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LittleGirlHeart -> RE: Dont let a stranger have your kid at wal mart! (6/22/2013 5:05:44 PM)
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Walmart greeter or not, or what ever cover story they had, I would have said nope. sorry, don't know you. you will not be taking my child anywhere.
I would be absolutely ok with being seen as having issues, or being paranoid,
The second article says he befriended her a week before an offered to buy them clothing at walmart they looked like they needed it.
You hear about someone who trusted their kid to be out of their sight for just a moment, or they were only over there, they should have been fine.
America's most wanted host John walsh, felt confident his son would be ok two toy store isles over, his son kidnapped and murdered.
Kids have been molested in the bathroom by a stranger, and shoot, here in the mall an adult was sexually assaulted in a bathroom by another adult.
You shouldn't need to have been molested before to have it occure to you that your child shouldn't go off with a person you only met the week before, or to know that there's dangers to being to trusting.
If that's the case then they shouldn't be parents in my opinion, or they need a care taker to tag along and make sure they are not so nieve they are a danger to themselves, which again in that case they have no business having kids, if they need a care taker.
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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia
He could have passed himself off as a Walmart greeter, as someone else said. Our society forces us to trust people whether we want to or not, and we are seen as paranoid or "with issues" if we say no and keep the apron strings short/tight.
A determined predator WILL bring down prey. Most pedophiles don't forcefully snatch children...tricking them is so much easier and less risky. Who knows, she might have seen him in the store or in her community several times before and thought that nice helpful man (who's kids and grandkids had grown up and moved away) was really just another kind human being who would watch over a kid (maybe he's the one who said he was going to Walmart's McD's and the daughter started hollering that she wanted to go too) so that they got back to their parent safely.
DomKen, people have hired me to take care of their children after talking with me for ten minutes. They have gone off to the movie theater, leaving me in their home with their precious child/infant/children when they didn't even know my last name or where I lived, nor did they check out any references. My mother had to do the same when finding babysitters for us.
We trust our children to go into a store's bathroom by themselves by about six years of age, trusting that nobody in the busy bathroom will molest them. We send them walking to school, waiting at school bus stops, we trust them with teachers, teacher's assistants, coaches, Sunday school "teachers", for slumber parties, birthday parties, door to door selling of candy or whatever to raise money for the school or for band or whatever, giving money so their kids can run down the block to where the icecream truck is stopping to sell goodies, going door to door seeing if neighbors want some yard work or snow shoveling or car washing or dog washing done, on field trips, to ballet or karate class, etc. Each time...we are trusting strangers not to molest, hurt, kidnap, or kill our kids.
I'm too paranoid to let some stranger take my kid to some place within a store I'm shopping in...but then, I've caught a lot of hell over the years from people who insisted my kid would handle himself just fine without my watching over him. Without having been a victim many times over as a small child, I never would have been so vigilant with my own son. Yes, I went on all field trips, spent a lot of time in his classrooms, went to birthday parties with him, wouldn't allow him to do any fund raising, didn't allow slumber parties other than in my own home, went to him to karate class, and yes, made him come with me into the ladies' bathroom until he was 11 years old (keep in mind that he's autistic)...and even then, when I sent him into the men's bathroom, I lurked in the opened outer doorway, listening carefully and calling out to him every minute. Anything triggering my Spidey senses and I would have rushed in, damn the consequences.
I'm saying that if the mother had never been molested as a kid herself, likely she was just the average human being who was clueless that something like this could happen. Imagine! A pedophile having the balls to make friends with a mother because he wants to make use of her little kid! He's supposed to be the dirty old recluse that lurks in dark alleys, luring kids with offers of candy, not someone who will make sure the parent can ID him in a lineup.
Some parents drop their kids off at theaters to watch some Disney movie and will drive off to go shopping, picking them up when the movie is over. Other parents take their kid to video arcades in malls while the parents go off shopping. Do you really think this is better/safer than what this woman did? (Any of those kids could be molested.)
The only difference between this mother and millions more just like her (who let their kids go off to some massive birthday party at Chuck E Cheese or a video arcade in a mall, etc.) is that a pedophile had targeted her kid and was good at capturing his prey. I don't see the trust she placed in this stranger as any different than the trust (and risk we take) when we send our young elementary school aged kid off to summer camp, etc.
My mother never met any of our horney teenaged camp counselors, the bus driver, the cooks, etc. Hell, she never even met the parents of the kids who asked me to birthday parties when I was in school, nor the people I stayed with when their kids asked me to go to slumber parties and I had a note that let me take the school bus home with them and return the following day on that bus, seeing my mother when I got home from school the next day.
In some environments you simply feel safe. Especially when there are security cameras everywhere and lots of people to intervene if the kid should scream, "HELP! He's not my daddy/grandpa/whatever!"
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