AthenaSurrenders
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Your profile is mostly just an erotic story. While it's nice to give someone an idea of what you are into, two or three sentences is enough. Otherwise you might inadvertently be sending out two messages: a) you are only interested in getting off and b) you are looking for someone to act out your personal masturbation script.
Now, if that is what you want, continue as you are. Best that people know that up front.
Most women aren't interested in the intimate details of your fantasies UNTIL they are interested in you as a person. Save this for a few weeks down the line (ie, until she says 'so tell me your favourite fantasy'). When people lead with 'I want you to do this, this and this to me' it gives the impression that anyone will do, so long as she follows the script, and that you're not really interested in the woman as a person. You can see why that's offputting, right?
Added to that dominants tend to want to call the shots. Now that's not to say that you won't get to play out your fantasies, but most dominants like to be creative and take the lead and be in control of what direction the scene goes. Your profile gives the impression you are looking for something very specific - it takes the fun out of it. You go into a lot of details about how she should dominate you, which somewhat misses the point of her dominating you - she's calling the shots.
Now the good news is you write well and come off as fairly intelligent, which is a good start. You make a token effort to mention your personality. But if you highlighted all the facts about you as a person, you would see they are drowned out by your sexual interests. Here's the thing about women - generally their interest in your sex preferences goes up in correlation to their interest in your personality.
My advice would be start over. Start with a paragraph about you - who you are, what sort of lifestyle do you lead, what sort of personality traits you have, what hobbies you follow. This is a conversation starter. It allows you or her to strike up a conversation with 'hey, I see you share my passion for amateur fireworks displays, did you check out the selection of rockets in JTF last year?'. This makes you stand out from people who lead with the internet equivalent of 'nice shoes, wanna fuck?'. Next a paragraph about what type of relationship you want - fuck buddies? Long term romance? In dom/sub roles all the time or in the bedroom only? Mention some things you would like to do together or traits you'd like her to have (eg. 'I'm looking for an adventurous spirit because I love to camp out under the stars'). THEN you can mention your kinks - but leave lots to the imagination. By all means mention you have a fantasy of being captured and kept naked - just don't fall into the trap of going into huge detail or worse, indicating you don't know fantasy from reality (in fairness I didn't get that impression from your profile).
Also, be proactive. Read profiles, send out messages which are thoughtful and show you are interested in who she is, and not just what she can provide.
As for photos - yes, put one up! If nothing else, people can check a box and instantly filter out profiles without a photo. Big hint: most women love photos of you engaging in a vanilla hobby - playing football, holding a pet, fixing your bike, tuning your violin - by all means find one that doesn't show your face, just don't focus on another body part either....
Edit to add: the other good news is that your fantasy isn't too crazy or out there. You should have no problem finding a woman who shares it or at least has similar enough tastes to join in with it. Once again - the more she likes you, the more she'll be interested in your kinks and the more she wants to make you happy.
< Message edited by AthenaSurrenders -- 7/21/2013 8:03:12 AM >
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