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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

and Never used a safeword? Never broken a limit? How many Long term relationships have you had that have lasted more then a year? Long term Play partners?

Are you trying to imply that those who don't use safewords can't be in long term relationships?

I don't use safewords outside of casual play. I never use safewords with long term partners, my limits have never been broken, and I engage in more extreme edge play than what hrxxx has so far mentioned.
As far as the number of longterm relationships I've had under those conditions: 3.

While I think hrxxx is an absolute wannabe idiot for criticizing other people's choice to build in safety precautions during play, I'm equally rather annoyed at your implication that making the conscious and active choice to not build in those safety precautions means you would be unable to maintain a long time and healthy relationship.

I've frequently played with bondage, cages and chains that I am unable to get out of on my own, and leave me at risk of death by dehydration if the top would suffer a heart attack or something like that. Hell, I did it last night. It's a risk I'm aware of taking when I do it, and I don't diminish it, but it's a risk I'm nevertheless willing to take under certain circumstances.

Who are you to judge my capacity for long term relationships over that?

Actually I'm trying to imply that if he hasnt had long term relationships, or hasnt had a long term play partner, even though he has "never broken a limit" and 'Never uses a safeword" that there might be a reason he doesnt get anyone to stay with him long term and or anyone who wants to play with him again.

Not that... not having a safeword, implies the inability to have a healthy relationship..

IF you had read a little bit further before you jumped in head first with your comments , youd have seen the example I used that implies what i said above.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Im Not mentally unstable, Ive seen shit go wrong very very quickly, I understand the risks of the play I do. Hell I bloody teach classes in my community on how to negotiate and one on the various risks of play..

I understand what the fuck i do has serious fucking consequences... And Seeing as people can easily die from what it is we do...

and Never used a safeword? Never broken a limit? How many Long term relationships have you had that have lasted more then a year? Long term Play partners?

I know a guy in our local scene whos like you, he gets a one time play session then everyone says no thanks from then on

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ORIGINAL: Rawni
ROFLMAO! This is true. Been there done that. That is why I must have a back up plan in case something happens to me when I do play... though that isn't so often these days. I have never played where there wasn't a way that my partner couldn't save himself or had assistance that would be there before any harm could be done. We might be a tad bit embarrassed, but we can live through that. I just tell them to blame me. Hehe

No cage here, but my bedroom is perfect for that captivity thing. All I now need is the captive.

I don't have to deal with the same issues that you do but I've always felt that this is one of the advantages to being a part of a D/D couple. You've got an automatic spotter living under the same roof. Same thing goes for co-topping. If one top would trip, fall, or have another problem, the other top is right there.


ETA - I've actually started taking My cell phone downstairs for doing certain scenes. Particularly the longer wax play shots. There are definite advantages and reasons that it can come in handy.

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Im Not mentally unstable, Ive seen shit go wrong very very quickly, I understand the risks of the play I do. Hell I bloody teach classes in my community on how to negotiate and one on the various risks of play..

I understand what the fuck i do has serious fucking consequences... And Seeing as people can easily die from what it is we do...

and Never used a safeword? Never broken a limit? How many Long term relationships have you had that have lasted more then a year? Long term Play partners?

I know a guy in our local scene whos like you, he gets a one time play session then everyone says no thanks from then on

Do use a phone in bondag? or can your dom not die, when you are tiede up?

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

Do use a phone in bondag? or can your dom not die, when you are tiede up?

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

and Never used a safeword? Never broken a limit? How many Long term relationships have you had that have lasted more then a year? Long term Play partners?

Are you trying to imply that those who don't use safewords can't be in long term relationships?

I don't use safewords outside of casual play. I never use safewords with long term partners, my limits have never been broken, and I engage in more extreme edge play than what hrxxx has so far mentioned.
As far as the number of longterm relationships I've had under those conditions: 3.

While I think hrxxx is an absolute wannabe idiot for criticizing other people's choice to build in safety precautions during play, I'm equally rather annoyed at your implication that making the conscious and active choice to not build in those safety precautions means you would be unable to maintain a long time and healthy relationship.

