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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/6/2013 10:26:07 AM

SimplyMichael

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Yep, few groups are more batshit crazy than the whole TV/TG crowd. They cant agree among themselves what is an isnt okay to say.

Again, CM is not the most likely place for a TG to find a mate, gay sites TEND (which implies some, not all or most) have sections devoted to TV/TG.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/7/2013 10:22:59 AM

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my suggestion is as you have completed the transition drop the tg and just say female seeking master and say that you like rough sex and and being sexualy used and let the medical issues come up at meeting and go from there and see how that works

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/7/2013 5:14:24 PM

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This forum will not work well for you, you need to find either a gay one or one that focuses on tv and tg girls.

Um. Why the blazes did you suggest a gay forum?!!?? A post-op MtF will not satisfy anyone, straight female or gay man, looking for a man.

And I dunno how it is in SF, but here in Colorado, there is one Dom who seems to prefer TGs and CDs, and more who are accepting of females whether they were born or transitioned to it.

Yeah but Steve Denver is pretty rainbow open. I would imagine that London especially if you were openly a pro sub would be an ideal hunting ground. You must have met people that either would fit the profile you seek or if partnered would know someone that could be trusted in your scenario not to do perminant harm.

My internal question is more personal in nature so feel free not to openly reply...why have you spent all the time, effort & money to transition so that you can be aggressively "used"by a sadistic bear type than a loving life partner?
Have a hard time wrapping my brain around the expense to be treated like one without value.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/7/2013 9:35:01 PM

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Well, I live in a city that has a few transgenders. And I know some MtFs that would deck you for your premise that transitioning accomplishes nothing, and sexual reassignment surgery and hormones don't matter. They consider themselves female, and get offended when others don't.

Not so true. There are some who are honest about who/what they are or simply don't care what others call them or consider them since all they care about is finding that one person who they connect with just like everyone else on the planet.

The likelihood is that the op is going to find it easier to find someone who is part of the same group. What you are speaking of DS is a rarity. It's not all that common.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/8/2013 2:32:30 AM

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I think you'll have more joy in the London scene, that isn't to say that your ideal partner isn't here - but your age, gender status and preferences mean you're in a pretty select "niche".

Nothing wrong with that, but it does mean you'll have to wait longer and look harder for a partner.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/8/2013 2:03:15 PM

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Thank you for your reply. Reason I do so is that for some guys it matters. I am all female now but honest about my past so as not to deceive. Potential partners can then make up their own minds.

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my suggestion is as you have completed the transition drop the tg and just say female seeking master and say that you like rough sex and and being sexualy used and let the medical issues come up at meeting and go from there and see how that works

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/8/2013 2:07:53 PM

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I am in London, well most of the time. If I end up with a partner, fine. If not, its not a problem by any means.

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I think you'll have more joy in the London scene, that isn't to say that your ideal partner isn't here - but your age, gender status and preferences mean you're in a pretty select "niche".

Nothing wrong with that, but it does mean you'll have to wait longer and look harder for a partner.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/8/2013 2:17:43 PM

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Met plenty of play partners when I was a pro sub and latterly as an escort. Most however are either married or with partners so not available.

As to your other question; Masochistic or sadistic tendencies are not something we choose. A strict private school upbringing and equally strict parents created the beginnings of a submissive nature. Regardless of gender, that remained. One other point; why cant you have a loving relationship with sex and submission/rape role play/rough sex? They aren't mutually exclusive.
A loving relationship with some of the elements I enjoy would be my ideal.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

This forum will not work well for you, you need to find either a gay one or one that focuses on tv and tg girls.

Um. Why the blazes did you suggest a gay forum?!!?? A post-op MtF will not satisfy anyone, straight female or gay man, looking for a man.

And I dunno how it is in SF, but here in Colorado, there is one Dom who seems to prefer TGs and CDs, and more who are accepting of females whether they were born or transitioned to it.

Yeah but Steve Denver is pretty rainbow open. I would imagine that London especially if you were openly a pro sub would be an ideal hunting ground. You must have met people that either would fit the profile you seek or if partnered would know someone that could be trusted in your scenario not to do perminant harm.

My internal question is more personal in nature so feel free not to openly reply...why have you spent all the time, effort & money to transition so that you can be aggressively "used"by a sadistic bear type than a loving life partner?
Have a hard time wrapping my brain around the expense to be treated like one without value.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/8/2013 3:27:53 PM

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Reason I do so is that for some guys it matters. I am all female now but honest about my past so as not to deceive. Potential partners can then make up their own minds.

I was glad to see this statement. It shows that you are being as honest as you can be with potentials and wouldn't want to risk possibly missing a good match *if* they felt such a deception would be a red flag that you weren't honest in your relationships. Better to find that one good guy who appreciates your candor than to date a bunch of guys who might think that you weren't honest or couldn't be trusted.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/9/2013 6:57:47 AM

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Be patient and honest and you'll eventually find what your looking for. I find that there are a great number of Doms here who are interested i sub transsexual women.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/9/2013 10:13:52 AM

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Thanks for teaching me a new word...latterly.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/9/2013 12:46:53 PM

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Met a few on here since my master died several years ago, one of who made a bdsm film with me and disappeared. Never saw him again...or the film. Too much of a lady to name him or make trouble for him. He's not worth it and I'm better than that. I'm not bitter, just a little cynical.
If the right partner happens along, fine. If not, theres plenty of other roads to explore.
Its a good thing I'm not the pessimistic, needy type.

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Be patient and honest and you'll eventually find what your looking for. I find that there are a great number of Doms here who are interested i sub transsexual women.

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RE: Difficult to find. - 7/9/2013 12:49:03 PM

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Welcome,

wonderful thing, the English language.

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Thanks for teaching me a new word...latterly.

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