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So much for my Pic - 11/15/2004 5:42:01 PM

lilserenity

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Well I have seen everything and I thought nothing would amaze me but once again I was amazed.. I had to make a new profile and this time I added a pic.. Well I never thought this would cause so much confusion. I had 127 emasils from Doms asking to chat with me or to be theirs.I had thought I had been through it all but I found this to be a bit too much.. It took me two days to delete and then remove my pic.. Now I see that Many Doms here are not serious to their words and are looking for trophies..Im ashamed to have witnessed this but it is true.. Why do Doms think a subs beauty is all they need to make a Dom,when it is the brain that will make them the Dom..I have not placed my pic antywhere anymore I posted once here with it but thats it i have it hidden..I will not go through that mess again..I could make a good lecture on this subject but whats the use they wouldn't read it..I'm just stunned. I thought this was different than alt.com and people were actually real and sincere,let me tell you I even got three proposals,even money and cars. I am not out for material things and donot want them . What I seek is inside a person not outside,if its meant to be it will be,nothing or no one can change fate if its meant to be.. But I just hope the other newbies dont take Every Dom sincere and true,please take your time and take it slow,the world will be here tomorrow and next week or year..So many make that mistake in running to a Dom on a command even without meeting,ALWAYS meet first before committing,Donot Take ONLINE collars they can be replaced and they are far from any REAL collar..So many take that velcro to have it taken away the next day or when a prettier or smarter sub comes along. That is another lecture too . I have them ,I think we need to make a classroom here to teach people who are sincere in learning and living in D/s..Especially the safety section. That is a have too, to know..So many get cut,bruised,scratch,smacked,punched,or whipped so badly they have welts for a week or two..This is a no-no not even on their best Sunday is abuse allowed. and so if people know about safety and first meetings and munches then everyone would know what to expect when they do go to Real time.. This is my opinion ,doesn't mean everyone agrees with me,but I can say darn sure close . lol BE SSC always serenity

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/15/2004 6:06:05 PM

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You'll always get those like that. I wouldn't remove my pic though. It's the same when a person first joins. I'm not that pretty, and got TONS of mail the first week or so. They see someone new, and pounce. It's like a HNG convention. I have also had those I would literally run from. It's like, searching for a needle in a haystack. Sheesh, how many times have I used that analogy? It's true though. The emails will just die down. I wouldn't comprimise myself because of them.

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/15/2004 7:35:29 PM

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What are you talking about?

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I'm not that pretty

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/16/2004 7:47:05 AM

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Yeah; what he said!

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/16/2004 8:15:18 AM

ManicVortex

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I can certainly identify with the picture, profile, being 'hit' on by others etc.

My sub was just collared this past weekend, so I thought it would be cute to post it in her profile, a picture of her leash and collar. Shoot she even thought it was a good idea. Though her profile states explicitely that she is owned she got several emails from Dom's wanting to get closer to her, to find out what makes her tic.. to own her.

My advice to the "Doms" out there.. Read the profiles and if someone is OWNED don't go trying to own them yourself. I trust my sub with having her own account, I trust her with the handling of her own mail but I swear I had no clue how doggish some of these Dom's could be.

Any Dom' hitting on my girl is just adding themself to her ignore list hehe.. Be responsible and prevent making an ass of yourself , try reading the profiles before posting your wants and desires. Geeze, that poor girl getting hit on with 127 posts.. I feel for her lol.

Can someone tell me where we went wrong in this profile ?

..is owned but her Lord allows her to talk to those she wishes...

I am beginning to think that we need an 'off the market' option to filter names from showing up unless specifically read. It sounds like people are looking at these lists of names, not reading the profiles and assuming they are looking for others.

I have another feeling that this is a recurring topic :P

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/16/2004 8:54:38 AM

lilserenity

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I agree less reading and even more less smartness.. Its hard for the subs to even say they are taken because its like a convention of disrespectful idiots/wannabes trying to get a hookup but the dating game rejected them so they come here. I would like to maybe try a new tactic like being able to have a name but if youre owned no profile for the ones that are taken. I think this would help somewhat. I donot know what is in the section to stop emailers form htting on people but I think(not sure ) there is a feature to do it where you donot have to have a profile and keep a name available to chat or post with..I will check in it further and post what i find.. Thank you all for your responses even tho some did not know what i wrote a complaint about lol. be well n SSC serenity

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/16/2004 9:39:27 AM

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 11:18:42 AM

GoddessDustyGold

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I have the same problem as a Mistress. But I have not removed My photo. I know alot of the subs/slaves do not even read or at least take the time to comprehend My profile information. They can't get past the picture.
I personally do not consider Myself a beauty. I know I am attractive and I am mature, although I often look younger than My years. I have not removed My photo. In fact, I haven't been able to remove a few older ones that are very morphed on this site! I have tried!
It comes with the territory, and now you have to do your own weeding. Sometimes it does get tiring.
You say the male Doms are seeking a trophy? I agree that can seem to be the case in many instances. But I will add that, on My side, it feels like there are alot of subs/slaves out there who are looking for a Mistress trophy too.