I've frequently played with bondage, cages and chains that I am unable to get out of on my own, and leave me at risk of death by dehydration if the top would suffer a heart attack or something like that. Hell, I did it last night. It's a risk I'm aware of taking when I do it, and I don't diminish it, but it's a risk I'm nevertheless willing to take under certain circumstances.

Who are you to judge my capacity for long term relationships over that?

Actually I'm trying to imply that if he hasnt had long term relationships, or hasnt had a long term play partner, even though he has "never broken a limit" and 'Never uses a safeword" that there might be a reason he doesnt get anyone to stay with him long term and or anyone who wants to play with him again.

Not that... not having a safeword, implies the inability to have a healthy relationship..

IF you had read a little bit further before you jumped in head first with your comments , youd have seen the example I used that implies what i said above.

That's absolute nonsense.

If he's never broken a limit -and you've got no reason whatsofuckingever to doubt his word on that at this point- then there is no reason to assume that IF he has not had long term relationships (another thing you've got no reason to assume) it is due to him playing without safe words.

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if so afraid of your Dom. dies during session then find one with good health and a good heart.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Actually After reading his multiple posts I do have a reason to doubt his word...

There also is a reason to assume that if he has not had long term relationships... Or has not had a long term relationship.. there might be a reason why.... Not having a safe word or a way to stop a scene when its gone past what is okay, could be that reason....

Theres also the assumption if all your relationships end quickly, the problem might not be everyone else... its probably you or something your doing.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Actually After reading his multiple posts I do have a reason to doubt his word...

There also is a reason to assume that if he has not had long term relationships... Or has not had a long term relationship.. there might be a reason why.... Not having a safe word or a way to stop a scene when its gone past what is okay, could be that reason....

Theres also the assumption if all your relationships end quickly, the problem might not be everyone else... its probably you or something your doing.

Show me which posts of his have given you reason to doubt his word that he's never broken a limit.

And if all his relationships end in short terms that may be because he's a drug addict, or a narcissist, or and unemployed looser, or codependent, or a slob, or is a liar, or is a cheater, or a million other reasons.

The ONLY cause you have to assume it would be because he plays without safe words is if you assume that playing without safe words makes having long terms relationships impossible.

If you acknowledge that playing without safe words in no way, shape, or form impedes a person's ability to have long term relationships than there is NO reason whatsoever for you to start of with the assumption that his potential inability to have long term partners is due to him not playing with safe worse.

So which one is i? Do you believe that people who don't use safe words are capable of long term relationships or don't you?
And if you believe that they can be capable of such relationship, then why on Earth are you insisting on jumping to the conclusion that hrxxx's refusal to play with safe words is the cause of his supposed inability to be in such relationships?

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

Do use a phone in bondag? or can your dom not die, when you are tiede up?

Dude if you want to defend your argument that's not ever the valid question to ask.

Do you ever ride in the backseat of a car with another person driving? And if so, what do you do to negotiate the risks when they have a stroke or a heart attack on the road? Or even more so, to negotiate the risk of the driver in the opposite lane having a stroke or a heart attack?

We all take risks every day in which we would be royally fucked if something unexpected where to happen to the person in whose hand's we're placing our lives. It's just that some risks (like being a passenger in a car in order to get somewhere they desire to go) are acceptable to more people than other risks (like allowing yourself to be chained or caged up in a manner you can't escape for mutual gratification).

The idea of criticizing others because the level and type of risks they're willing to engage in is different than your own (be it higher or lower) is idiotic, precisely because it denies human diversity.

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Show me which posts of his have given you reason to doubt his word that he's never broken a limit.

I never once Jumped to the conclusion that his refusal to play with a safeword is the reason why he has an issue being in relationships.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Just like i Still hold firm my assumptions about you...What funny is they still hold true after all these years of reading your posts...

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

No way would I go into hrxxx's play room. Looking at the walls, it's obvious there's water getting in there and mold growing. Extremely unhealthy. So if the girl in the cage has asthma and he falls asleep, she could die before he notices her on the cctv. She won't be able to call for help because asthma prevents getting enough air to yell.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself
I'm most impressed by the bunny ears on the cross