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sexyred1 -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/25/2013 11:48:15 PM)

If someone approached me with all sorts of mixed up abbreviations for BDSM, I would think they were dyslexic or just idiotic.



hrxxx -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 12:50:06 AM)


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ORIGINAL: SoulAlloy


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ORIGINAL: hrxxx
I disagree. It should be important for everyone to find their sexual drive, how else would you know what you are looking for in BDSM, some are unsure of their sexual drive, and need time to find themselves, and that's perfectly okay. But everyone finds their sexual drive at some point and should be able to put the words in order.


Perhaps, though we have many sexual drives, as I mentioned before my acronym would vary day to day, and it only encompasses what lies within those four words. It doesn't cover fetishism which also covers a part of my sexual drive for example.
Others will only attribute themselves to half the equation within the restrictive terms (liking D/s relationships but not s/m and vice versa)

And to answer your other question, I like my bondage strict and intense or controlling, painful no - my masochism works on a basis of short to medium bursts of pain, not constant pain.


I agree. It is possible to live in a D / S relationship without BDSM or with only BD or SM.
Some might only use somethings of BDSM or use only one.
And someone with a fetish can live ther life without using BDSM or only part of it, or all of it

But if you are into all four, you can play with combinations. Should I make an equation would it look like this Top / Bottom + combination + Fetish = Equal




nephandi -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 2:52:26 AM)

Greetings

For me I just can not dumb it down to four letters, and besides BDSM stands for more than that. Also we do have a forum for these kinds of word games so this thread would probably have been better of there. I have little sexual drive so I do not think I can do your challenge. If I where to describe my BDSM interest in four words it would probably be Spiritual, Submission, Respect, Love.

Be Well



SeekingTrinity -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 5:49:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

I disagree. It should be important for everyone to find their sexual drive, how else would you know what you are looking for in BDSM, some are unsure of their sexual drive, and need time to find themselves, and that's perfectly okay. But everyone finds their sexual drive at some point and should be able to put the words in order.

If you ask someone about their sexuality, then you will most time get a straight answer, and most people know what they're looking for, whatever you are gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, trans, shemale, or whatever, only very few will say they are all sexuality equally.

Here is an example of an extreme combination.

A Dominant whose sexual drive is Masochism he loves Discipline and enjoying Sadism is not so much to Bondage.
His perfect match would look like this
A Sub whose sexual drive is Sadism she loves Discipline and enjoying Masosochisme and is not so much to Bondage.
Their combinations looks like this MDSB and SDSB Dom will train his sub to inflict him with pain. so their BDSM relationship is MDSB + SDSB = equal

But if Dominant found a Sub whose sexual drive is Masochism she loves Bondage enjoying Discipline is not so much to Sadism her combination is MBDS
and together will their BDSM relationship look like this MDSB + MBDS = unequal

Equal BDSM relationship can probably last a very long time and Unequal BDSM relationship holds probably not so long

This is only a philosophic word play, you can try to find your own combination, or you can play word game with which you found here in the collarme, and see how far you are from each other.

My guess is that it's easier to find what you are looking for if you know what you are looking for, but it's only a guess


You can disagree all you want, but I find rearranging the letters BDSM ridiculous. You are NOT going to get a clear picture of someone or find your ideal counterpart by rearranging the letters BDSM. What will likely end up happening with you running around saing "Im SBDM" is people are going to have no fucking clue what the hell you are talking about.

4 letters do not define who I am or what Im interested in. Im way more than 4 letters. Rearranging these 4 letters isn't going to help me find anything. I found what I was looking for by talking in WORDS with him, not screwing around with the letters BDSM.



SimplyMichael -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 6:16:01 AM)

Online idiots who have never done anything live and die by this crap.

Things like a Master who also enjoys being a boi when his slave is feeling like being Daddy just explodes this sort of tripe.

Or what about switches who switch in scene.

Or people who submit to one sex but dominate another?

Or who enjoy forcing a submissive to top someone?



SoulAlloy -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 7:29:42 AM)

Maybe I'm reading it wrong but I never got the impression that this thread was supposed to be taken so seriously?



