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Arymuzs -> disappointed (6/22/2013 4:34:40 PM)

My wife and I have been using this site for over a week now, but ain't getting any play... I know we' re not super kinky, but I didn't think I would feel this aw km ward and unwanted trying to set up a 3 way on a bdsm webpage... please have there be a hot girl in here to tell me that I'm still sexy and I haven't lost my edgesomebody say something inspiring lol



Rawni -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 4:44:33 PM)

So basically, if we are on a site 'like this' women should be opening their legs for strangers, just for fun?



lizi -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 4:45:10 PM)

Yeah, there aren't a lot of sexy little bi women floating about that would prefer a NSA arrangement with a couple. I'm sure it happens here and there, but it seems to be rare. Some couple's have been looking for years to find someone, a week isn't much. I'm not sure how what you're looking for is BDSM...maybe try something for swinger's or CL?



Arymuzs -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 4:57:29 PM)

Could you recommend a good site??? Thank you for the input



lizi -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 4:59:42 PM)

I'm sorry, I don't know of any sites for you, I'm not a swinger, I'm monogamous. I did mention Craig's List, I've heard some others talk about that being a good place to try, I wouldn't know.



MsLadySue -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:00:21 PM)

Google is your friend.



jlf1961 -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:02:09 PM)

Try Fetlife, and look for locals.

Other than that, you can try the "instant" hook up sites that charge you to contact people.

Most of the users on collarme are looking for a bit more than a play partner.

As for a sight unseen, random hook up, I think anyone that would consider doing that is asking for trouble. Might I suggest you read the :Craig's List Killer."



TNDommeK -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:11:40 PM)

Craig's list, adult friend finder etc



tazzygirl -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:25:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Arymuzs

My wife and I have been using this site for over a week now, but ain't getting any play... I know we' re not super kinky, but I didn't think I would feel this aw km ward and unwanted trying to set up a 3 way on a bdsm webpage... please have there be a hot girl in here to tell me that I'm still sexy and I haven't lost my edgesomebody say something inspiring lol


So, what you two are looking for is a female to play with her while the male of the group looks on.....

How are your credit card balances?



FrostedFlake -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:29:48 PM)

I suggest ordering a pizza and putting the ol' moves on whoever brings it.



msj2u -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:34:47 PM)

Wow, a whole week???


I'm the One your mother didn't warn you about



MasterCaneman -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:49:28 PM)

Okay. You haven't lost your edge, something inspiring. What you want is only going to be found with somewhat more than a week. The scene is even harder than vanilla hookups to get what you want. You either have patience or ready cash for what you want to achieve. Not being a dick, but that's reality. Best of luck to both of you. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't.



angelikaJ -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:51:08 PM)

Patience?

And then some more patience... .

Smart people tend to be a bit careful about things like internet safety and vetting the people they are considering sleeping with.

If you aren't willing to take the time to get to know someone, a lot of people are not going to think you are worthy of their time or the risks involved.




LittleGirlHeart -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 5:55:26 PM)

I don't know if this site is legit or not, but they claim to be a swingers personals and porn site.

http://swingers.com/



Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 6:10:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rawni

So basically, if we are on a site 'like this' women should be opening their legs for strangers, just for fun?



why yes in his mind we should be excited at fresh meat. OY



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 6:22:41 PM)

BDSMdate.com-they advertise as a dating site but it is owned by alt.com. I stopped using it because it is, basically, vanilla people pretending to be kinky, horny men who think all subs are horny nymphos and "models" who want to chat...The ones who claim to be "serious" usually give off signals that make it obvious that they are only "serious" about porn watching.



bamabbwsub -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 6:47:52 PM)

Sexyads.com. It isn't a BDSM site, but it's got some kinksters there. And the people are pretty friendly. It is a pay site, though, unless you can find someone who is already a member; then you can contact them for free.

As others said, though, a week is not a long time to be looking. Patience, grasshoppers!



sexyred1 -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 7:04:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: msj2u

Wow, a whole week???


I'm the One your mother didn't warn you about


I was just going to say that.

Patience is such a virtue.



poise -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 7:08:34 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Arymuzs
.. please have there be a hot girl in here to tell me that I'm still sexy and I haven't lost my edge

If it's your wife that will be the one actively playing, why should your sexiness, or lack thereof, matter?
What you are looking for is a pretty popular fantasy, but you'd have better luck finding someone to
fulfill it on sites such as the ones previously mentioned. Good luck, and don't forget to play safe!



angelikaJ -> RE: disappointed (6/22/2013 7:16:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Arymuzs

My wife and I have been using this site for over a week now, but ain't getting any play... I know we' re not super kinky, but I didn't think I would feel this aw km ward and unwanted trying to set up a 3 way on a bdsm webpage... please have there be a hot girl in here to tell me that I'm still sexy and I haven't lost my edgesomebody say something inspiring lol


Self-confidence is an inside job.

However, if you are in a loving, committed relationship and you don't get that you are still sexy, then something is wrong.
Either she is not communicating it well to you or you are having difficulty with receiving (and believing) her... in which case, please refer to my first sentence.

edit: punctuation



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