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deleted - 8/5/2013 3:34:11 PM

Sheela22

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You are right Hlen5. im sorry.i deleted my post

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RE: Punishment - 8/5/2013 3:53:06 PM

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You have more pressing things to discuss with your Dom than punishment.

D/s is always supposed to start from consent.

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RE: deleted - 8/5/2013 4:07:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sheela22

What are some reasons for a Dom to punish the sub?

Um. For the fun of it?

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RE: Punishment - 8/5/2013 4:09:28 PM

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D/s is always supposed to start from consent.

I agree with this.

See, from your previous postings you came into the relationship from a vanilla point of view. Suddenly and without warning it turned into a bdsm one.

If you were given the choice, I am sure you would have been more prepared than you are now and could have been gently introduced do the lifestyle.

However....

From your perspective, you have given your all, you have given so much. It's only natural for you to try and make it work at all costs. It's a natural instinct when someone invests in something so much.

What you have not learnt yet. Is that it can be your biggest downfall.

It takes a lot of courage and strength to walk away. I would do this now, rather than doing it many months down the line, when you wished that if only you did it sooner.

To answer the question, why are you even asking? The Dom should be asking if he needs to learn about the lifestyle. He is not here, because his ignorance blinds him into thinking he is God's gift. He is not, far from it.

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RE: deleted - 8/5/2013 4:50:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sheela22

What are some reasons for a Dom to punish the sub?

We don't have a punishment dynamic, so there is no reason that would justify it.

When an issue arises, we discuss the problems like adults and formulate a solution.

BTW, this is one of the questions YOU SHOULD HAVE ASKED BEFORE YOU AGREED.

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RE: deleted - 8/5/2013 5:04:54 PM

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RE: deleted - 8/5/2013 5:57:51 PM

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I never punish unless we both agree that it's deserved. If I punish her when she doesn't think it's merited, that simply makes her resent the relationship.

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