MasterCaneman -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 7:46:14 AM)

From the OP, it was meant to be, but somehow that idea never seemed to take hold. Some folks take themselves and their kink a little toooo seriously. Nothing wrong with that, but I don't put all that much effort into it, not now nor when I was active in the scene.



stef -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 9:43:25 AM)


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ORIGINAL: SoulAlloy

Maybe I'm reading it wrong but I never got the impression that this thread was supposed to be taken so seriously?

I suppose that should be considered because based on the replies to his body of work it's pretty clear that no one takes anything the OP says seriously.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 9:52:11 AM)

When I read this thread the first time, it made no sense to me. After I understood what OP was getting at, I found the premise ridiculous. But added the DMB (Dave Matthews Band) comment because I thought it might have just been an attempt at light humor that got lost in translation.

But subsequent follow up responses to what others and I have said gives me the feeling he takes this more seriously than originally thought.

Or it could have been the tear gas [:D]



UllrsIshtar -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 10:26:10 AM)


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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

One can also find the combination from the rear
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose 3 words
Answer Bondage, Discipline, Sadism
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose 2 words
Answers Bondage, Sadism
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose one word
Bondage, Sadism
So my combination is SBDM.



It doesn't work for me like that at all, and I find your assumption that it would for everybody to be ludicrous and borderline idiotic.

The 4 are linked for me. I don't enjoy massochism without bondage, nor do I like it without power structure. I don't like a power structure without massochism, sadism or bondage. And so on...

BDSM isn't a salad bar buffet for me from where I pick activities that match my tastes. It's to the core of who I am.

I don't care about any specific activity by itself. What I care about is the dynamic and interaction it creates with others.

Trying to take something out of the equation, or belittle its importance doesn't work for me, because they're all related to the only way I can relate to emotional and sexual partners.

What you're doing is akin to asking a vanilla to rank whether they rather have an emotion, a physical, a psychological, or an intellectual connection with their partner, and how they would rank those things.

I'm telling you: there is no rank, because I don't date one aspect of a person, I date the whole of them. To which you reply: maybe you're not experienced enough yet to know which you value most.

Euhm... no... I just don't break human interaction and the foundational core to my sexuality as a woman down into little bits and pieces that can be ranked in their importance. That's because I'm a fluid person for whom those things change depending on my mood, my partner's mood, the setting, and a million other things.

Why do you even care about this silly equation? It doesn't facilitate easier communication. Why are you so insistent on trying to add yet another extra layer between people that makes it easier for them to miscomunicated and misunderstand each other?
Why are you so afraid to simple talk to other human beings, in order to figure out who they are, instead of wanting to dumb communication down to absolutely meaningless catchfrases and acronyms?

What's wrong with simple talking?



LookieNoNookie -> RE: BDSM in four words (6/26/2013 8:17:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

Describe yourself in four words. I made a little word play, and may help to understand the subtle differences in BDSM, word game is simple the only four words are to describe yourself with is Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism,
And you have to tell what role you have in BDSM way to describe itself, Sexual Drive, Love That, Like That and Not So Much.
Sexual Drive I think about if you take three word away, and can only choose one word your BDSM sexuality, same as you know you are gay, lesbian, trans, stright, bisexual. or whatever

I do not like to be called Dom, so my role is Trainer my sexual drive is Sadism because I enjoy inflict pain. I love Bondag because I also like to tie up. I enjoy Discipline for I will also teach my child anything. preferably not Masochism I do not like pain so much. So my BDSM looks like this SBDM

A few examples of what mean.

A mistress who gets her sexual drive from dominating a slave, she loves bondage and she enjoys sadism, do not like masochisme her BDSM will look like this DBSM.

A master who gets her sexule drive from bondage, love sadism, enjoying discipline, and do not like masochisme looks like this BSDM

A slave who gets her sexual drive from bondage and loves masochisme, enjoys discipline, and do not like sadism looks like this BMDS

All the examples use the same BDSM equipment, but there is a big difference how it is used because the sexual drive is not the same.

You can try playing the game, and see which combination you end up with.


(That was significantly more than 4 words).

