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PaulUKE -> Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:05:40 AM)

Looking at my mails sent, I can't see one that I posted to a slave. She posted that she had limits, and I ( Stupidly ) sent her a mail saying that she can't be a slave if she has limits !!
I'd just like to apologise to her for sending such an "uninformed" post.




Rawni -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:11:19 AM)

So that was two stupid things to do.. that and posting this.

Wake up....




DaddySatyr -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:14:29 AM)

Kudos to you, Paul. It takes a strong man to own up to his mistake but, if the offense was done in private, why make the apology public?

I mean, if you insult someone, publicly, a decent person handles the apology publicly but this was a private matter. Right?



Good luck,



J. Edgar Hoover




myotherself -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:15:31 AM)

Don't worry OP, the site is full of people like you. Most of us have had at least one stupid message from someone who claims to know all about us, our needs, our wants and our motivation without having ever talked to us. It's what makes weeding out the totally undesirable so much easier.

I'm sure she'll have assigned you to the waste bin and is not wasting any time forgetting you even exist.






PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:24:10 AM)

I made the apology HOPING that it would get to the slave ( As I can't find the mail OR remember her name ) If I did remember, or had notification of 'Who it was' Don't you think I'd have PM'd her to apologise WITHOUT the need for Public apology ?




DaddySatyr -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:28:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PaulUKE

I made the apology HOPING that it would get to the slave ( As I can't find the mail OR remember her name ) If I did remember, or had notification of 'Who it was' Don't you think I'd have PM'd her to apologise WITHOUT the need for Public apology ?



Oh, I apologize. I thought that your apology was some sort of sincere desire to do the right thing but, you've messaged so many ladies (presumably accusing all of them of not being "real" slaves) that you can't remember which particular one you might have offended that YOU think might be worth trying to take a poke at, anyway?

How could I have gotten that confused?

See, I was thinking that I was being kind and decent to a guy that was decent but was just a bit confused. I didn't realize you were just trying to get your dick wet (and using us to do it).



Ashamed,



Don Rickles




DarkSteven -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:30:06 AM)

Forget it.

The people who spend time on collarme are not the same, by and large, who are on the forums.

Kudos to you for being a big enough man to apologize, but the chances of her reading this are slim to none. And as my bunnygirlfriend myotherself mentioned, women here get a flood of messages, so she's past yours already.

That said, welcome to the site.




PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:32:48 AM)

@Rawni If Posting this was Stupid, then I'd rather Be Me than you.
@DaddySatyr It was in private but I've 'lost' all information, so I deemed it necessary, with a 'hope' that this will reach her




PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:35:57 AM)

@DarkSteven I appreciate that the chance of the right one seeing this is slim, but for My own sense of 'right' I just had to try




Rawni -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:37:25 AM)

Though some might agree with you that a slave has no limits... the thing is that you said it to someone, rudely I might add... with someone you can't even remember her name with. So you try to look honorable or something and you show to others how foolish you have been and how maybe, unless they want a dom that acts like that, that they should steer away from you. If that is smart, I am bacon.

You flippantly treated another human being like many trolls do... you can't get honor from that. You could have just told her that you see things differently, rather than blast her. So now you are sorry.... maybe you learned you were wrong because of others... maybe you woke up one morning and said, I treated her like an ass would. Simple fact in my opinion is, you just keep doing rash things most likely based on some odd view that you matter more than you do in relationship to other people and you felt you had the right to do that even if it was only one time.

That will make a gal stop and think don'tcha think?




PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:45:13 AM)

Isn't that just typical of people ? always assume that people are 'Fake, wanabee's, trolls etc etc @DaddySatyr YES !! My apology IS sincere. I don't see what your problem is but I'd be glad to hear, Just PM Me rather than take away the meaning of the post




Rawni -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:46:34 AM)

No, I didn't assume anything. I said you did somthing like trolls do and that is what trolls do. They have an agenda, they rashly expect others to go by their agenda and bash them when they don't. How was that not troll like?




LadyPact -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 6:51:43 AM)

Can't say that I think your personal email exchanges have much to do with "General BDSM" discussion. Had you taken the angle of discussion whether a person who ticks the Dominant box should be willing to apologize when wrong or something similar, it *might* have actually been a topic. Coming to the board to advertise stupidity in a matter, (remember, those are your own words) seems a more self serving agenda. Much the same way as those on the s-side of the slash want to come on the forums to tell us how bad they are and want to have the forum participants listen to their plea for forgiveness. Often while asking for a recommendation for punishment.

