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Having trouble finding a mistress - 6/24/2013 5:52:45 AM

MikeR15

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I am struggling finding a Dom in my area that is for one real or what I am looking for any suggestions???

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RE: Having trouble finding a mistress - 6/24/2013 6:07:03 AM

MNatasha

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Where do you live? I am MNatasha in Va.

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RE: Having trouble finding a mistress - 6/24/2013 6:07:07 AM

DarkSteven

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Hi, Mike. Please forgive a reply from a Dom male here.

You've got a big drawback to overcome, being 18. You'll need to prove yourself mature.

1. Check your writing. Spelling and grammar men more on the Internet than in real life. Yours need help.
2. Who are you? Your profile says you're a new sub who will do anything his Mistress asks. That's standard, and gives no impression who YOU are. My impressions: your pic shows you're athletic and likely gregarious. Your final entry shows you do accounting or are studying it. Those impressions are conflicting, and I don't know if you're outgoing and like meeting people, or quiet in the corner.
3. Women like having pictures painted for them. Ask yourself what a vanilla first date with a woman would be like, and convey that in your profile. A picnic, a walk around a park, a movie, a game of chess...?
4. More pics. Show the things you like to do. Riding a horse, dressed up for dinner, playing an instrument, etc.

You've been on collarme two weeks. What have you tried to meet women thus far? Browsing local profiles and contacting women, going to munches, attending play parties, what?

Finally, what kind of woman do you want? Age range? Political bent? Religious or not? Hobbies?

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ORIGINAL: MNatasha

Where do you live? I am MNatasha in Va.

His profile says he lives in Bayport, NY. And you're a pro and his profile doesn't indicate he wants a pro. Doesn't look like a match to me.

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 6/24/2013 6:08:51 AM >

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RE: Having trouble finding a mistress - 6/24/2013 6:37:37 AM

SeekingTrinity

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Yep, what DarkSteven said. I'm a female dominant and agree with his thoughts. I don't really know much of anything about you after reading your profile.

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RE: Having trouble finding a mistress - 6/24/2013 6:54:28 AM

AthenaSurrenders

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It's tough for male subs because they outnumber female dominants, and that seems even more exaggerated on the internet. You might have more luck in person, have you looked into groups in your area? It's even tougher because you are 18. Whereas a guy of 35 might have a good shot with women ten years younger and ten years older, you're at the lowest point of legal so you can only look for women your age and older - numbers are against you. A lot of women the same age as you won't have figured out their kinky tastes yet, and a lot of older women might not want an 18 year old for fear they have nothing in common and/or because they're looking for something long term, and not many relationships at 18 last forever.

Sounds grim, right? The good news is that you are the right end of the age equation - you're getting older every day.

The reason people are asking if you go to munches and parties is because the dominant women on sites like this get a LOT of messages, and sadly a lot of those are from wankers. You might be the perfect guy for a woman, but there's a good chance she'll never know that because you're just another name in her inbox and you have to be lucky to be noticed at all. By showing up in person you have already proven you are up for more than cybersex. You will have a lot less guys in competition and you have chance to let your personality shine - big secret, women like personality. She can find a thousand guys who will lick her pussy, but how many of those guys are interesting and kind?

Not saying give up on collarme, just make it one of your options. Spend some time looking at male sub profiles to see your competition - who do you think comes across well? Then improve your profile. I would say ditch the part about very few limits - if you are new, you just don't know what your limits are yet. I've done things I NEVER thought I would do. I also used to think I'd be a hardcore masochist - turns out I'm a total wimp. A decent dominant will work with you figuring out your tastes and limits. Having hardly any limits isn't as big a selling point as some people seem to think. There tends to be more guys into extreme and/or unusual fetishes than women, so the women who IS turned on by shit/castration/flesh-hooks can generally find their kink somewhere. Come to think of it, I've never heard a mistress complain that she can't find a male sub willing to do 'x' with her. Just be honest about your inexperience, learning together is one of the fun parts.

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