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HisTicia -> Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:00:16 AM)
Okay.. I did it to myself... I mean.. I know better, right? I gave up my home.. and everything... drove away..and got here...now .. I have to find someplace to go again...lol laughs through tears The thing is.. he and I are fine.. I mean.. it's everything I had hoped (not joking)..but his ex-wife doesn't want him with anyone..and came over last night...threw a fit. Called and said he had to pick...well.. he did.. and I have to leave by the end of the weekend. My heart is broke.. so broke.. I can't even hardly function.. I cried and dreamed about it all night. It's worse..because I am stuck here.. till the weekend.. I have to pack and all of that crap..and he is going to rent me a car to get back to IN. Not sure what I will do after that... I won't have a place to live in a month or so...I am pretty much screwed. The thing is .. I am not mad.. I think it hurts too bad to be mad yet... I know that this hurts him also. Nobody should have to make the choice he is right now....and nobody should have to be on my end of it either. I knew I couldn't be allowed to be happy... that is what happens when you put yourself out there I guess... I mean.. I always thought a bit of happiness was worth any pain..but now.. that's a load of crap...lol. I would much rather not know what I am losing...than to know. Sorry.. didn't mean to ramble on so...I am just pretty upset..and I need to start packing...I just got unpacked..now in defeat.. I pack it all back up. Yesterday was good.. Sunday was good.. I had two days of happiness.. and I am grateful for them. Maybe that is more than some get.. I don't know.. but.. sure seems I should be about due.. I know there will be those that say I told you so...but trust me.. I have done enough of that in the last 9 hrs... along with falling apart all the way around. I wish I could take this time to start over..but I don't see any way.. i don't know a soul around here...or have any options. Oh, well... I said I would let everyone know... I still know it can happen.. and he and I would have worked..but...with the other thing... there is just no way. ~drea

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:14:57 AM)
*Ticia... we're in Indiana and can offer you a couch if you need one hon. Feel free to message me on the other side.* *Jewel*

Level -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:15:54 AM)
*warm hug* I'm sorry this happened. I'm guessing there are kids involved, she's using them as a threat? Or what? Either way, he is being weak, or so it seems to me. Try to be strong; first things first, find a place to stay, get back on your feet, and know that not everyone will let you down like that. Love and happiness exists. Level

bandit25 -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:21:21 AM)
Ticia, I am so sorry. I was hoping that it would work out for you. Like Level said, just take a deep breath and first things first. No, no one should have to be on your end of it. But please don't think that you don't deserve to be happy...you do! Everyone does. Make a list of what you need and cross them off as you do them. Believe me it will help if you can see that you are accomplishing something. My heart goes out to you.

feastie -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:23:18 AM)
Worry about the fallout later. Make some phone calls, maybe you can get your job and apartment back... Call a friend and ask for a place to stay till you can get back on your feet.

RavenMuse -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:28:45 AM)
On the bright side, you now are in a possition to go ANYWHERE. Pick carefully, rebuild and don't give up on reaching for what you want, just learn from this and don't make the same mistake again.

texasbutterfly -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:31:12 AM)
what she is not telling you is that he is being so good enough to give her a car and gas money. he has her leave everything...and i mean everything to come live with him and now he is good enough to give her a car and gas to go back to where she has nothing left. drea, i told you that you would get support here and you have. i know you can find happiness, but it is not going to come find you. this is your chance to take the bull by the horns and start a new life for yourself. i know it is hard, and i know it hurts more than you ever thought it could. you know i am here for you, i wish i could be there for you. just remember what i keep telling you...it will get better...it has to. btw...i agree...you do deserve some happiness and some good in your life...you will find it. i know you will. cat

SweetSubTrisha -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:41:31 AM)
Ticia.. my heart goes out to you as well. I've been following your posts on here regarding your journey and truly feel that you will do just fine in what you must do now. I think that you have shown exceptional courage, by stepping out of your comfort zone by reaching for what you know you need and giving it your all. That takes a very strong person, which i feel you are. You should feel proud of yourself. Not many have the guts to do what you did... they only dream about it. Please, take care. ~trisha

meatcleaver -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:54:48 AM)
I went through something similar and in little over two years I'm in a position I would have killed for two years ago. Look upon your position as an opportunity to start again. It took me months to realise the bitch I had been dealing with had done me a favour. I'd still like to rip her throat out though.

pahunkboy -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:56:13 AM)
Something doesnt sound right. If you want i can call you. hugs

pahunkboy -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 4:59:17 AM)
That guy is the dumbest guy in north america!! I hope he sees this post. Hey dumbazz!

