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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:16:14 AM   
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if you contact someone politely and ask if they are interested in this Dynamic they can be very vitriolic and unpleasant.


Please send a sample first letter and I will be happy to critique it.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:21:32 AM   
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A lot of people associate not using condoms with the risk of AIDs. I was personally squicked out by the wording ... "Daddy's special gift" ... Kind of left me feeling like I'd been touched in the dark and not in a good way.

Why ?

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:24:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I mentioned in another post that when I go to a "little" place, sex is the furthest thing from my mind. It would severely creep me out, to the point of near-trauma if someone tried to have sex with me while in that mindset. Physically I'm still an adult but mentally I lack the skills to cope with "Daddy's special gift" during those times.

Obviously this is just me.

But I can see how that line would be squicky towards other people as well. For some people it just comes off a little weird to mix babytalk and sexytalk.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:33:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very few littles are actually into incest play. Which is how that last sentence reads.

Beyond that op, the onus is on you to read a profile and see if they're interested in D/lg. Plus to read their profile and address comments about their vanilla activities that you share. Telling someone to read your profile and ask you questions says you are lazy and you have no particular interest in them as a person, that you just want any warm body.

Surprisingly enough, being treated as a random cum dumpster by strangers is not a kink you find very often, if ever.

And yes, babygirl is usually a term of endearment, not a reference to a little headspace.

All in all I'm not surprised you get negative responses. Although I am somewhat surprised you get any response.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 10:07:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cumhometodaddy

I have found that there are a lot of people even on here that look upon the daddy/babygirl dynamic with contempt or disgust.
It amazes me the abuse that can spew from someone when after all they are on an adult site, where acceptance of others desires and kinks should be the norm.


So some people don't understand the dynamic that floats your boat, just brush it off and move on. There is a lack of understanding about what others do in general, women on CM get ticked at men all the time because they don't seem to understand that every women on here isn't looking for sex with a stranger, submissive men get ticked that there aren't any "real" Dominant women, there is the contingent that thinks slaves have no preferences or desires, etc. Hardly anyone seem to understand the desire for toilet play.

Acceptance of others' kinks should be the norm, but people don't always have the tools or information to understand what is going on within that kink. Move onto someone who desires what you do and leave the other's opinion behind.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 1:16:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Very few littles are actually into incest play. Which is how that last sentence reads.

Beyond that op, the onus is on you to read a profile and see if they're interested in D/lg. Plus to read their profile and address comments about their vanilla activities that you share. Telling someone to read your profile and ask you questions says you are lazy and you have no particular interest in them as a person, that you just want any warm body.

Surprisingly enough, being treated as a random cum dumpster by strangers is not a kink you find very often, if ever.

And yes, babygirl is usually a term of endearment, not a reference to a little headspace.

All in all I'm not surprised you get negative responses. Although I am somewhat surprised you get any response.


Well, according to his journal entry he's gotten lots of responses. Unfortunately, they're the pay-me kind.

Kink- or dick-centric screen names such as yours put many off because it implies that's all there is to you. Most women want a fully formed relationship; no matter what the kink, it's just an add-on.

If a profile doesn't specifically state your kink as what she's seeking, pass it by. IF I was a sub, and IF I was not into that dynamic, I'd be squicked beyond all hope. I wouldn't be able to get past your screen name. I wouldn't bother insulting you with a scathing reply, but I'd sure as hell block you immediately. IF I was a sub, and IF I enjoyed that dynamic, I still wouldn't be able to get past your screen name. So focus on the profiles that specifically state what you seek and leave the other folks alone.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 1:30:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cumhometodaddy

after all they are on an adult site, where acceptance of others desires and kinks should be the norm.
This is incorrect. I may tolerate your kink, but I don't have to be accepting of it.

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I am surprised that anyone would find unprotected consensual sex unusual between two people in an exclusive committed relationship.


I would find it ill advised until the relationship was 6 months old and there had been a couple of clean STD scans.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 3:19:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		He calls me baby girl sometimes but I don't call him daddy. We don't use condom either. We are both clean ( no STD , he has to do complete check up because of his job once a year & my gp got me tested when I told him ex sleeps around)

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 3:22:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: deliriuminabox


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ORIGINAL: cumhometodaddy

I am surprised that anyone would find unprotected consensual sex unusual between two people in an exclusive committed relationship.


Its a generational thing, I've noticed. People from my generation and older tend not to find it that unusual. People from the generation after mine and younger are much more aware of the risk and potential for STDs. A lot of the "younger" people I've encountered have never had unprotected sex. Ever. To them, the idea is unheard of, foreign, waaaaay out there.




I thought the younger generation are usually so uninformed, they think unprotected oral sex is ok because it's not really "sex".

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/7/2013 8:34:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

aids? What made you think that?


