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ottawaguy35 -> humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 4:48:01 PM)
I recently discovered my kinky side and I am an aspiring Gay Master. One of the subs that I want to play with is interested in humiliation. I am not sure how to go about that. I have some ideas such as pet play but my sub isn't interested in that. This won't be public humiliation so I am looking for any creative humiliation ideas that I could enact upon in a private space. Any suggestions would be of great help. Thanks!

SeekingTrinity -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 7:00:34 PM)
What one person finds utterly humiliating might be barrel-of-monkey fun to someone else. Since you know this person and I (and others here) do not, determining what will humiliate him really is something only you are going to be able to figure out

ottawaguy35 -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 8:15:50 PM)
Yes, I understand that I am just looking for some kinky ideas.

LadyPact -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 8:26:47 PM)
Go to a leather bar. Not a gay bar. A leather bar. If you don't see some things there that would potentially humiliate someone, you went to the wrong place.

DaddySatyr -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 8:31:46 PM)
Have your potential sub sign up here and post a silly question or disagree with one of the "anointed ones" and they'll get all the humiliation they can handle. I hope this helped. Peace and comfort, Michael

DarkSteven -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 9:43:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ottawaguy35 I have some ideas such as pet play but my sub isn't interested in that. Cut it out. You're supposed to eb the Dom - what do YOU want to do? Right now, you're racking your brain trying to come up with stuff, and your sub already knows what he wants. What do YOU want to do?

tazzygirl -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/5/2013 11:40:45 PM)
Belly dancing classes!

SoulAlloy -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 12:41:43 AM)
Humiliation is deeply personal - what one likes another will despise and potentially hate you for it... Dancing, strip tease, some find crossdressing humiliating (some are insulted by the idea it would be), objectification, dress them in a onesey, cuckolding, pretend to be on the phone to a friend discussing his sexual prowess, compliment him, insult him, make him sing

hrxxx -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 2:04:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ottawaguy35 I recently discovered my kinky side and I am an aspiring Gay Master. One of the subs that I want to play with is interested in humiliation. I am not sure how to go about that. I have some ideas such as pet play but my sub isn't interested in that. This won't be public humiliation so I am looking for any creative humiliation ideas that I could enact upon in a private space. Any suggestions would be of great help. Thanks! Well I can make a few points. A girl that I had to session, had a fantasy about washing my feet, she thought it was dominant, my feeling was not quite the same, so when I planned the session I change a little on her. fantasy When we got to the part where she should wash my feet, I asked her to pick up a towel, bowl with warm water, soap and bath salts, well she did, and when she came back, I said to her, put down the bowl, next to my feet and sit on your knees, and she did., then I said to her, take of my boots and socks, she did., then I said to her, start to lick my left foot, from the heel and up between my toes until it is completely clean when you are finished with the left, then do it same with the right, well it was not quite what she had expected, and she looked at me and I said do it! so she did and when she was done with both feet, I said wash your dirty spit of my feet. She felt humiliated, I love when you can get them to believe that they will experience one thing, and then they experiencing a total different thing. I have used dog leash and ponytail a few times, but it gives me not quite what I want, if I have to get it to work for me, then I used my dog's leash and collar, and one of my dog's old bone, an old used chewing bone are a little humiliated when they get it in there mouth. But it is very different what girls think is humiliated some need only little other need a lot The worst I've heard of humiliation, was a Danish mistress who drove her slave out on the highway, and chained him naked to a road sign, and left him after many had driven past and seen him and called the police, the police came and freed him. Took him to the police station, it was in all Danish newspapers the following day. so I think he got a little lesson about what mistress wants lol

lizi -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 5:21:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hrxxx The worst I've heard of humiliation, was a Danish mistress who drove her slave out on the highway, and chained him naked to a road sign, and left him after many had driven past and seen him and called the police, the police came and freed him. Took him to the police station, it was in all Danish newspapers the following day. so I think he got a little lesson about what mistress wants lol Quite often, humiliation seems to involve using the public at large, I really don't think that's fair to them as they never consented to it. I'm not saying you would do anything like the above quoted statement, but anyone who would put their partner at risk for jail time is an idiot. Sorry, but outside of a general, obvious, warning to stay away from public activities, I don't have anything for you, humiliation isn't something that appeals to me and I don't know what pushes your partner's buttons.

hrxxx -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 6:33:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi quote: ORIGINAL: hrxxx The worst I've heard of humiliation, was a Danish mistress who drove her slave out on the highway, and chained him naked to a road sign, and left him after many had driven past and seen him and called the police, the police came and freed him. Took him to the police station, it was in all Danish newspapers the following day. so I think he got a little lesson about what mistress wants lol Quite often, humiliation seems to involve using the public at large, I really don't think that's fair to them as they never consented to it. I'm not saying you would do anything like the above quoted statement, but anyone who would put their partner at risk for jail time is an idiot. Sorry, but outside of a general, obvious, warning to stay away from public activities, I don't have anything for you, humiliation isn't something that appeals to me and I don't know what pushes your partner's buttons. Denmark is very liberal when it comes to porn and sex, of course, people do not have sex on the street, but in this story I do not think, that has happened more than they have been told not to do it again. I can not think of, that I have done something in public. But as long as people do not harm others then they can do as they please, I do not care. In Denmark it is very common that if a girl is getting married, then her friends take her out and humiliate her in public, dress her up like a pig, and give her a sign on, with text that says Kiss for sale. I see nothing wrong in it

ottawaguy35 -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 1:30:29 PM)
Thanks SoulAlloy and others who replied, I think I have some ideas now. ;)

tazzygirl -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 2:31:11 PM)
quote: Quite often, humiliation seems to involve using the public at large, I really don't think that's fair to them as they never consented to it. I'm not saying you would do anything like the above quoted statement, but anyone who would put their partner at risk for jail time is an idiot. Could get said Domme jail time as well.