MistressDiane -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 5:05:58 AM)
The thing is .. I am not mad.. I think it hurts too bad to be mad yet... I know that this hurts him also. Nobody should have to make the choice he is right now He's a real jackass and really doesn't deserve your sympathy. He should have had these issues worked out already and not dragged you into his drama. You don't ask someone to leave their life behind when they themselves have looming issues. you can't convince Me that he wasn't aware. He was chasing a dream and trying to pretend the nightmare wasn't there.

fullofgrace -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 5:23:04 AM)
oh gosh. i am so sorry, love. big big hugs i can't say anything advice-wise that hasn't already been said, i just want you to know that i've been thinking of you and your situation, and i am sending you much good energy/thoughts/prayers that things work out for moving back (or moving wherever you choose to move - as ravenmuse said, you can rebuild anywhere, now). and florida is pretty far away from indiana, but anytime you are close to here, you're welcome to stay with me for a few days. if i can be of any help or you just need to talk, message me on the other side and i'll give you my cell #. god, this is awful. he has no right to drag you into his ex drama :\ none at all. this is entirely something he should have dealt with before he ever went looking for a submissive. good luck. hugs

LaTigresse -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 5:42:29 AM)
What a horses hiney!! Obviously he was not thinking and that is very sad.

Rule -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 5:51:40 AM)
That sucks. The universe will arrange for you to 'accidentally' meet a suitable dominant. Be aware of the opportunity and grasp it when it happens.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 5:58:41 AM)
fast reply: Thanks every one so much.. for the offers to stay and everything.. it makes me cry that you all are so nice. I mean..I know I got myself into this..but.. dammit.. I honest to God thought this was it.. really, I did. I never would have packed up otherwise.. I am not that kind of person. Yes... he did know..but.. he thought he had done things right..he had asked..double checked..and everyone seemed fine. It wasn't until she came last night that all hell broke loose. I know he is hurting also.. I mean.. this is a hard choice for him..and I know me being upset and crying..begging and pleading.. isn't helping. I am trying to be strong..really I am.. I guess I just think if I beg enough.. plead enough.. he will change his mind. Makes me feel sort of pathetic...but I did it anyway. He said he will talk to someone today... and see what he thinks...but.. to pretty much plan on going home..so..that is where my mind is trying to go. Not sure where that is.. I thought I was home..finally.. I had a place I belonged..and someone to belong to..just a few hrs ago..it was perfect. Now.. he and I both are broken..and hurt... it's just the most horrible situation on both sides. Thank you.. for all of the love though.. really.. my friend msged me and told me to come and read...if the damn screen wasn't so blurry it would help.. Hope that made sense.. my thoughts are hard to contain in one total direction right now.. so please forgive me.. ticia Sorry.. I didn't see I was signed in under my old name.. apoligize for the confusion...

HisTicia -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 6:13:29 AM)
sorry for the above.. i was closing my profile..and forgot to change names since i don't use it.. Thank you all again.. I just wanted to say that...really... from the bottom of my heart.

lisa1978 -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 8:58:14 AM)
I am so sorry that it did not work out. From your post it sounds like you are doing real well as can be expected from something like this happening. If you start to get seriously down just remember that it will get better and to live and learn is a part of life. Not the good part but still a part of life. Sounds like you deserve some serious ice cream consumption. Please take care.

reticence -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 9:15:37 AM)
just hugs her friend i am so sorry... to echo what others have said, think of this as a new beginning.. i am here for you,

mnottertail -> RE: Go easy on the "I told ya so's" please... (6/27/2006 9:17:57 AM)
I was in his situation once........ended up the woman just wanted to fuck me up, more than she had to that point, so I lost one of the best slaves I ever had.

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