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Gauge -> RE: What does the "FR" mean? (8/6/2013 5:13:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
Gauge, I checked your posts and saw that you stopped posting for 4 years (almost to the day). I am curious whether in the couple of weeks since you've been back you've formed any impressions about the forum discussions - have they changed? Better or worse? Same shit different day?
Yes actually I have noticed a few things. I mostly lurk on the rest of the CM boards except for the Casual Banter section, I normally just like to read the BDSM discussions that go on, but in this section I can have some fun. What hit me most when I returned was that it seems that there are more arguments than discussions and the level of snark has pegged into the red. Might have been the threads I have read though so don't take that as an overall statement, but a commentary on what I saw. Whenever you get a few hundred people in a room and bring up a topic and people start to discuss things there are bound to be disagreements and then personalities will flare and the disagreements turn to arguments. That is life.
I have a personal code on any message board that I am on: I never argue, I always debate and I never, ever lower myself into name calling or ridicule, nor do I sink to the grammar police level when I have been bested in a discussion. I have always found that when the grammar police show up they rarely add anything to a discussion. I know that some people are not as educated as I am, and I also know that there are people that are far more educated than I am. Correcting grammar is something my parents used to do to me whenever I was trying to express an opinion to them which basically meant to me that the only thing they cared about is how I looked, not the content of what I had to say. I am also never afraid to admit that I was wrong about something, but as I tried to debate with someone, opinions are never wrong or right, "facts" can be. I also stay away from religion, politics and religion and politics... did I mention politics and religion? Here I am rambling about myself but I am not really answering your question... but in a way I am. I like to believe that I can debate things with my fellow man without it degenerating into a farce of who is right and who is wrong. The point of an argument should never be to win but to find a middle ground where both parties can feel like they have been heard.
I always tell my kids, "When you ask for my opinion, in ten minutes, please remember that you asked." When people get all bent out of shape when they do not get people to agree with them after posting something I kind of wonder what they expected to happen. The world would be a boring place if everyone agreed, but it would also be a bit more peaceful and quiet. This is just how I choose to conduct myself, not the way I expect everyone else to do so because that will not happen. I always try to remember that there is another human being on the other side of the screen and most of the time they deserve respect, even if the respect that you show is ignoring them entirely.
Bah... I got far too serious which ruined the bit of levity I was enjoying. That is OK though... you asked.
Did I mention that I hate the dancing banana?
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