DarkSteven -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 2:48:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hrxxx When we got to the part where she should wash my feet, I asked her to pick up a towel, bowl with warm water, soap and bath salts, well she did, and when she came back, I said to her, put down the bowl, next to my feet and sit on your knees, and she did., then I said to her, take of my boots and socks, she did., then I said to her, start to lick my left foot, from the heel and up between my toes until it is completely clean when you are finished with the left, then do it same with the right, well it was not quite what she had expected, and she looked at me and I said do it! so she did and when she was done with both feet, I said wash your dirty spit of my feet. She felt humiliated, I love when you can get them to believe that they will experience one thing, and then they experiencing a total different thing. See, this is what I meant, OP. hrxxx's sub said what she wanted, and he determined the way the scene actually went. In your example, you're saying what you want, and your sub is determining the way the scene will actually go. I wouldn't play that game. I'll listen to a sub, but they're not determining the scene.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 3:02:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: ottawaguy35 I have some ideas such as pet play but my sub isn't interested in that. Cut it out. You're supposed to eb the Dom - what do YOU want to do? Right now, you're racking your brain trying to come up with stuff, and your sub already knows what he wants. What do YOU want to do? Are you saying he should disregard the stuff his sub doesn't want to do and to it anyways? And disregard the stuff his sub would like to do and do none of it? Unless they've agreed to a TPE 24/7 type of situation (which from the OPs post doesn't seem to be the case at all) that's terrible advice, and a short cut to a broken up relationship. If one partner decides to be totally selfish in a relationship where the other person hasn't specifically stated that that's what they want, the relationship turns into a one-way street that's not going to have any length to it at all, and I don't care if it's it's a Dom, a vanilla, or any other orientation being completely selfish.

DarkSteven -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 4:46:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: ottawaguy35 I have some ideas such as pet play but my sub isn't interested in that. Cut it out. You're supposed to eb the Dom - what do YOU want to do? Right now, you're racking your brain trying to come up with stuff, and your sub already knows what he wants. What do YOU want to do? Are you saying he should disregard the stuff his sub doesn't want to do and to it anyways? And disregard the stuff his sub would like to do and do none of it? Unless they've agreed to a TPE 24/7 type of situation (which from the OPs post doesn't seem to be the case at all) that's terrible advice, and a short cut to a broken up relationship. If one partner decides to be totally selfish in a relationship where the other person hasn't specifically stated that that's what they want, the relationship turns into a one-way street that's not going to have any length to it at all, and I don't care if it's it's a Dom, a vanilla, or any other orientation being completely selfish. Nope. I'm not saying he should ignore limits. But he seems to have no idea how to do a humiliation scene that his sub wants. He's proposing things, and his sub is shooting them down. In defense contracting, we had an analogy in which the customer said "get me a rock." Once we showed them a rock, they said that wasn't the kind of rock they were looking for. He is working to very vague guidelines, and his sub is vetoing things. I'm getting the impression that his sub is not clear about the desires.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 5:28:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven He is working to very vague guidelines, and his sub is vetoing things. I'm getting the impression that his sub is not clear about the desires. Ah yes, if that's the issue his sub needs to be more clear. I often have a hard time committing to expressing fantasies (though it's getting easier for me with time and trust) because for me there is a major "force fantasy play" factor that is kind of ruined if I tell him exactly what I want beforehand. However, if that's the case than his sub needs to take the leap of faith and try something without knowing exactly what is going to happen.

ottawaguy35 -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/6/2013 8:02:52 PM)
Interesting conversations going on here. No, I and my sub are not in a TPE 24 X 7, nor is my sub "shooting" down my proposals, just that pet play is not in the game, so I just want to get the feel of other ideas, vague is good enough for me, I can work with that. I want to consider my sub's interests as well, unless its consensual non-consent in which case I don't have any problems forcing my wishes on him. He after all is also like me, human ! Thank you for all the suggestions and interesting posts. :-)

graceadieu -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/7/2013 12:15:20 PM)
Have you tried calling him names or talking down to him? That's a popular and pretty easy form of humiliation play. A lot of female subs that like humiliation like getting called stuff like "slut", "whore", etc - sexual things, I suppose because of cultural conditioning. My understanding is that a lot of straight male subs like being "feminized" and basically like being called names or told things that make them feel their masculinity is being undermined (that they have a small dick, etc). I don't know what kind of things gay guys tend to like, though. And of course, I don't know what he likes or what might be real problem for him.

DarkSteven -> RE: humiliation ideas ? (7/7/2013 1:10:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ottawaguy35 Interesting conversations going on here. No, I and my sub are not in a TPE 24 X 7, nor is my sub "shooting" down my proposals, just that pet play is not in the game, so I just want to get the feel of other ideas, vague is good enough for me, I can work with that. I want to consider my sub's interests as well, unless its consensual non-consent in which case I don't have any problems forcing my wishes on him. He after all is also like me, human ! Thank you for all the suggestions and interesting posts. :-) In that case, I owe you an apology. Sorry about that - I read in more than I should have.

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