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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 12:26:35 PM   
harddaddy48


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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 12:40:11 PM   
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Find another Master right away. Fill the void.


That's one of worst replies ever.

Op, do NOT do this. It's called a "rebound" and rebounds never work. All they do is hurt both you and him.


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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 4:09:01 PM   
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Find another Master right away. Fill the void.


THis statement is completely idiotic.
OP, do not do this, what horrible advice. The poster who made this suggestion has to be trolling, it is never a good idea to go for another relationship immediately following a breakup.

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 4:09:40 PM   
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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 5:01:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: harddaddy48

Find another Master right away. Fill the void.


I saw my soon to be ex stepbrother (my father is getting a divorce) do that as a teenager when his girlfriend dumped him.

OP, some people on these boards will tell you to grieve for months before even thinking about looking for someone else. Yet those same people may insult you for whining and accuse you of playing the victim card if you follow their advice (most people do complain and feel victimized if they spend months grieving because they are depressed). My advice is don't immediately jump into another relationship, but DO start dating again as soon as possible. Date several people (having several admirers will boost your self esteem) and get to know all of them before picking one to commit to. That way you're not rushing into another relationship and you're not setting yourself up to develop clinical depression by "taking the time to grieve and heal."

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/11/2013 5:28:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		fix yourself before you start dating or seeing or fucking anyone. Until you do that, every single decision you ever make will not be in your favor. You will just fall into the same trap because you didn't look to see and fix your issues that played into the breakup of a relationship and yeah...it always takes two.

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/12/2013 10:03:41 AM   
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fix yourself before you start dating or seeing or fucking anyone. Until you do that, every single decision you ever make will not be in your favor. You will just fall into the same trap because you didn't look to see and fix your issues that played into the breakup of a relationship and yeah...it always takes two.


Indeed.

You can't run out and replace a relationship like you replace a pet who has died.

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/17/2013 11:08:02 PM   
Greta75


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You can't run out and replace a relationship like you replace a pet who has died.

I smile at that.
Different strokes for different folks.
I personally like replacing a relationship like replacing a pet who has died.
It helps in coping but it's about finding NSA relationships and going in with your eyes open that this is just temporary comfort to adjust slowly to the new situation.

Of course at the same time, go work out alot, meet new people, make new friends, keep yourself socially busy, that's what I do. Because any free time you have will be dwelling about him. What's the point? His your past. Now you need to look to your future.

I don't agree with an above suggestion of buying wholesale of ben and jerry's, trust me you will just feel worst. It's like drinking, you will only feel worst after.


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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/19/2013 6:54:06 PM   
SerWhiteTiger


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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fix yourself before you start dating or seeing or fucking anyone. Until you do that, every single decision you ever make will not be in your favor. You will just fall into the same trap because you didn't look to see and fix your issues that played into the breakup of a relationship and yeah...it always takes two.


Indeed.

You can't run out and replace a relationship like you replace a pet who has died.


Because replacing a relationship is easier???

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/20/2013 12:02:20 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Not really. I have not been able to replace my pet that died a few years ago and I doubt I will find a relationship to replace.my old one.

While I have learned a lot about myself, that has zero to do with the quality of of who I meet.

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RE: how do you move on after losing you Master? - 8/20/2013 8:16:15 AM   
yursouthernlady


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just wish I had a sexy Dom right now because I'm achinggggggg......

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