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tendancies of... - 7/11/2013 5:33:59 PM

chemeli

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Just a question i wondered from times to times, thought i would finally ask it.

I read a lot of posts or profiles from submissives (males and females) that claimed they were submissives with some tendancies towards being a slave....i was wondering what does that mean exactly? I expect the meaning will be different for each, but i thought about it...

Is it about a sudden feeling you get when you're overwhelmed by emotions, that you want to give it all to your Dominant?

Is it something that you observed over time from your own reactions in the Relationship, a longing that you want to deepen?
And, if it is, and if you want to express those feelings, how would you do that? Extends your first limitations and/or let him take more control?

Thank you.

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/12/2013 8:41:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: chemeli

Just a question i wondered from times to times, thought i would finally ask it.

I read a lot of posts or profiles from submissives (males and females) that claimed they were submissives with some tendancies towards being a slave....i was wondering what does that mean exactly? I expect the meaning will be different for each, but i thought about it...

Is it about a sudden feeling you get when you're overwhelmed by emotions, that you want to give it all to your Dominant?

Is it something that you observed over time from your own reactions in the Relationship, a longing that you want to deepen?
And, if it is, and if you want to express those feelings, how would you do that? Extends your first limitations and/or let him take more control?

Thank you.

I'm not sure what they mean either. My guess is that they have some interest in a 24/7 relationship with few limits. When I describe someone as my Slave. It means they are mine. No safe word and I can do whatever I want. But there is trust that what I want to do is going to be acceptable. They trust me not to chop off a foot or invite the local chapter of the hells angeles over to gang rape her. She prob also trusts me to tie her up and force orgasums until she screams and thrashes around. heck, she should expect I'll do that.

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/12/2013 10:02:50 PM

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Is it about a sudden feeling you get when you're overwhelmed by emotions, that you want to give it all to your Dominant?

This sounds more like sub frenzy.

I was his slave long before I realized I was his slave. I wanted nothing more than to please him. Even when I would argue with him, I wanted to please him. For me, it wasnt a sudden feeling. It was a slow realization that nothing mattered to me more than him.

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/12/2013 11:14:19 PM

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I was his slave long before I realized I was his slave. I wanted nothing more than to please him. Even when I would argue with him, I wanted to please him. For me, it wasnt a sudden feeling. It was a slow realization that nothing mattered to me more than him.

What Tazzy said

In my profile when I was searching I said I was submissive, but unlikely to be slave material. It just took the right man and a long, long time to realise I was a slave and happy to be so.

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/13/2013 5:44:46 PM

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Thank you everyone

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/13/2013 6:14:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: chemeli

Just a question i wondered from times to times, thought i would finally ask it.

I read a lot of posts or profiles from submissives (males and females) that claimed they were submissives with some tendancies towards being a slave....i was wondering what does that mean exactly? I expect the meaning will be different for each, but i thought about it..

In my mind, it means that they think that being one is better than being the other, some Dominant has fed them that line, and they think it makes them special, sparkly and more attractive to Dominants.

I'll be honest, in my 20 some odd years of being involved in WIITWD, it's been my observation that the people that have succeeded at their relationships are the people that have given up caring about the labels. People that need to claim their uber-ness rarely succeed for the long run.

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RE: tendancies of... - 7/13/2013 6:56:25 PM

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I use to describe myself that way. For me, it is because, the more controlled I am, the higher the bar is set...the harder I try to please... It is all a reaction to how I am treated... If a Dom is too easy on me...I am only submissive because I don't feel 100% secure...

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