The "hidden" gift in the semen.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 12:42:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well thanks for all of your input, i cannot say i agree with everything but it has certainly given me a lot to think about.
It seems there are always those that will find my kink icky and of course that is fine, i still do not think there is any need for some of the nastiness that can be thrown around just because people do not understand or like others desires.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 6:43:42 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		You don't understand that incest play is extreme? That many people here have been actually so abused and therefore find this an emotional trigger? That lack of understanding says to me that I wouldn't trust you as far as I can throw a grand piano, let alone with control over me.

You're so focused on making your dick happy, that you aren't thinking at all about how it's going to impact her. And that dickcentric thinking is why you can't get anyone. Continue to do what doesn't work while stamping your feet about how everybody misunderstands you, or realize that you are reaping what you sowed.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 7:08:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You don't understand that incest play is extreme? That many people here have been actually so abused and therefore find this an emotional trigger? That lack of understanding says to me that I wouldn't trust you as far as I can throw a grand piano, let alone with control over me.

You're so focused on making your dick happy, that you aren't thinking at all about how it's going to impact her. And that dickcentric thinking is why you can't get anyone. Continue to do what doesn't work while stamping your feet about how everybody misunderstands you, or realize that you are reaping what you sowed.

^^^ Good post Des ^^^

OP doesn't seem to comprehend that his "kink" is a lot of people's nightmare.
Soo many that have been abused would automatically think "incest" or "paedophile" and would physically vomit when reading OP's "kink".
Yet he cannot understand why so many are finding it unpalitable and vociferous.

I think if anyone dared to put forward a paedo-style profile and asked for takers they would be slammed by just about everyone and probably banned from the site.
Daddy/babygirl isn't that far removed from that and many find it abhorent.

Even dismemberment and Dolcette are more acceptable than OP's kink.
There are just some things that ought not be mentioned in public.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:27:27 PM   
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You don't understand that incest play is extreme? That many people here have been actually so abused and therefore find this an emotional trigger? That lack of understanding says to me that I wouldn't trust you as far as I can throw a grand piano, let alone with control over me.

You're so focused on making your dick happy, that you aren't thinking at all about how it's going to impact her. And that dickcentric thinking is why you can't get anyone. Continue to do what doesn't work while stamping your feet about how everybody misunderstands you, or realize that you are reaping what you sowed.

My dad never abused me but he did neglect many many times and not in a million years I can trust him. I can NEVER call my Dom "daddy" ( he calls me baby girl though sometimes ). I trust my Dom, I love him.. any association between the man I love and my dad makes me cringe

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:35:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sheela, I'm glad you're continuing to post. I know you didn't get the warm welcome you were hoping for, but I think you might find some much needed support in this group.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:42:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sheela22

My dad never abused me but he did neglect many many times and not in a million years I can trust him. I can NEVER call my Dom "daddy" ( he calls me baby girl though sometimes ). I trust my Dom, I love him.. any association between the man I love and my dad makes me cringe


Tell him that him calling you baby girl isn't making you feel positive and you'd prefer if he'd call you something else. He may not be aware that it makes you cringe, he should want to make you light up when he's around, not make you have negative associations.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:51:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lizi


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ORIGINAL: Sheela22

My dad never abused me but he did neglect many many times and not in a million years I can trust him. I can NEVER call my Dom "daddy" ( he calls me baby girl though sometimes ). I trust my Dom, I love him.. any association between the man I love and my dad makes me cringe


Tell him that him calling you baby girl isn't making you feel positive and you'd prefer if he'd call you something else. He may not be aware that it makes you cringe, he should want to make you light up when he's around, not make you have negative associations.


Being called baby girl doesn't annoy me as much as me calling him "daddy"... He calls me panda most of the time any ways lol

ETA: Edited for typos

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:53:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sheela22


Baby girl doesn't annoy me as much as me calling him "daddy"... He calls me panda most of the time any ways lol



I understand what you're saying here, I'm just asserting that because he loves you, he'll most likely want to know that it doesn't work for him to call you baby girl.

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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 3:59:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lizi

I understand what you're saying here, I'm just asserting that because he loves you, he'll most likely want to know that it doesn't work for him to call you baby girl.


Considering that he didn't really care that having anal sex with no lube that left her bleeding didn't work for her.....I'm not sure he'll give a crap about the "baby girl" part.


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RE: Daddy/babygirl - 8/8/2013 4:02:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: lizi

I understand what you're saying here, I'm just asserting that because he loves you, he'll most likely want to know that it doesn't work for him to call you baby girl.


Considering that he didn't really care that having anal sex with no lube that left her bleeding didn't work for her.....I'm not sure he'll give a crap about the "baby girl" part.



I'm aiming at a slightly different target here, I'm hoping she gets the idea that she can and should ask for things in order to have a relationship work for both people involved. Seems to be a new concept to her that both people get something out of being together.

Edited to add: If he does refuse to pay attention to her request, it'll just be another nail in the coffin when she gets her head on straight and decides to leave him.

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