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mnottertail -> RE: Good submissives (8/8/2013 11:18:14 AM)
well, it must be menopausal, cuz I gotta tell ya, most submissives should be wet from that.

lovethyself -> RE: Good submissives (8/8/2013 6:22:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 no hard feelings :) i blame my mom for ruining me lol She has a good sense of humor and a willingness to learn. I vote we keep her. Seconded. Please Sheela, stick around.

JeffBC -> RE: Good submissives (8/8/2013 6:37:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: metamorfosis What makes it the right context? The fact that something was pre-negotiated? Man, my brain just works so differently from that. From my standpoint what would make it the right or wrong context was whether or not it worked. How on earth could an agreement change that? In the end reality wins. Agreements, consent, all that crap is just a way to HOPE you get to a working context.

getoutnow -> RE: Good submissives (8/8/2013 6:41:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 I'm pretty sure this about me and making fun of my post. If it is ,its okay ..I never claimed I'm a good sub anyways..:) I claim that the reason you aren't a good sub. Is because you aren't sub at all. You entered into a vanilla relationship and then the guy proclaimed himself as Dom (there is no evidence to suggest that he is) and because you invested so much into the relationship you decided to swallow your pride and you took it. Now you are on these boards scrambling around like a cockroach and trying to read up on the lifestyle and ask all sorts of questions. Why don't you be honest with yourself and ask these questions. 1) Are you submissive. 2) Are you a masochist. 3) How much control do you want someone over you. 4) Which of the above do you derive pleasure from. By reading these boards, I'm pretty sure you'll find out more about you and if you find yourself being in a relationship you don't want to be in. Well, some people tried to warn you....

metamorfosis -> RE: Good submissives (8/8/2013 6:53:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: metamorfosis What makes it the right context? The fact that something was pre-negotiated? Man, my brain just works so differently from that. From my standpoint what would make it the right or wrong context was whether or not it worked. How on earth could an agreement change that? In the end reality wins. Agreements, consent, all that crap is just a way to HOPE you get to a working context. Who decides whether it works? And if it doesn't, how would people resolve that without negotiating?

Sheela22 -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 2:16:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: getoutnow quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 I'm pretty sure this about me and making fun of my post. If it is ,its okay ..I never claimed I'm a good sub anyways..:) I claim that the reason you aren't a good sub. Is because you aren't sub at all. You entered into a vanilla relationship and then the guy proclaimed himself as Dom (there is no evidence to suggest that he is) and because you invested so much into the relationship you decided to swallow your pride and you took it. Now you are on these boards scrambling around like a cockroach and trying to read up on the lifestyle and ask all sorts of questions. Why don't you be honest with yourself and ask these questions. 1) Are you submissive. 2) Are you a masochist. 3) How much control do you want someone over you. 4) Which of the above do you derive pleasure from. By reading these boards, I'm pretty sure you'll find out more about you and if you find yourself being in a relationship you don't want to be in. Well, some people tried to warn you.... I don't know . It's all new to me. I do love that he has control over me but I really like to discuss first then he makes the decisions for us. Am I submissive ? I don't know. I don't like to be in charge and I always follow his orders . Tonight we went on a date and when we came back I told him that im ready and it went better than our first time (no anal)... I do get turned on by pleasuring him

metamorfosis -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 3:20:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 I don't know . It's all new to me. I do love that he has control over me but I really like to discuss first then he makes the decisions for us. Am I submissive ? I don't know. I don't like to be in charge and I always follow his orders . Tonight we went on a date and when we came back I told him that im ready and it went better than our first time (no anal)... I do get turned on by pleasuring him Ha. God help me, but I am still trying to figure out if you are real.

Sheela22 -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 8:24:46 AM)
Im real but i let my emotions makes decisions for me lol .. I know I know.. I know I should have waited until I see a change in him ( he promised to comunicate more) but the fact that he came home earlier to take me out and be with me was such big turn on to me so I just told him I'm ready ...

stef -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 10:05:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: metamorfosis Ha. God help me, but I am still trying to figure out if you are real. You should start a few more passive-aggressive threads to try and figure that out. The last ones worked so well for you.

theshytype -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 11:57:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 Im real but i let my emotions makes decisions for me lol .. I know I know.. I know I should have waited until I see a change in him ( he promised to comunicate more) but the fact that he came home earlier to take me out and be with me was such big turn on to me so I just told him I'm ready ... Sheela, thinking with emotions is not necessarily a bad thing! Just like always thinking without any emotion is not necessarily a good thing. And if you were like me, thinking with both a little bit of brain and a little bit of heart, can become easily conflicted!

