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UnicornGoddess -> Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 4:21:21 AM)

I recently discovered that I find something profoundly attractive about people who have been disfigured or scarred, particularly when the scarring has occurred on their face.

Part of it is the idea of past tragedy which is...somehow romantic to me ("romantic" in the sense of "heroic", "idealistic" or "picturesque").

Now, I have heard about amputee fetishes and fetishes for congenital deformities, but are there others here who, like me, found they have a fetish for other forms of disfigurement in general? Or perhaps for facial injuries specifically?

I am interested in hearing from others who have this or similar kinks, as this is new to me and I'm trying to explore my feelings about it.

Oh, if you're curious, this was the first thing that made me realise I was attracted to disfigured people:

http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Media/Pix/pictures/2011/3/4/1299251079560/Boardwalk-Empire-Richard--007.jpg

Which, in turn, reminded me of this guy:

http://thehumanmarvels.com/900/sam-alexander-the-man-with-two-faces/disfigured

...Well, they do say that chicks dig scars!



DesFIP -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 12:40:23 PM)

The problem with this is what it always is. Nobody wants to be viewed as a fantasy for you. They want you to pick them for what makes them an individual.

If you're saying that you wouldn't give him a second glance without the scar, then that's not attractive.



evesgrden -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 12:50:25 PM)

Does he still have to pay if he has a scar or can he get it for free?



Kana -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 12:59:58 PM)

Grins
I have scars all over me-way to crazy a childhood.
Few years back, a buddy got me a hat that says, "Scars are ink with better backstories."
Good times



TNDommeK -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 2:32:39 PM)

I love this thread....mainly because I thought I was weird. I love scars. Yea they are hot.
Now I don't have an opinion about amputees or the like, but scars definitely are HOT!



MissToYouRedux -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 2:51:36 PM)

I have a thing for scars, too. (And I know exactly when I got it, but that story's too long. lol) They're the tangible evidence of a life lived, they always have a story behind them, and then there's the tactile element...

What can I say? Yum! [8D]



Kana -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 2:58:58 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I love this thread....mainly because I thought I was weird. I love scars. Yea they are hot.
Now I don't have an opinion about amputees or the like, but scars definitely are HOT!
Keanu's greatest line evah!
Pain fades
Chicks dig scars
Glory lasts forever



LadyRedRoseToo -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 3:29:34 PM)

those who find amputees attractive are called "devotees". i am sure there is a term for those who find scars attractive. whatever your fetish, i'm sure there are others among the 7 billion people on the planet who find something similar or the same attractive. just enjoy it. with using that fetish as a basis for a fantasy, whatever you daydream about is absolutely perfect. you control it all. nobody farts at a bad time, nobody falls asleep until you want them to, nobody needs a pee break and comes back to bed with the remote and a bowl of popcorn. enjoy it!



Focus50 -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 4:05:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: UnicornGoddess

I recently discovered that I find something profoundly attractive about people who have been disfigured or scarred, particularly when the scarring has occurred on their face.

Part of it is the idea of past tragedy which is...somehow romantic to me ("romantic" in the sense of "heroic", "idealistic" or "picturesque").

Now, I have heard about amputee fetishes and fetishes for congenital deformities, but are there others here who, like me, found they have a fetish for other forms of disfigurement in general? Or perhaps for facial injuries specifically?

I am interested in hearing from others who have this or similar kinks, as this is new to me and I'm trying to explore my feelings about it.

Oh, if you're curious, this was the first thing that made me realise I was attracted to disfigured people:

http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Media/Pix/pictures/2011/3/4/1299251079560/Boardwalk-Empire-Richard--007.jpg

Which, in turn, reminded me of this guy:

http://thehumanmarvels.com/900/sam-alexander-the-man-with-two-faces/disfigured

...Well, they do say that chicks dig scars!


Yep, "chicks dig scars" - had first hand experience of that. Then there was the night I got in a fight and despite coming out on top, managed to "score" primarily courtesy of a puffed and bloody eye socket. We'd been dating for about a month or so (waaaay too long ago to remember now) but she really warmed up for our first time that night.... lol

I dunno, maybe the attraction of scars is some primal thing - evidence of a strong male whose lived life and survived; has fought for his right to exist and take his rightful place in the pecking order etc. And strength has status in the animal kingdom.

Whatever - I'm sure shrinks or google has a better answer. But what I do know is that there's a damned good reason why they say "chicks dig scars".

Focus.



awwbummer -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 9:23:36 PM)

I like scars, I think they give a person character.

I have a little one over my eye but you can barely see it. And I don't have a cool story to go with it. I tripped and cracked myself on a glass door when I was little.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 9:24:21 PM)

I'm not big on major dis figuration but I like scars. Scars are like a violent painting about someone's survival and I think violence can be beautiful.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 10:20:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Keanu's greatest line evah!
Pain fades
Chicks dig scars
Glory lasts forever



One of my favorite movies of ALL TIME! [:D]



UnicornGoddess -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (7/31/2013 11:58:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux

I have a thing for scars, too. (And I know exactly when I got it, but that story's too long. lol)


Argh! Now I really want to hear that story! Tease :-P



UnicornGoddess -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (8/1/2013 12:17:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The problem with this is what it always is. Nobody wants to be viewed as a fantasy for you. They want you to pick them for what makes them an individual.

If you're saying that you wouldn't give him a second glance without the scar, then that's not attractive.


You're quite right about no one wanting to be seen purely as a fantasy/sex object. I would argue that by new-found interest in scars is no different, in that way, from someone who has a preference for large breasts, long toes or blonde hair. I don't need someone to be disfigured to be attracted to them (my fiance is not disfigured) nor, when I meet someone who is disfigured, do I treat them like some sort of sex object.

quote:

ORIGINAL: evesgrden

Does he still have to pay if he has a scar or can he get it for free?


I'm not sure I understnad your question.

If your asking if a disfigured person I found attractive would still have to pay for my Findom services...well then, yes, of course. That's what makes it "Financial" domination. It's about an exchange of money, which is sexy to me.

If you're asking if a disfigured person I found attractive would have to pay to have sex with me, then no, because I don't offer this as a service. I don't have a moral issue with exchanging sex for money, it's just that it doesn't interest me personally.

The fact that I joined this site predominately because of my Findom activities does not preclude the fact that I am a human being with other interests. Some of my other interests, like his, are kinky and so this seemed to be an appropriate place to talk them.

If your question was anything other than a joke and if I haven't addressed it properly here, feel free to message me privately.



TNDommeK -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (8/1/2013 1:15:05 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Keanu's greatest line evah!
Pain fades
Chicks dig scars
Glory lasts forever



One of my favorite movies of ALL TIME! [:D]



Rollerball?
Did that have Keanu in it? Cause there was a FINE chic in that movie with a scar!



Kana -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (8/1/2013 4:04:38 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

quote:

ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Keanu's greatest line evah!
Pain fades
Chicks dig scars
Glory lasts forever



One of my favorite movies of ALL TIME! [:D]



Rollerball?
Did that have Keanu in it? Cause there was a FINE chic in that movie with a scar!


I think it's called The Replacements-about a team of NFL scabs. Keanu is QB



TNDommeK -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (8/1/2013 4:08:38 AM)

Ah, yea..Replacements. Great movie!



VideoAdminChi -> RE: Attraction to Disfigurement (8/1/2013 12:55:46 PM)

FR,

As we have several active threads on Financial Domination, posters wishing to discuss that subject should do that there. Further comments on Fin Dom on this thread will be deleted.



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