student relationship. My teacher is a Dominant man though, that is the closest thing I have had to a mentor in a BDSM sense of the word.

I wish you well



Kana -> RE: Mentor (6/23/2013 6:56:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: cutiewithabootie

@Kana- they must be very lucky slaves to be so highly thought of in your esteem

Au contraire. I was, and am, an exceptionally lucky Master to have women of such exquisite knowledge and high moral caliber deign to serve, much less school, a moron such as little ole moi.



SilverKit -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 1:47:11 PM)

I think mentors are amazing, or well can be. I think someone said that a mentor is someone who has walked a path you are looking at taking.
And sometimes you just pick someone to help you keep your head above water. It's a great thing to have, be it sub or Dom or sWitch, I think everyone who is doing any sort of S&M play should have a mentor.



chemeli -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 1:55:46 PM)

Often, mentors are guys (or girls) just wanting to have free sex. the best way to learn, in my opinion, about what you need and want, is to make mistakes and to try things without any *guiding* hands. In a situation like yours though, it's perfect. But mostly, it's just crap.

You can have a mentor who can teach you how to do bondage or how you'd feel completely bound and gagged etc, without the sex. I dont see how it is any fun but hey, to each their own.



littlewonder -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 4:55:13 PM)

I call those people, friends, not mentors.



Kalista07 -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 4:57:17 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: cutiewithabootie

@Kana- they must be very lucky slaves to be so highly thought of in your esteem

Au contraire. I was, and am, an exceptionally lucky Master to have women of such exquisite knowledge and high moral caliber deign to serve, much less school, a moron such as little ole moi.




You are killing me here!!!

Kali



BambiBoi -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 6:40:22 PM)

I'm wary of people whose mentor are their master. Less so vice-versa. The mentor-mentee relationship is unique in that a mentor is supposed to help, but not fulfill. You still bumble through life your own way, but you hear this person's advice. Maybe they've made that mistake before, maybe they've seen something like that before. To me, a good mentor makes sure you have the freedom to fail, but is not a safety net when you do. When you would have been worthy adversaries, but because one is so new and the other experienced, there is no need to compete.

A mentor is the harbinger for a new piece on the board, but not its commander.



MasterCaneman -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 8:09:00 PM)

...And really bad music...but I'm still a fan....Long live El Duce!



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littlewonder -> RE: Mentor (6/25/2013 8:18:50 PM)

I like to consider Master to be my guru. [:)]



Kana -> RE: Mentor (6/26/2013 8:14:53 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: cutiewithabootie

@Kana- they must be very lucky slaves to be so highly thought of in your esteem

Au contraire. I was, and am, an exceptionally lucky Master to have women of such exquisite knowledge and high moral caliber deign to serve, much less school, a moron such as little ole moi.




You are killing me here!!!

Kali

You say that like it's a bad thing [:)]



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