Hillwilliam -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 11:59:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 Im real but i let my emotions makes decisions for me lol .. I know I know.. I know I should have waited until I see a change in him ( he promised to comunicate more) but the fact that he came home earlier to take me out and be with me was such big turn on to me so I just told him I'm ready ... Sheela. maybe you should read up on "Sub Frenzy" You seem to have a bad case of it. The good news is that time heals it.

JeffBC -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 3:57:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: metamorfosis Who decides whether it works? And if it doesn't, how would people resolve that without negotiating? Not the right person for that question. It's you BDSM folk that live in this land of agreements and decisions and contracts and roles and other high-level constructs. I live in reality. It works if it works. If both parties are achieving whatever their goals are from the relationship then it is working. If they are not, then it is not. There's no "decision" to be made.

JeffBC -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 3:59:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam She has a good sense of humor and a willingness to learn. I vote we keep her. Oooh, is it finally vote time on Sheela? Yeah, I say we keep her too.

deliriuminabox -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 4:01:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: getoutnow quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 I'm pretty sure this about me and making fun of my post. If it is ,its okay ..I never claimed I'm a good sub anyways..:) I claim that the reason you aren't a good sub. Is because you aren't sub at all. You entered into a vanilla relationship and then the guy proclaimed himself as Dom (there is no evidence to suggest that he is) and because you invested so much into the relationship you decided to swallow your pride and you took it. Now you are on these boards scrambling around like a cockroach and trying to read up on the lifestyle and ask all sorts of questions. Why don't you be honest with yourself and ask these questions. 1) Are you submissive. 2) Are you a masochist. 3) How much control do you want someone over you. 4) Which of the above do you derive pleasure from. By reading these boards, I'm pretty sure you'll find out more about you and if you find yourself being in a relationship you don't want to be in. Well, some people tried to warn you.... The cockroach comparison was rather unnecessary and kinda cruel, imo. I agree that Sheela has been kind of all over the place since she started posting but she's trying to learn as much as she can in a short period of time. Give the girl a break.

Sheela22 -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 4:07:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: deliriuminabox quote: ORIGINAL: getoutnow quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 I'm pretty sure this about me and making fun of my post. If it is ,its okay ..I never claimed I'm a good sub anyways..:) I claim that the reason you aren't a good sub. Is because you aren't sub at all. You entered into a vanilla relationship and then the guy proclaimed himself as Dom (there is no evidence to suggest that he is) and because you invested so much into the relationship you decided to swallow your pride and you took it. Now you are on these boards scrambling around like a cockroach and trying to read up on the lifestyle and ask all sorts of questions. Why don't you be honest with yourself and ask these questions. 1) Are you submissive. 2) Are you a masochist. 3) How much control do you want someone over you. 4) Which of the above do you derive pleasure from. By reading these boards, I'm pretty sure you'll find out more about you and if you find yourself being in a relationship you don't want to be in. Well, some people tried to warn you.... The cockroach comparison was rather unnecessary and kinda cruel, imo. I agree that Sheela has been kind of all over the place since she started posting but she's trying to learn as much as she can in a short period of time. Give the girl a break. It's okay. I think I annoyed many posters by asking way too much questions :p thank you for the vote for keeping me hehehe

JeffBC -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 6:01:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 It's okay. I think I annoyed many posters by asking way too much questions :p thank you for the vote for keeping me hehehe No. You didn't ask too many questions. We love it when new folks ask questions and learn from our mistakes. We were worried that it was all a hoax and you were playing with us (you'll understand better why we'd wonder that when you hang around here a bit longer). For those of us who believe the whole story, we're worried about you as a human. It wasn't "too many questions" or even "dumb questions" Heh, trust me on this. Some of my earlier posts are truly embarrassing in hindsight but CM seems to have forgiven me my ignorance and folly :)

Sheela22 -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 8:21:57 PM)
Jeff you live in BC??!? I'm a BC girl :) go Canucks go

NuevaVida -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 8:29:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: metamorfosis Who decides whether it works? And if it doesn't, how would people resolve that without negotiating? Not the right person for that question. It's you BDSM folk that live in this land of agreements and decisions and contracts and roles and other high-level constructs. I live in reality. It works if it works. If both parties are achieving whatever their goals are from the relationship then it is working. If they are not, then it is not. There's no "decision" to be made. Stop being so rational. No wait. Don't stop being so rational. [:)]

JeffBC -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 11:06:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 Jeff you live in BC??!? I'm a BC girl :) go Canucks go ROFL, don't get too excited. I'm an import from California that your government foolishly decided to let stay. Don't ask me what they were thinking. Our Canadian friends seem to like us even though we don't speak hockey.

Sheela22 -> RE: Good submissives (8/9/2013 11:56:57 PM)
LOL... Well half of the Canucks team are American we still love them :) I don't live in BC anymore . I moved to another province to be with him and everyone hates the Canucks team with passion here.. Boo...Can you guess where lol?

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