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 1:06:41 PM

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I don't necessarily agree with that. Some of us in here are for real. I have a problem that in my area, it's hard to find a real submissive. I always intend to start a dialogue via email to see if the person and I would get along or have a good time together. So, it goes both ways.

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 1:17:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ManicVortex
I am beginning to think that we need an 'off the market' option to filter names from showing up...
I have another feeling that this is a recurring topic :P

It is. Following my slave's getting many inappropriate emails, I suggested that feature a month or two back, a "taken, not looking" flag. I hope that the staff here are considering it.

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 1:31:08 PM

pure

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Coming at this from a slightly different angel on profiles and pics

i have many pics and i get all the e-mails though they have died down thankfully to just Tthose that read and can comprehend what is written

now as for reading profiles i read through and grasp some information but i am more the type that wishes to speak One on one

i believe that speaking gets more truth than words written on pages....i could go and snag scripts of shakespeare but it doesn't make me a author

i think if You are confidant and proud of who you are then a pic can show much if the HNG's see a pretty face and can't get past that then you will tell instantly within their mails and move foward

but i tend to chat in a different chat area where no pics are shown and its the same i don't think its the image its that Those types try it with all

if you enjoy your pic on your profile show your beautiful outside as well as the inside....the Trash will be taken out in good time

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 2:50:57 PM

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Ehhh, i get hit on all the time too. In the VERY first line of my profile it states quite clearly that i am Owned. It makes no difference. I have no intentions of taking my pics down...i am proud of them...more importantly, Thorns is proud of them. I have no interest in leaving Thorns for another...no interest in cheating on Him...no interest in phone sex..cybering with others...We are in this as Life Partners and yet, i STILL get the questions. *chucklez* Hell, no One compares or even comes close to who Thorns is. I am fiercely Devoted to The Man.
I very much enjoy chatting with others here. I get e-mails and politely reply to them....that is what happens when you are online. It happens here, it happens everywhere you go. You just have to sift threw and move on. Don't let the pixels get you down! *grinz*

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/17/2004 6:07:11 PM

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Well said smilezz! I am sure you make your Master very proud!

My sub also has very clearly stated in VERY BIG LETTERS, that she is collared and not seeking anything but good conversation with people that come to her with respect, and intelligence.
She still gets idiots that have obviously not read her profile responding to her because she is local to them, or they liked her photos. I am damn proud of her photos, and will not allow ignorant people to set the rules of what she will post, or show.
Her profile also states that all emails of an dishonorable nature are forwarded to me, and when I contact these buffoons, they sheepishly apologize, and crawl back under the rock they came from.
We cannot, and should not allow these cretins to control what you want to show, use the block feature, and just be proud of who, and what you are!

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/18/2004 5:32:25 AM

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:P Well I could try and be positive about it and consider it a compliment to my sub that some are so riveted by her picture that they turn into mindless jerk offs hehe. LOL , I can picture the drooling now,, the saliva trickling, frothing at the corner of their mouths as they send their post :P Their hands on the slippery side as they struggle to be the one handed typist, accounting for the many typos and surely the lack of content :P

There, I feel much better now that I have put it all into perspective

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/18/2004 11:16:54 PM

TaurusMCMLVIII

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quote:

You'll always get those like that. I wouldn't remove my pic though. It's the same when a person first joins.

I agree. It's a shame that you felt "forced" to remove your pic. I know it was a nuisance to get all those emails but perhaps you can view it as a compliment. I know this doesn't help with the effort needed to delete all the emails but is deletion really that hard? A few clicks can remove a thousand emails quickly and easily. On the other hand, being a male Dominant, I've never had that problem on the scale that you have experienced.

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/19/2004 3:17:20 AM

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In my profile I will clearly state whether I am with a Mistress or available.
I also am very, very clear about being a Lesbian, and very clear of what i am looking for and needing in relation to a Mistress.
I still get not only lots of E-mail from Dom's but also Bi-Dommes, and that happens many times when I state I am involved and not available.
Go Fig????
Like people have said I think sometimes they just see your name and contact you without looking at your profile at all.
TSK-TSK!

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RE: So much for my Pic - 11/19/2004 5:04:49 AM

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Not all Doms are like that but this is a public place so yeah a lot of "Trolls" lurking about here also.

i changed my profile for kinda the same reason, i don't post my pic for other reasons but i do state now in my profile i am not looking for the simple fact that the "HNGs" drove me insane! It states in my profile if you want to get to know me forum is the best place for that and i have meet some Great Doms in forum here and i can see what they are like and who they are "inside" before hand. Some i have e-mailed first and others have e-mailed me first. i don't troll the forum or ask for a relationship but i have made friends here in the forum and for me i think all great relationships starts as friends. Haven't found that "perfect true" Dom for me yet but many great friends.

i do agree with Myra, if you want your pic -- put it up! Just reword your profile... Be more specific on what your looking for... state maybe your not looking for "sex" but friends...

*LOL* happypervert had a funny translation of my profile.... Even so it says i am not looking He said it seems how it is written i want "true" Doms to write but just weeding out the trolls and i do still get e-mails but just not as many as before. *think i've changed it since then*

Well Best of luck!

JMO
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