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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/8/2013 9:26:47 PM   
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Dom's love dancing fruit, especially multicolored bananas. The more the merrier.






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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/8/2013 9:28:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Gauge
Dom's love dancing fruit, especially multicolored bananas. The more the merrier.







DAMMIT!

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/8/2013 9:43:39 PM   
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Things I would change about doms in general:
-they could have more empathy towards other human beings and make a little extra effort to help each other
-they could take more personal responsibility for things
-they could have more self-discipline to make changes for the long term good, like reducing carbon emissions
-they could stop ringing me at inconvenient times of the day
But then again, these are my complaints about human beings in general. Subs, switches and vanilla folk get the same list.

Things I would change about my dom:
-I would take away his diabetes to give him a better life expectancy
-I would like it he felt more comfortable in crowds so his life was a little easier


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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/8/2013 11:06:43 PM   
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I don't have any complaints about him as a Dom and he
says he doesn't have any complaints about me as a submissive.
But as two human being, as a man and woman there are things
about one another that we've had to adjust to, had to learn
to accept.

I like quiet in the morning. So quiet that the only sound you
hear is the granola crunching. I like to meditate, do yoga and
go outside with a cup of tea and ponder the meaning of life.
He gets up chipper, active and relatively talkative. He likes
or sometimes likes to turn on the tv and listen to the morning
news, weather and sports updates. We compromise on this
by him turning on the tv while I'm outside contemplating.

He's generally more outgoing and extroverted than I am.
I'm quieter and more introverted.

He doesn't understand why after watching an episode of
Game of Thrones I need to have a huddle with others who
have also read the books and watch the series to obsessively
go over how the books and series differ.

I worry that he eats to many artery clogging foods and doesn't
wear enough sunscreen ( he's a sun worshiper). I wish he would
drink more green tea and liked kale more than he does.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 3:42:24 AM   
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My complaint about Doms are that they're too lazy to allow people to call them by their full names. Domovoi, Domitan, and Dominique are all fine, strong names.


Weak, I know, but it's ridiculous to have this here.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 3:53:45 AM   
metamorfosis


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Poor listening skills, or even, communication skills in general.
Promising more than they can deliver.


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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 6:00:02 AM   
JustAMas


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Why are you so insistent on people talking about our partners behind their back for your entertainment? Just curious

The title of your thread was "Complaints about doms." People elect to not put their relationship on Front Street nor throw their partner under the bus...and yet you are still trying to get people to blab. Why?


I'm not insisting on people to do that... I just thought that it was going to be kind of funny or silly... or possibly jaded. Or it could be serious. Or perhaps I wanted to know what subs really wanted... or asked for... Whatever, I don't know, I wasn't really expecting any kind of particular responses.

Perhaps I don't take BDSM as seriously as some others... who knows? To me, it's mostly just a fantasy or a game... So lighten up! Haha...



These are some good, funny, possibly serious, thoughtful responses... The exactly kind that I would have had in mind...:

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To many Doms feel there better then God


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ORIGINAL: Gauge

Dom's have beards, or they don't.

Dom's cannot master the perfect warbler call. I said PERFECT.

Dom's have nose hairs.

Dom's just Dom because they can't Dom anywhere else.

There is no place like Dom. There is no place like Dom. There is no place like Dom.

Dom's are closet sailors. When they say, "kneel bitch," they really mean, "Keel Bitch!"

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Things I would change about my dom:
-I would take away his diabetes to give him a better life expectancy
-I would like it he felt more comfortable in crowds so his life was a little easier


quote:

ORIGINAL: Winterapple

FR

I like quiet in the morning. So quiet that the only sound you
hear is the granola crunching. I like to meditate, do yoga and
go outside with a cup of tea and ponder the meaning of life.
He gets up chipper, active and relatively talkative. He likes
or sometimes likes to turn on the tv and listen to the morning
news, weather and sports updates. We compromise on this
by him turning on the tv while I'm outside contemplating.

He's generally more outgoing and extroverted than I am.
I'm quieter and more introverted.

He doesn't understand why after watching an episode of
Game of Thrones I need to have a huddle with others who
have also read the books and watch the series to obsessively
go over how the books and series differ.

I worry that he eats to many artery clogging foods and doesn't
wear enough sunscreen ( he's a sun worshiper). I wish he would
drink more green tea and liked kale more than he does.


quote:

ORIGINAL: Thejaybird

My complaint about Doms are that they're too lazy to allow people to call them by their full names. Domovoi, Domitan, and Dominique are all fine, strong names.


Weak, I know, but it's ridiculous to have this here.


Well done all! Keep them coming!



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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Fast Reply

Things I would change about doms in general:
-they could have more empathy towards other human beings and make a little extra effort to help each other
-they could take more personal responsibility for things
-they could have more self-discipline to make changes for the long term good, like reducing carbon emissions
-they could stop ringing me at inconvenient times of the day
But then again, these are my complaints about human beings in general. Subs, switches and vanilla folk get the same list.


Haha yeah, I think this is more of a "liberal list"... lol (I'm a liberal).

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 6:32:07 AM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: JustAMas


Then how are they supposed to seek some objective opinions or advice from others, especially if they say no? Besides isn't that a bit hypocritical, given all the advice that you've given on this forum, when others complained or sought advice or just wanted to talk about their relationship?



I think it is Resident Sadist who has in his signature something to the effect of "If you have to ask the question in a public forum, you probably already know the answer but don't want to accept it".

