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SimplyMichael -> Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 11:51:43 AM)

What sort of kinks that used to be hot, like oh I don't, anal bleaching, fisting, or something, that used to be hot but you lost interest in, or it morphed into something very different and why the change?



shiftyw -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 12:23:49 PM)

I had been really into breath play.
I have a thyroid goiter now and it is decidedly even MORE unsafe than before. The appeal has really disappeared and I just find it kinda dangerous now that I've educated myself a little more.



Kana -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 3:21:18 PM)

I used to really get into hard core anal play. Now, not so much. Like, I would ram about anything up a cunts ass. Fist her, plungers, whisks, VW's, you name it, I'd slam that shit in. I loved sodomizing chicks. It seemed so demeaning, such a slut move. Plus, lots of chicas don't really like it so much, which made it alll the better for me.
Felt fucking primal, is what it did.
Now, I dunno. The idea kinda still hits me hard. The reality, not so much.
Something changed. maybe the relationship and the groove, maybe I'm just becoming a finicky bitch as I age.


Yeah, and I ain't into no emotion sex anymore either. Once upon a day, I'd rape it, tear it open, do the whole nine yards on a gal if the urge and the chemistry and the mood were present. Now, it just don't fly. Funny thing, one day I woke up, looked in the mirror and thought, "Who's the cheap one here?"
Fuck-that changed lots of everything.
Well, that and dumping an NFL cheerleader in mid fuck because I realized that she was a shallow, self centered, materialistic, hateful wench that I kinda despised and that i was demeaning myself by being with her simply because of what she did and how she looked. That kinda drove the lesson home real hard. After that, I changed my game more than a little.
Age made a pussy of me [8D]



RumpusParable -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 3:27:11 PM)

Well, it was never really hot at all to me to begin with, but I *was* interested in it was topping using floggers. Once I learned how I found it bored the heck out of me and dropped it.

Getting spanked goes in cycles for me. Sometimes I really like it, sometimes I have no interest. I've been in the latest no interest state for a couple years or so now.



littlewonder -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 3:59:53 PM)

pretty much everything changed for me. I was into pain when I was younger and craved it...any kind of pain. I was emotionally hurting and grieving and the physical pain was a way for me to avoid the other pain I was in.

As I got older and was able to deal with my emotional pain and grieving, the less and less I craved pain. Now, I can barely take any pain at all so it's not really something I crave anymore. But being that Master is a sadist, I try to make him happy by trying to take as much as I can for him.

The older I get, the more satisfied I am to just have a loving, happy, long term relationship with a man who is a dominant personality, someone who likes to take charge, who can be there for me and I can make him happy.

Casual play just does nothing at all for me anymore. It got to a point where it just felt cold and unemotional and I realized I couldn't do that anymore. I needed more.




Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 4:09:54 PM)

After reading the last post, for the first time ever I am glad to be a newbie. (Nearly) everything is first time new to me. I feel like a kid in a candy store [:)]



SimplyMichael -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 4:58:13 PM)

I was really interested in positions and that overly stylized D/s, elaborate scenes, etc. It is still a bit hot to think about but the reality is way too constrictive and artificial. It was role playing but trying to be "real" and in a role 24/7 just doesn't work for me. Finding a place where I was being authentic is much more fullfilling and seeing that sort of play just as anything else, a flavor to play with or incorporate elements that do work on an ongoing basis.



FelineRanger -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 5:11:17 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

After reading the last post, for the first time ever I am glad to be a newbie. (Nearly) everything is first time new to me. I feel like a kid in a candy store [:)]


I'm with you!



Charles6682 -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 5:20:32 PM)

Whipping's. I use to actually like it alittle bit but not anymore.



Kana -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 5:37:30 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
I was really interested in positions and that overly stylized D/s, elaborate scenes, etc.

Guilty as charged, Sir.
Also, I used to be obsessed with using as many items as possible in a scene. Now, I use two, maybe three and just explore them to the limits



slaveluci -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 5:41:20 PM)

Wax play. It used to be something I wanted badly and thought I would love. Several years back when I experienced it (with Master) for the first time, I really didn't like it much at all. I preferred the big pours of wax to the fuckin' annoying little bee sting drips. Just made me mad, actually[;)] So, I experienced it and was just kinda like "meh." Pretty boring actually........luci



MissDiandSirHugh -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/24/2013 5:51:22 PM)

I ( Diane ) loved to use My Strapons but age has sort of stepped in to say best use other things that can go in where ever they can and just hang up Your harness and attachments.



SilverKit -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/26/2013 11:27:57 AM)

I know a couple of things that have gone the other way for me. But that might just be glass half full to glass half empty really.

I didn't like pain all that much when I started, I was ubber into D/s and giving and not having a say about it. Door mat type play, it was still play but I liked getting pushed around.

Anymore it's lost its flavor, and I'm leaning more and more towards the physiology behind pain. I've gone from a D/s player to an S&M almost totally.

Also I used to be grossed out by blood and I liked much sweeter play, now I do needles and knives.



chemeli -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/26/2013 11:37:23 AM)

bondage. i used to be interested because i never done it before and at first, it was interesting, but now, it does nothing for me and i kind of hate the feeling of being restricted.



tj444 -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/26/2013 11:44:01 AM)

i was never into pain so really, the only bdsm type kink was D/s.. but yeah, thats dead to me now.. the reason being that my experience shows me that too many guys use that as a way of not being honest and even cheating.. so now if I get into a relationship its back to vanilla with give and take on both sides..



tsatske -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/26/2013 11:48:18 AM)

I used to really like the idea of shibari. I never had a Master who was really into bondage very much, much less shibari. I knew some tops who would were into it who would have been glad to do it with me, but I don't usually like to play except with my own Master. Now, as I age, I think, by the time a top got me rigged, I'd have to ask to be let down to go to the bathroom. That doesn't seem so hot.

Kneeling has went by the way side for me, and it has nothing to do with how hot it seems. The arthritis in my knees has progressed to the point that I don't even kneel in church. When I need to kneel in church, I just sit back down for a while, instead. I was with my last master when the injury that caused this problem occurred, so I have not been with anyone since. I don't know if sitting on the floor would work, maybe I could sort of fake kneel - but you can't fake kneeling 'up', so that's out.



sexyred1 -> RE: Dropped kink? (6/26/2013 1:15:29 PM)

Great question, Simply Michael.

I think the things I was into have changed, not so much because I got bored with them, but because the person I did most of my intense stuff with is now my ex, I hate him and thus most of the fun things I liked are now associated with him, unfortunately. Even stuff I LOVED.

I know, I know.... I should not hate him, I am working towards being apathetic. :)

I do know one thing though, I used to LOVE bondage and now I am a bit leery of it, again, because I had to stop bondage with him because he went too far and created a lack of trust for me.

I will never say I will not do any of these things again, but only when I am once again involved in a healthy relationship.



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