DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: lobster123 No offence dude are you for real ? Dude, are YOU for real? A pro Domme is a Dominatrix, a woman who will top men (and I suppose women) for lucre. You are neither a Domme, nor a professional at Domming. You have introduced the term "handbook Domme" which is not a standard term and asked someone if he's real when he questioned it. I've been in the lifestyle over ten years and never heard it myself. So you're misusing words and making others up, and expecting all of us to know your terms. With that out of the way... You are evidently differentiating between a "caring Dom" and a "hardcore but sensible Dom". I get the impression that you're asking if it's possible to be a right bastard and call that being a Dom. Per my own definition, a Dom is someone who likes to be in control. So by that definition, sure. Call yourself a Dom. That said, my own style involves being aware of several levels to a relationship. I have to know what's best for myself, what's best for her, and what's best for the relationship between us. And then I act according to all three. Regarding a sub's preference, that's irrelevant. At my age, I have no intention of changing my style, and I will certainly not advertise it as anything other than what it is. So I yam what I yam, to quote the philosopher Popeye.
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