If you have noticed, the predominant advice given usually boils down to "talk to your dominant, and if you are still unhappy, do something about it."

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 8:39:46 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JustAMas

quote:

ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Why are you so insistent on people talking about our partners behind their back for your entertainment? Just curious

The title of your thread was "Complaints about doms." People elect to not put their relationship on Front Street nor throw their partner under the bus...and yet you are still trying to get people to blab. Why?


I'm not insisting on people to do that... I just thought that it was going to be kind of funny or silly... or possibly jaded. Or it could be serious. Or perhaps I wanted to know what subs really wanted... or asked for... Whatever, I don't know, I wasn't really expecting any kind of particular responses.

Perhaps I don't take BDSM as seriously as some others... who knows? To me, it's mostly just a fantasy or a game... So lighten up! Haha...

These are some good, funny, possibly serious, thoughtful responses... The exactly kind that I would have had in mind...:


If lightening up means I start complaining about someone I care about to people over an Internet message board, I elect to remain exactly the way I am because that's what I feel is the right thing to do. No one said you had to like it.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 8:49:07 AM   
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I agree.

There's no point complaining about generalities, because people are individuals and doing so would be a disservice.

If Himself and I have an issue, we discuss it like adults and attempt to find a solution. Sometimes we just argue like a married couple.

I'm happy to discuss our dynamic, our values, and our goals, but I'm not going to discuss our sex life, genitals or issues on a forum. That isn't a D/s BDSM thing, my view would be the same if we were vanilla.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 8/9/2013 8:50:21 AM >


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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 12:11:23 PM   
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This is my list of things that regularly annoy me about Doms. These are based on generalities, not my current Dom. They are things that I have noticed online and in real life from a great many Doms (not all).


They think that they're right, even when they're not.

They make dangerous, stupid, improbable, impossible, ridiculous, illegal suggestions for play and when you say no, they claim that they get it, but still sound disappointed.

They want you to have sex with other women.

They wish you would wear stockings, heels, suspender belts and dresses every day.

They want to play / fuck outdoors and always claim you'll never get caught.

They want you to go to work with a butt plug in your ass, clamps on your nipples and 'slave of ...' written on your tits.

They think every sub is into drinking their piss and rimming their arses.

If you're into denial, they want to force you to orgasm. If you're into orgasms, they want to put you in a chastity belt - contrary!

When you explain that suggesting clit removal (female genital mutilation) is illegal in the UK, they claim that only applies to Muslim women.

They ask you to yahoo or skype on the first conversation 'just to prove that you're real'.

They always claim to be self-taught, conveniently forgetting how terrible their spanking / caning / flogging technique was to begin with and how much they were helped by a multitude of submissives who kindly soaked up their mis-hits while they learned.

They have a tendancy to fashion cringeworthy implements out of electrical tape and kitchen spatulas.

That 'alpha' nature can all too easily descend into being loud, borish and embarrassing.


What do I wish they would do more of:

Less putting other Doms down (it's not a competition!)

More admitting that they don't know something.

Less homophobic about playing with male subs (learning benefits everyone).

That's all I can think of for now but I'm sure lots more will occur to me later.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 1:47:20 PM   
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~fast reply~

It's the shoes.

Seriously, dominant dudes and dudettes - sort out the shoes!

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 3:39:31 PM   
Kana


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C'mon man-did you really think a slave/sub was gonna air dirty laundry on their dominant?
Service oriented they may be. That by no means makes them stupid, deranged or suicidal.
I mean cripes....

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 3:55:21 PM   
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She thinks I should win the lottery.
Alas, I consistently fail.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 6:08:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana
She thinks I should win the lottery.
Alas, I consistently fail.

<insert True Dom comment here>

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 6:56:49 PM   
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See... this is interesting, and thank you for this. It's good to have the subs' input on things so that I can understand them and know what their thoughts and beliefs are. If they don't say anything, then it could cause misunderstandings (I'm not saying that they don't, within relationships). It's good to know that they're not completely without desires, discomforts or complaints (duh).

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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12

This is my list of things that regularly annoy me about Doms. These are based on generalities, not my current Dom. They are things that I have noticed online and in real life from a great many Doms (not all).


They think that they're right, even when they're not.

...

That's all I can think of for now but I'm sure lots more will occur to me later.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 7:18:18 PM   
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You do realize that all submissives don't undergo a standardized mind reprogramming once they begin identifying as submissive, right? Each submissive is going to have his or her own unique thought process and belief system. Generalizations aren't going to help you understand a specific person.

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 7:27:34 PM   
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I don't make laundry lists of complaints. Why would I? Just seems crude imo. I just simply moved on from my past relationships. I don't even give them a single thought ever.

As for Master, no laundry list. He's perfect just the way he is.

As for other doms, I dunno and don't really care. I'm not searching. Even when I was, I would just talk to them and if they did or said something that I didn't like, I'd just shrug and move on and just say "incompatible". No anger, no issues, no nothing. No big deal.

From the way your thread sounds, it sounds as if you're bitter and angry over having met a lot of Doms that you're not compatible with. Until you get over that, you will continue to meet incompatible men.




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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 7:33:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

You do realize that all submissives don't undergo a standardized mind reprogramming once they begin identifying as submissive, right?



They don't?

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RE: Complaints about doms - 8/9/2013 7:35:09 PM   
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Ok ok,....he's right. I think he should win the lottery. But alas, he always fails.

It just gets harder and harder to trust him.

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