For the record, myotherself is right. Women of all orientations get things in our mail that make us roll our eyes every day. I'll get at least five idiotic messages before I even make dinner this evening from clueless people that won't cross My mind longer than it takes for Me to block them and delete the message. You may feel you made a mistake but the chick is already dealing with the next twatwaffle that comes along. You've already been forgotten.




PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:01:22 AM)

@Rawni Why is it that you automatically 'assume' the worst of Me ? are you so conditioned that you 'feel' everyone is a Fake or wannabee ? I Just posted an apology and already you 'Assume' that I'm trying to be more than I'm not ?
YES, I did flippantly "treated another human being like many trolls do" and Now I'm trying to apologise for it, but even that ( By YOUR opinion ) is wrong !!. What's your agenda Rawni ? ........ to ridicule those who are sincere in making a mistake ?
I made a mistake, I'm trying to apologise for it, DEAL with it without your stupid thoughts.




PaulUKE -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:05:46 AM)

Awwww FFS. I'm just trying to apologise. I don't need the following shit of ppl who think this, think that etc etc
To The SLAVE I SAID THIS TOO, PLEASE accept My apologies.

To the rest of you, think what you may, I don't really give a damn




Rasciallymisty -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:15:24 AM)

Hi Paul the reason you most likely can not find the subs info in your mail anymore is that she most likely has either blocked you or hide you...either way her mail and nick are no longer out there for you. When someone does either you can no longer reach them, thus the disappearance of her nick from your mail. Sorry for some that is to hard to tell someone new, it's just easier to belittling newbies. [:@] Since you are not a reg here ...that is the reason for the attacks upon you for trying to do the right thing. If the sub is not a poster or lurker of the forum side she will not see your post, either. My advice is to forget and move on, we ALL make stupid mistake at some point, learn from it and move on.[:D]

I would like to say welcome to the forums where sometimes it takes a thick skin for some to accept you. others of us just tend to be friendly to all. LOL there is this cool feature on this side as well that allows you to hide those whose post you rather not read....or do like I do and just by pass their post.[:D] Hope you will stick around and enjoy the post...I personally mean my kudos on trying to do the right thing. Hope to see you keep posting and finding that in which you seek.




DaddySatyr -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:19:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rasciallymisty

... I personally mean my kudos on trying to do the right thing ...


I meant my kudos, too; until he came off sideways. The last thing we need is for the welcome wagon to run over new-comers but if new-comers are gonna lay in the street ...



Get out of the way,



Mario Andretti




Rawni -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:20:19 AM)

ROFL... so I am the bad guy. Okay.. I can be bad. You posted your drama and I could detail all of it based on your own profile and journal. I hadn't looked when I posted the second time, but since then, I believe my opinion is supported by your own words. You brought your situation to a public format. Did you not think that others might have some opinions or did you think that you would be gloried as this amazing person to stand up and say he is sorry?

I don't have to have an agenda... you are pretty much doing this to yourself. I am just commenting on it.




myotherself -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:31:45 AM)

*fast reply*

I made my comment because, having been on the sharp end of that kind of crap many, many times, I have no sympathy for the perpetrators.

There is no 'accidental' way to write that kind of insulting message. It took a person to sit down, open a message window, think what to write, and then choose to send it.

I do not believe for one second that he didn't mean to send it.

The fact that he now regrets it is one small crumb of comfort.

However, when told his behaviour was unacceptable and trollish by the kinds of people who are the targets for that kind of mean-spirited crap, he spits the dummy out of the pram and starts insulting everyone?

Yeah, he's sorry all right...[8|]




lizi -> RE: Slave ..... An apology (7/24/2013 7:41:12 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PaulUKE

Looking at my mails sent, I can't see one that I posted to a slave. She posted that she had limits, and I ( Stupidly ) sent her a mail saying that she can't be a slave if she has limits !!
I'd just like to apologise to her for sending such an "uninformed" post.


Since you posted this on a discussion board and all, I'm curious, what led to your reversal on the idea that slaves can't have limits?




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