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RE: Uncollaring - 7/2/2013 10:22:38 PM

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Ty everyone

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RE: Uncollaring - 7/3/2013 8:00:44 AM

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Get a pencil and paper. Write down a list of all the stuff you used to do that he didn't like, so you haven't done it lately.

Do one a day.

Write down a list of the stuff you didn't want to do that you had to.
When you get to the time of day you would have done that, high five the empty room or do a happy dance that you don't have to do that anymore.

In the beginning neither of these will hold much joy and that's normal. But you'll be surprised at how soon the enjoyment comes back.

Pamper yourself. Drink a glass of wine in a bubble bath. Watch a movie he would hate. And so on.

This too, sounds like great advice.

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RE: Uncollaring - 7/4/2013 6:02:36 AM

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is there a better way to do this than removing a collar and walking away.

Nope.

Red is right. Quit the job. It's tough enough getting over a relationship w/o having to see the person daily.
I dunno about anyone else, but I'm not wired that way. That shit just hurts to much.
I need some time and space to heal before I can even consider dealing with an ex

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RE: Uncollaring - 7/4/2013 8:28:14 AM

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Quitting your job may not be possible. You will be able to get over this person while still seeing him at work. It will likely take much longer, and will require you to work at it consciously, be scrupulous with yourself, and face and deal with every feeling that comes up when you see him. If you keep this up consistently, it becomes habit, then it frees you. It may even be a more real recovery than the blessing of "out of sight, out of mind". That is what my experience has been.

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RE: Uncollaring - 7/4/2013 3:36:12 PM

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With my work, we only see each other once a month but now we are not in a relationship it's more likely to be less. I work for him from home. Yes we talk daily, via Skype, but we are keeping it to text talk. I'm feeling better now I've had some sleep and keeping food down. Some very good friends of mine who are doms are also helping me debrief. Thank you all for your support. Xxx

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RE: Uncollaring - 7/20/2013 8:15:29 AM

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I'm going to post this also in ask a Slave. You will understand why as I need both sides.

My Dom and I live indifferent states in Australia. I travel once a month to spend a few days with him. Fully immersing myself in my slave life. We have played and my body has the marks. cane stripes on my arse, very bruised breasts and now a broken heart.A few hours ago, 2 1/2 to be exact ) my Dom told me that after 7 months, he is unable to love anyone, and he released me. No discussion. I love him. But I can't make him love me. I'm shattered..is there a better way to do this than removing a collar and walking away. I have relied on him for 7 months. I'm scared.

I think he's a bit irresponsible, I would have found a new home for you so that you could continue your service.

But unfortunately there are many owner who throw their slaves on the street when they do not bother them anymore, a slave told me she would rather have been sold, one just to be thrown out.

But fortunately Master different, and I hope you think more about the conditions for a new relationship

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