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rant - 7/19/2013 6:37:47 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		dont make me promises you cant keep- say you will call me when you get home then dont,


the road of promises is a 2 way street - so just as your promise ended- mine just did too.


good bye and good riddance axx hole!! (no one here on this forum)
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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 6:38:42 AM   
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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 6:40:30 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I am really pissed. 6 years and he pulls this shtt.
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favors and help is a 2 way street- I keep up my end- !

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 7:58:00 AM   
theshytype


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Status: offline 		That's why I hate promises. I try not to make them and when others try to, I ask that they don't unless it's something that definitely can and should be kept. In which case yes, I'd get upset if it were broken.

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 10:08:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		sheesh, that's an awful lot of vitriol and bitterness just because someone didn't call.....life is too short for that kind of outlook!

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 12:10:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: soul2share

sheesh, that's an awful lot of vitriol and bitterness just because someone didn't call.....life is too short for that kind of outlook!



When I called him this morning - in so many words I was told to fkk off and never call him again.

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 1:44:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

dont make me promises you cant keep- say you will call me when you get home then dont,


the road of promises is a 2 way street - so just as your promise ended- mine just did too.


good bye and good riddance axx hole!! (no one here on this forum)


so why bother?

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 4:34:01 PM   
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That's why I hate promises. I try not to make them and when others try to, I ask that they don't unless it's something that definitely can and should be kept. In which case yes, I'd get upset if it were broken.

Man, I sure am glad that neither Carol or I have these sorts of trust issues. Both of us treat a promise as a statement of intent. Both of us understand that the future is uncertain so any promise of future action can be nothing more than that. Both of us understand that "shit happens". That doesn't mean the statement of intent was worthless. It's meaningful communication. But this whole "graven in stone" thing is just weird to me.

Carol is one of the most honest people I know. She promises to do things all the time. Sometimes "shit happens". I'd rather here the promise because that clues me in that the thing is more likely to happen then without it. For both of us "trust" is a nuanced thing.

(that all being said, having read the end of this story, it wasn't simply a missed phone call. It was "ending the relationship by skulking away". Yeah, that's pretty pathetic on any number of levels.)

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 8:03:32 PM   
theshytype


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Status: offline 		I understand what you're saying, but saying I 'promise' to do anything is rare for me.
Why do I need to say 'promise'?
Instead of "I promise I'll take care of this tomorrow" I'll say "I'll take care of this tomorrow". We trust each other enough to know it'll get done without adding extra syllables - my word is my word. It's already assumed it'll be taken care of and is understood that sometimes circumstances get in the way, no big deal. I don't personally see us having trust issues because we find a particular word unnecessary in our relationship. We've already made one promise and that should be enough.

To me, a promise is something that no matter what circumstances occur, it will be kept (unless something so extraordinary, such as death, occurs). To me, it's a significant word that has lost its meaning because of overuse.
To me, it's usually a completely useless word because life does get busy and complicated at times and the person should trust and know me enough to know my word is kept to the best of my ability.

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RE: rant - 7/19/2013 8:11:40 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I remember when Master and I were new together and he didn't call a few times like he said he would. Yeah, it made me a bit upset so eventually I told him what I felt about it and thankfully he completely understood. He apologized and hadn't even realized what he was doing and said he would never make it a promise again and instead let me know he would try to call at such and such time, which worked for me.

Now that we've been together for a long time and we are together in real life now, it's not a big deal anymore. I know our schedules so well that most times I know exactly where he is and what he's doing almost all day long lol.


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RE: rant - 7/20/2013 6:58:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: doctorgrey


quote:

ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

dont make me promises you cant keep- say you will call me when you get home then dont,


the road of promises is a 2 way street - so just as your promise ended- mine just did too.


good bye and good riddance axx hole!! (no one here on this forum)


so why bother?

DrG



It's sometimes good to unburden yourself to strangers, there are no comebacks, & you get it off your chest.

Shytype, I love your definition & use of the word 'Promise'.

Best wishes to pahunkboy & yourself.


< Message edited by garyFLR -- 7/20/2013 6:59:51 AM >

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