I stopped counting at 163....but that was wayyyy the fuck more than 4 words.



nephandi -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/3/2013 3:40:04 AM)

Greetings

Greetings

It seam the thread have slowed down allot since I have been on vecation. Come one all you kinky cartomancers let us do some posting.

quote:

Online idiots who have never done anything live and die by this crap.

Things like a Master who also enjoys being a boi when his slave is feeling like being Daddy just explodes this sort of tripe.

Or what about switches who switch in scene.

Or people who submit to one sex but dominate another?

Or who enjoy forcing a submissive to top someone?


Why would this be crap if it is something that people enjoy? I mean some people are after the fun and the kink and can switch on a dime, there is nothing wrong with that if that is what makes those people happy.

I wish you well



MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/3/2013 4:46:42 PM)

FR:

Do What I Say (DWIS)

Or

This Is Very Silly (TIVS)

Or

Sometimes He's Insane Teacher (SHIT)



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/3/2013 8:10:08 PM)

A good BOSG would NEVER say the last 2...She would recognize the pure genius of her Dom...[sm=hearts.gif]



hrxxx -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/4/2013 1:54:48 AM)

What I find most fun about this game with four words.
It is to see one after another, is humiliating themselves in public.

Here's why it's humiliating.
If I were to look for a girl on a vanilla site, and I met a nice girl, so I will ask her about many things. Here are some examples of questions and answers.
Me what is your favorite movie?
Vanilla girl I do not know!
Me what is your favorite food?
Vanilla girl I do not know!
Me what music do you like best?
Vanilla girl I do not know!
Me what sex do you like best?
Vanilla girl I do not know!
Me what was your best experience in your life?
Vanilla girl I do not know!

As I see her after her answer, she is meaningless and. spineless.
And just think what an idiot, and will quickly consider her as an unwell subject, as I wanted to spend time with.


So when people who claim to have been in BDSM for several years, with many years of experience, not even know what they like best about BDSM, and exhibit their opinion public, then it looks pretty funny and humiliating.

As I said it's just a little word game.

You can use it to show who you are or learn about yourself.
You can use it to find others with common interest or a partner.
And oh yeah, I forgot to say.
You can use it to view other humiliating themselves public.
Play it or don´t this is up to you!



Kana -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/4/2013 5:52:50 AM)

Four words-Too easy.
"Her Ass is mine."



goodgirlmary -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/4/2013 6:22:57 AM)


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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

Describe yourself in four words. I made a little word play, and may help to understand the subtle differences in BDSM, word game is simple the only four words are to describe yourself with is Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism,
And you have to tell what role you have in BDSM way to describe itself, Sexual Drive, Love That, Like That and Not So Much.
Sexual Drive I think about if you take three word away, and can only choose one word your BDSM sexuality, same as you know you are gay, lesbian, trans, stright, bisexual. or whatever

I do not like to be called Dom, so my role is Trainer my sexual drive is Sadism because I enjoy inflict pain. I love Bondag because I also like to tie up. I enjoy Discipline for I will also teach my child anything. preferably not Masochism I do not like pain so much. So my BDSM looks like this SBDM

A master who gets her sexule drive from bondage, love sadism, enjoying discipline, and do not like masochisme looks like this BSD

ok.Im admittingly lost,but Ive read three pages of nonsense and now feel compelled to try.
Bmds maybe . Following your example,but Im no ones slave.Im not so owned currently. But I am submissive who drives from as you put it (but I think you mean thrives in) bondage, masochism,discipline .little sadism is ok.so is it DBMS..im so confused. DbM.5S Lord Almighry I have no idea, why cant we stick to just AA style intros like"hi Im Mary keep me on a short leash..literally." thatd be much eadier to understand.so much of these letters depend on the relationship. I hate discipline in most mylife, so most people in it, probably I wouldnt be ok with it. Yet I need it from a keeper. Sadism massachismand bondage would depend on trust experience and really where I am at the time of the relationship. IM LOST? bleh ok next part,
sexual drive?
Submissive

Eh.I tried




hrxxx -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/4/2013 6:27:56 AM)

see it was not so difficult, you know very well what you like. lol



goodgirlmary -> RE: BDSM in four words (7/4/2013 6:33:33 AM)

Yay! Lol.



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